How to Avoid the Trauma Bonding TRAP in Relationships ft. Natalia Rachel

This week I’m sharing how making friends in motherhood had me feeling like an alien. BUT, in a beautiful turn of events, I’m finding my way. I’ve shifted, and as a result, everything around me shifted too. In this episode, I’m sharing how my childhood Lisa got in the way, TRAPS to avoid when making new friends, and top actionable tips for finding your tribe.   The Truthiest Life on Instagram: @thetruthiestlife Host: @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts!     Guest submissions, please fill out this form HERE!   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

At around 2 years old, I realized my daughter was no longer a baby. Melt downs without reason, less naps for “me time”, and a tiny brain that was sucking in all of its surroundings – I felt lost and exhausted and overwhelmed by the fact that I now had a very impressionable tiny human. Fortunately this was the summer I took off all work and used this time to explore, read, learn, and listen to all sorts of philosophies. Turns out, all I was missing was TOOLS and a philosophy that suits me. I now find toddler-parenting (exhausting at times of course!!), but also so joyful, cool, empowering - and dare I say healing.    In this episode I share 14 changes I’ve made that have really helped the entire house be happier and emotionally healthier.     I hope you enjoy :)    Follow Janet Lansbury: Website: janetlansbury.com Podcast: Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled Book: A Guide to Respectful Parenting   Hunt Gather Parent   Mind Body Mentorship (March 2024)   Instagram: The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lisa shares the details of her new mindfulness and somatic March offering, MindBody Mentorship.   She spills: The BTS of creating a program - chaos included How she channels ideas into programs  Why she abandons a lot of ideas The personal inspiration for this program, why its a mentorship specifically, the purpose of emphasizing the nervous system, and more.    Become a member HERE!   Note: This is just for the month of March, does not auto-renew.   Instagram: The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi everyone! It’s been a *minute* – 6 months to be exact since my last episode.   I’m popping on today to share with you: My future on social media What I’ve been up to professionally, personally, spiritually Why my intended 3-month break went a lot longer than expected The impact of 6 months without using ANY social media Being okay with being misunderstood  My plans for the future :)  Motherhood: health advocacy, parenting style shifts My NEW approach to sharing my daughter and family online The 2024 version of me you can expect   I’ll also be answering questions submitted in response to my recent newsletter on Substack, which is the the platform I plan on using the most for now.   Join my Substack family to keep in touch and be the first to know about my offerings including my upcoming retreat!! https://lisahayim.substack.com/   Bracelets to support Margaret   Support Shanna and Levi HERE   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For my 35th birthday, I wanted to bring you something different. Share a part of myself you’ve probably never seen before — which is me when I’m with my best friends. Geri has been my best friend for 25 years, and when she met Lulu, her wife, I gained another best friend.  I always understand myself better after being with them — this convo will have you laughing, thinking in new ways about all things life, relationships, and social media, and hopefully, adding a new dimension to how you see me.     I sincerely hope you feel like you’re just hanging out with your best friends in your own home while listening to this episode!  <3    In this convo, we spill:  - Social media trends: why they became a creative block to Lisa’s inspiration - Why Lisa can share without tripping herself up about how it will read in the future   - Cancel Culture: would it be that bad?  - Social Sharing: can we be present if we’re documenting?  - Unpopular opinions the three of us hold: funny, thought-provoking, and hypocritical - Health technology: is it making us healthy? - Boundaries: why Lisa lays them on thick AND  thinks they don’t need to be verbally explained  - Lisa’s traditional life choices: would she reconsider? Instagram: The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Carolyn Brown, MS, RD, is back on TTL to share about her latest venture as a nomad — traveling across the globe while taking her business (and clients) with her.    She spills: * Why you’re only a few choices away from a different life * Indigo Health: the business she co-created with her sister and the impact they’re making on women’s health * Unpopular opinions: why she’s no longer afraid to speak them * Bloating: when it’s normal vs. a cause of concern * Health + Botox: can the two exist in the same sentence? * Romantic Partnership + Conflict: learning to stay present * Ceremonial Psychedelics: what this is, and what it does to the brain’s neural pathways * The Hoffman Institute: why this helped her get the most clarity    Follow Carolyn on Instagram: @carolynbrownie Follow Indigo Health on Instagram: @indigowellnessgroup   The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Samantha Spills: How she grew their homemade cookie company into a multimillion-dollar company without investors or raising outside money  Why their unique approach to “profits” allowed them to build a business from their heart Value Clarification: how staying close to your values can help you build your unique business Why they eventually sold to the largest bakery business in the world, the pleasant surprises that came with it, and how they retain control over the product and its manufacturing Burnout: her physical symptoms and path to healing her mind, physical body, and soul How to end a romantic partnership when you still have a lot of love for the partner  Follow Samantha: @samanthaabrams_ Check out her website:https://www.samanthaabrams.com/ follow Emmy's: @emmysorganics Check out their website: https://emmysorganics.com/pages/welcome-offer for a welcome offer. The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jessica Stone is a channel, Reiki Master, and teacher in all things tarot and expanding your human potential. She’s MAGICAL, and Lisa’s go-to “card puller” when everything feels uncertain and she needs to reconnect with her subconscious self.     This conversation is energetically powerful – so buckle up!    Jess spills: Tarot Cards: how tapping into our intuition works How her childhood trauma was the gateway to channeling her “guides” Spiritual Motherhood: How to live in flow as a mother and entrepreneur How motherhood can free you OR consume you How to swap trying to “heal” or “fix” with self-acceptance  Why Jess thinks “manifestation” doesn’t work What channeling actually is and who can do it  Her relationship with “ANA,” a visitor from the future who shares what it holds   Learn More about her new course Soul Led Life! https://jessicastoneco.com/soulledlife   Follow Jess: https://www.instagram.com/jessicastone_co/?hl=en   Instagram: The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursails  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Natalia Rachel is the founder of Iluma Health and author of “Why am I Like This?” As a therapist, she believes that the root of healing the world begins with healing our own trauma.     Natalia spills: - The impact trauma has on our relationships and how we take in the world  - Why trauma isn’t about what happened but rather how it’s left “unmetabolized” by our bodies - Missed symptoms of having “less easy to spot” trauma - Her unpopular opinion of why knowing your personality type can be a danger to your evolution - The dangers of allowing a diagnosis to become your identity - Trauma Bonding: what is it and how does it impact intimacy - Why we often feel repulsed by people who are “good” for us but attracted to those who are “bad” for us - Why we can’t rush embodiment and why “healing” for too long can be harmful - How popular self-help advice can perpetuate shame and be more harmful than helpful  - and more….  Amazon link to Natalia's book: Why Am I like This?: Illuminating the traumatized self    Human Intelligence Leadership Program  Module 1 will be happening in U.S.A this year. Dates: Friday, 29 September 2023 to Sunday, 1 October 2023, in the Location: U.S.A., Austin Texas (Casa de Luz).  To register for module 1, click HERE   Instagram: @natalia_rachel_change   The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lisa is back from hosting her first retreat- aka, the METREAT. She brought 20+ people to Guatemala for a once in a lifetime experience– no lie! In the first hour a volcano erupted causing an emergency evacuation and “plan b” to go into effect. Just like that, her 50 page “run of show” handbook went up in flames and the direction of the METREAT was out of her control. But, somehow, it all worked out magically!     Lisa spills: Why Lisa created the METREAT How to plan a retreat with absolutely no experience  Why the obstacles and not going the easy route made it incredibly special ALLLL the things that went wrong and how we chose resilience in the face of potential ruin Her FAVORITE most stand out parts  The importance of JOY when healing And the major life lessons she learned in just a few short days.  Instagram: Follow @the.metreat on Instagram! The Truthiest Life on Instagram @thetruthiestlife Host @lisahayim   To support TTL, subscribe, follow, or share episodes with family and friends!    If you’re loving TTL, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truthiest-life/id1535516122?uo=2   Guest submissions, please fill out this form: https://thewellnecessities.typeform.com/to/pODTLasN   Edited by Houston Tilley Intro Jingle by Alyssa Chase aka @findyoursailsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.