Retiring from kinky sex with Brontez Purnell

Why is finding someone I’m attracted to so hard? Are we ready to adopt? I want him to be a better kisser!    This week, the one and only Bob the Drag Queen answers your questions with Myisha for our season finale! The two talk about the importance of exploring your attraction and how to ask for the perfect kiss. Plus, Bob shares how a Grindr hook up turned into an instant connection.  Follow Bob the Drag Queen: @bobthedragqueen Pre-order Bob’s new book, Harriet Tubman: Live in Concert  Stay in touch with Myisha! Read her Real Love column for TIME, explore her Better Sex E-Zine, or follow her on Instagram @myishabattle   For a transcript of this episode, visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I want to leave my partner, but I feel guilty! When will I know I’m over my breakup? How do I find monogamous relationships as a gay man?  Luke Franchina is the internet’s favorite bestie. This week, he joins Myisha to talk about knowing when to leave a relationship and healing from a breakup. Plus, Luke shares what he learned about himself through his divorce.   Resources mentioned in this episode:  Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller  The Relationship Cure by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire    Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Luke Franchina: @lukefranchina   📩 Want sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode.   For a transcript of this episode, visit kcrw.com/sexlife

How do I leave my cheating partner? Will I ever find love? Is there intimacy in non-monogamy?  Brandon Kyle Goodman returns to the show to help us get through this messy election week and to talk about their new podcast, Tell Me Something Messy. Myisha and Brandon get into why research is your friend in non-monogamy and how sexual liberation isn’t linear. Plus, Brandon shares what non-monogamy has taught them about love.  Tell Me Something Messy is part of iHeartMedia’s Outspoken Podcast Network. New episodes air weekly on Thursdays.   📩 Want sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode.    Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Brandon: @brandonkylegoodman    For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife  

How do I talk dirty? Are people actually having safe oral sex? How can I explore dating and sexuality in my 60s? Dr. Carol Queen is an author, sex-positive activist, and the staff sexologist at Good Vibes. This week she joins Myisha to take on your questions about dirty talk, anilingus, and exploring dating and sexuality in your 60s. Plus, hear which of your dating horror stories left us truly mortified. 👻   Resources mentioned in this episode:  Naked at Our Age by Joan Price Exhibitionism for the Shy by Carol Queen   Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Find Dr. Carol Queen at Good Vibes    📩 Want sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode.   For a transcript of this episode, visit kcrw.com/sexlife

Does listening to music during sex actually change the experience? I’m meeting my bestie’s boyfriend for the first time! Should I give up on dating?  Dylan Tupper Rupert explores the world of the Sunset Strip's most legendary rock n’ roll groupies in the newest season of KCRW’s Lost Notes. She joins Myisha to talk sex playlists and why she says f*** the dating scene. Plus, Dylan shares the dating mishap that still haunts her.  Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Dylan: @yaydylan Check out KCRW’s Lost Notes: Groupies on your favorite podcast app! 📩 Need advice about sex or dating? Drop us an email at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode and we'll keep you anonymous.   For a transcript of this episode, visit kcrw.com/sexlife

Am I just another scary straight guy? How do I find pleasure in a world that feels devastating? I’m yearning for intimacy! adrienne maree brown is an author and activist. Their latest book Loving Corrections is about the importance of holding people and systems accountable to create honest relationships. adrienne joins Myisha to talk about why men shouldn’t solely rely on other men for dating advice and yearning for connection.   Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow adrienne maree brown: @adriennemareebrown P.S. This spooky season we want to hear all about your worst dates! Drop us an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might feature your story on the show, you get to vent, and we'll keep you anonymous. It's a win win! For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

My partner isn’t interested in sex. My husband’s political views turn me off! How do I explain to my family that I’m nonbinary?  Tuck Woodstock explores the vast diversity of trans experiences on his podcast Gender Reveal. He joins Myisha to talk about navigating a conversation around sex when your partner is asexual. Plus, Tuck shares all the times his crushes have fizzled out.  P.S. What's the worst date you've ever been on? This spooky season we want to hear all about your bad dates. Share your story with us by dropping an email or voice memo at [email protected] and we might feature it on the show. You'll get to vent and we'll keep you anonymous. It's a win win!   Follow Myisha on Instagram: @myishabattle Check out Gender Reveal on your favorite podcast app! For a full transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife 

Have you ever been catfished on a date, ghosted, or worse? This month we want to hear your dating horror stories. Drop us an email or voice memo at [email protected] and we might feature it on the show. We’ll keep you anonymous.  

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them? Do I tell the guy I’m seeing that I had an OnlyFans? Is it time to leave my relationship? Jordan Gonsalves hosts But We Loved, a podcast that dives into queer history through conversations with LGBTQ+ elders. Jordan joins Myisha to talk about crushes on friends and toxic relationships. Plus, Jordan shares his dating horror story. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle Follow Jordan: @jor_gonsalves Check out But We Loved on your favorite podcast app. For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I love kinky sex, but I need a break! Is faking an orgasm evil or generous? How do I get my libido back?  Author Brontez Purnell writes about sex and queerness. His book ‘100 Boyfriends’ was awarded the 2022 Lambda Literary Award in Gay Fiction. Brontez joins Myisha to talk kinky sex in midlife and if it’s ever okay to fake an orgasm. Plus, Brontez shares what he doesn’t tolerate in relationships. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at [email protected]. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Brontez: @brontezpurnell For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife