Episode 143: Overcoming the need to please others

As an adult, you can create new holiday traditions and shake off the past. With the holidays only days away, what are your current holiday traditions and what new traditions can you create so that you have a healthier and happier holiday season?   Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

In this week's episode, we'll go through three common situations where you might fall into the role of a "people pleaser."  The good news is that there is a path out of such difficult problems. Let's work together and learn how we can better our lives and stop pleasing others. Our needs are valid! Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

If we carry hatred and the need for revenge with us, eventually it'll consume us, and we might even become what we despise. Why do we carry grudges from our childhood? How does our carrying this burden affect our current relationships? What can we do to deal with these emotions and find peace and happiness? Let's learn together as I share my story and the mistakes I've made along the way. Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

When you're struggling with feeling hopeless, what can you do? Doomscrolling won't solve your problems and neither will ignoring what's going on in the world around you. As our world has become increasing chaotic and unpredictable, how can we deal with feelings of hopelessness? Remember, if you're struggling and need professional help, please reach out and get the help you need. The world needs you. Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

What do the words "I'm sorry" really mean? Do they hold weight if there is no behavioral change from the person doing the apology? In a world where toxic masculinity is having a resurgence, how can you protect yourself against false flag apologies and people's attempt to emotional manipulate you with the words "I'm sorry"? Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

Stop doomscrolling, don't play into others goading you, set boundaries, focus on self-care, and have a plan. Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

What's the reason behind wanting to be in control? Does it make us feel safe, powerful, or protective? In this episode, we'll talk through the reasons behind what control/manipulation really means and ways to change. Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

In this episode, we'll talk through some practical ways to deal with anxiety and stress: Sleep Meditation Yoga Exercise Be creative (write, draw, sculpt, sing) Music Do something (volunteer and help others) Be thankful for what you do have Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

In this week's episode, we'll reflect on the final step: Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Reflections: When we reflect on how we're behaving now, are we better at choosing who we want to develop relationships with? Are we more aware and have stopped trying to control others? Are we focusing more on self-care and are using the skills we learned to help our inner child? Have we stopped looking for acceptance from others and truly love ourselves for who we are? Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.

Trust can be hard for those of us who grew up in a dysfunctional family. We might be stuck in the past and find it hard to trust in the present. However, we might also might struggle with trusting too quickly (and with people who are not healthy for us). What we can focus on is: Understanidng our memories from the past and processing them. Let go of trying to control the past by reproducing similar situations in the present. Learn how to trust ourselves.  Interested in reading a retelling of the Cinderella fairy tale through the eye of Cinderella having grown up in a dysfunctional family? Pick up the free book: Lost: Cinderella's secret Witch Diaries (book 1).  Support the Podcast: Join the Let Go and Be Free family to support the show (for a coffee a month, you can keep the podcast going and get extra perks) and get the members only extra monthly podcast episode. Purchase one of the Let Go and Be Free books (volume 1, volume 2, volume 3, and volume 4) or 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Like or leave a positive review wherever you listen to the podcast. More Information: Subscribe to the weekly newsletter to get additional help and support the podcast.