Am I too picky?

Have you ever wondered if maybe your lack of success in finding Mr. or zMs right has more to do with you than those you choose? It is a not uncommon question and in this episode Alvean and Doug take it on with some definitive suggestions as to how to recognize how you may be helping or hurting your chances for an enduring relationship.  A full transcript can be found here: LL07

Breaking up is hard to do or so the song lyrics say.  But there are ways to part that can spare both parties the worst pain and ongoing consequences.  In this episode Alvean and Doug talk about breaking up with dignity and compassion.  For more and a full transcript click here: LL06

Have you ever heard someone say that a relationship was fated–as if in some way we are part of God’s dating service?  Is there any truth to this idea or is it just a way we rationalize what we ourselves decided?  In this episode, Alvean and Doug take up the question with some surprising observations. A full transcript can be found here: LL05

Movies and TV talk about real love, meaningful relationships but what exactly does that look like? We know that the model held up to us is an ideal, probably not what we have experienced.  In this episode Alvean and Doug offer some thoughts on how to know whether your experience is in fact real love. A full transcript is offered here:LL04

Can the act of loving expand our capacity to love?  In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss what we really experience when we fully and unselfishly give our hearts away to another.  A full transcript is available here: LL03

Consciously or otherwise most of us choose models for living, for parenting, in our relationships and work.  Who you choose says a great deal about your values and moral compass, but also defines the version of yourself you wish to show the world.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about how we model ourselves on others and why.  A full transcript can be found here: LL02

Hear how Alvean and Doug –a seemingly unlikelly pair found each other and began their partnership in LoveLife. LL01-

One of the more difficult personalities to navigate is the passive aggressive partner.  At best they are nondisclosive leaving one with more questions than answers as to what they are thinking or behaving.  At worst they can sabotage a relationship or leave their partner whipsawed by emotional swings that seemingly come out of thin air but actually betray hidden emotions and disguised reactions.  In the episode, Alvean and Doug take on this difficult subject and offer suggestions for how best to recognize and handle passive aggressive behavior. For a full transcript, click here: 68-The Passive-Aggressive Partner

Perhaps no invention of the 21st century has had a more profound impact on relationships than social media.  Part of the challenge is that it tends to place relationships under a microscope for all the world to see while heightening the emotional stakes greatly.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug try to bring a reality check for listeners who find themselves in the midst of a unfolding drama that perhaps they did not bargain for.  For a full transcript, click here: 64-Relationships and Social Media

Somer see it as a blessing while others may be fearful or feel unprepared.  Parenthood is in some ways the last of the unskilled occupations, one we are seldom prepared for but children are both more resilient and forgiving of our inevitable mistakes as long as we keep love at the forefront of all that we do.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug help listeners find that path.  For a full transcript, click here: 65-Parenthood