176. The Two Things Children Actually Need, Signs You Didn't Get These, & How To Reparent Yourself

Please join me in welcoming Meg Young to the podcast, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in trauma therapy, anxiety relief, and burnout recovery for helping professionals! In this conversation, Kayla Fite and Meg Young discuss the complexities of trauma therapy, particularly focusing on the experiences of first responders. They explore the importance of validation in therapy, the role of EMDR in trauma recovery, and the limitations of traditional talk therapy. The discussion emphasizes the need for community engagement and the significance of creating safe spaces for individuals to express their feelings and experiences. The conversation also explores anxiety, body-based tools for healing, and the connection between burnout and emotional well-being. Takeaways Validation is crucial for individuals experiencing trauma. EMDR is an effective technique for processing trauma. Trauma can be a buildup of experiences, not just personal events. Therapy provides a safe space for individuals to express their feelings. The body holds onto trauma, which can affect mental health. Understanding triggers involves recognizing physical sensations. Emotional safety is as important as physical safety. Body-based tools can help manage anxiety effectively. Burnout is closely linked to emotional well-being and requires attention. Healing involves understanding the body's signals and responses. Keywords trauma therapy, EMDR, first responders, mental health, validation, community events, burnout recovery, nervous system education, therapy techniques, anxiety relief, triggers, emotional responses, awareness, acceptance, acknowledgment, fear of rejection, vagus nerve, body-based healing, emotional safety, childhood experiences, anxiety, burnout Work with Meg Young Buy her book: Anxiety Unraveled --- This episode is sponsored by Activations! Energizing Audios guaranteed to motivate and inspire you. Get 14 days FREE + a MASSIVE discount when you activations.com/habits --- If you're loving these episodes subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're needing the perfect blend of motivation and visualization, go to activations.com/habits to claim your 14 day free trial + listen to this episode with the founder of the transformational app making waves in the personal development space! In this enlightening conversation, Kayla and Mimi Bouchard, founder of Activations, discuss the transformative power of habits and self-image in personal development. Mimi shares her journey from struggling with unhealthy habits to creating the Activations app, a unique approach to visualization that combines guided imagery with cinematic music. They explore the science behind activations, the importance of embodying one's future self, and the role of acceptance and responsibility in personal growth. Takeaways Activations are a unique blend of visualization and music. Meditation focuses on stillness, while activations energize and inspire. The body plays a crucial role in personal development. Acceptance and responsibility are key to transformation. Being your future self now accelerates personal growth. Clarity about your future self is essential for change. Everyone has the potential to create their desired life. Healing can be a joyful and fun experience. Keywords habits, personal development, self-image, visualization, activations, neuroscience, manifestation, abundance, future self, personal growth Follow Mimi HERE Get Mimi's book HERE Follow Activations HERE 14 Days FREE + a discount HERE --- To try Activations FREE for 14 days plus get a massive discount on the yearly subscription, go to www.activations.com/habits. (you'll only get the discount through the link, not the app!) --- If you're loving these episodes subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready to incorporate a life-changing habit into your day - without needing extra time! In this episode, Kayla Fite shares the concept of reparenting oneself, explaining its significance in emotional health and personal growth. Kayla provides practical steps for listeners to begin their own reparenting journey, emphasizing the importance of self-validation, setting boundaries, and creating a nurturing environment for oneself. Takeaways Reparenting oneself is crucial for emotional health. Self-awareness is key to understanding unmet childhood needs. Setting boundaries is essential for self-respect. Creating routines can foster a sense of safety. Inner child work involves connecting with your younger self. You can give yourself the love and validation you missed as a child. Reparenting is a practice that takes time and consistency. Healing your inner child can positively impact future generations. Keywords self-awareness, emotional health, reparenting, inner child, personal growth, therapy, boundaries, self-validation, mental health, emotional intelligence --- This episode is sponsored by Air Doctor Pro! Go to www.airdoctorpro.com and use code HABITS to save up to $384 on the best air purifier on the market! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who is... human <3 Kayla discusses the essential emotional needs of children: authenticity and attachment. She explains how these two pillars are crucial for emotional health and how their absence can lead to various struggles in adulthood. She covers the importance of recognizing one's own childhood experiences, healing through reparenting, and practical steps to foster these qualities in oneself and in parenting. Lastly, Kayla emphasizes that it's never too late to address these needs and offers actionable advice for listeners. Takeaways Children need authenticity and attachment for emotional health. Attachment provides safety and unconditional love. Authenticity allows children to express themselves freely. Lack of these needs can lead to insecurity and disconnection. Healing is possible at any age through reparenting. Practicing authenticity can be done in small steps. Parents should encourage emotional expression in children. Apologizing to children teaches them about humility and repair. Breaking generational patterns is essential for healthy parenting. Keywords emotional health, parenting, attachment, authenticity, self-improvement, inner child, emotional needs, personal growth, mental health, reparenting References: Secure Attachment Episode w/ Morgan McNeill (find the three other episodes on secure attachment in the show notes of this episode) To Be Magnetic (inner child healing work I do) ---- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In This HYL Bitesize Episode... Kayla explores the profound impact of our lives on future generations and how we are shaped by those who came before us. She emphasizes that our thoughts, choices, and healing extend beyond ourselves, affecting seven generations back and forward. She highlights the importance of breaking generational patterns and trauma, and how healing can create a legacy of love and safety for future descendants. Kayla encourages listeners to view their healing journey as a collective responsibility, not just for themselves but for those they will never meet. Takeaways You are a culmination of the last seven generations. Your life doesn't just start with you. Your thoughts and choices impact future generations. You can stop inherited patterns and trauma. Trauma behaviors can be passed through DNA. Healing can also be inherited. You are the bridge between past and future generations. Healing is a collective responsibility. Your legacy can create a safer world for future descendants. Keywords generational healing, impact, legacy, trauma, emotional wounds, healing, mindset, purpose, lineage, self-discovery -- ⁠⁠Apply to work with Kayla Here⁠⁠ Limited Spots Available NOW! Follow Kayla for more inspiration: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠ Collab with her ⁠⁠⁠HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your life look “good” on paper, but internally, you’re still anxious, still restless, and still trying to prove something to yourself or to someone else? Do you feel like no matter what you accomplish, you can never arrive at that deep sense of peace? Then listen and share this episode with someone you know feels the same. In this important episode, Kayla explores the psychological underpinnings of why many women equate achievement with self-worth and how this can lead to anxiety and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and shifting the focus from external validation to internal safety and self-acceptance. Through practical insights and reflective practices, she encourages listeners to redefine success and embrace stillness as a path to healing. Takeaways Moms often feel a push and pull between their roles and personal ambitions. The pressure to achieve can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations. Success is often equated with love and validation, leading to a cycle of anxiety. Hypervigilance in childhood can lead to adult behaviors of overachievement and anxiety. Recognizing the need for safety over success is crucial for mental well-being. It's important to separate self-worth from achievements and external validation. Practicing stillness and self-acceptance can help rewire the nervous system. Redefining success as alignment with one's true self can lead to fulfillment. Acknowledging the discomfort of rest is a step towards healing. Building a sense of internal safety is essential for personal growth. Keywords motherhood, identity, success, safety, mental health, personal growth, achievement, self-worth, nervous system, self-care References: Episode 167 with Becky Aste: When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough Apply now for Kayla's High Level Coaching Program "From Patterns to Power" ⁠(Limited spots open) --- This episode is sponsored by AirDoctorPro! Go to ⁠www.airdoctorpro.com⁠ and use code HABITS to get up to $300 OFF + a FREE three year warranty! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your repeating loops are not bad luck! In this episode, Kayla explores the reasons why individuals, particularly women, find themselves in repetitive cycles of unhealthy relationships, financial struggles, and self-doubt. She emphasizes that these patterns stem from subconscious beliefs and unhealed wounds, urging listeners to recognize their worth and break free from these cycles. The conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, reprogramming beliefs, and embracing a mindset of abundance and love. Takeaways You attract what you believe you deserve. Your brain is a record of the past. Subconscious identity can be tied to struggle. Confusing love with lack leads to unhealthy relationships. Unprocessed shame can sabotage opportunities. Trusting safety in the new is crucial for growth. You are both the problem and the solution. Keywords relationships, self-worth, subconscious beliefs, emotional patterns, healing, money beliefs, self-love, personal growth, identity, abundance ⁠Apply to work with Kayla Here⁠⁠ Limited Spots Available NOW! Follow Kayla for more inspiration: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠ Collab with her ⁠⁠⁠HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Emotional neglect from parents or caregivers quietly erodes the foundation of mental, relational, and even spiritual health." In this episode, Kayla briefly touches on the often overlooked topic of emotional neglect, particularly in childhood. She shares her personal journey of recognizing the impact of emotional neglect on her life and discusses the signs that indicate someone may be suffering from it. Kayla emphasizes the importance of emotional tools and parenting, and how these elements shape our adult lives. She offers insights into healing from emotional neglect and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences.takeaways Emotional neglect can leave deep, invisible scars. Many people don't realize they are suffering from emotional neglect. Emotional neglect is about what wasn't provided, not what was done. Children need emotional support just as much as physical care Healing involves reparenting oneself and addressing unmet emotional needs. Keywords emotional neglect, childhood trauma, mental health, self-awareness, emotional tools, healing, personal growth, relationships, parenting, emotional intelligence ⁠Apply to work with Kayla Here⁠⁠ Limited Spots Available NOW! Follow Kayla for more inspiration: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠ Collab with her ⁠⁠⁠HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if.. You're in the middle of healing patterns, relationships, and deep wounds and it feels heavy, scary, and uncertain. Maybe you're losing friends, leaving situations, or questioning your entire identity. That means.. you're on the right track. Just know on the other side of healing is your power. Keep going! Keywords personal transformation, self-improvement, coaching, motivation, life changes, purpose, accountability, investment in self, parenting, mindset shift -- ⁠Apply to work with Kayla Here⁠ Limited Spots Available NOW! Follow Kayla for more inspiration: ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠ Collab with her ⁠⁠HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Moms, soon-to-be moms, and hopeful moms.. you need to listen to this episode! In this conversation, Kayla and Stefanie explore the profound impact of inner healing on parenting and generational patterns. They discuss the journey of self-discovery, the role of trauma in health, and the importance of emotional awareness. Stefanie shares her personal experiences with autoimmune disease and how she broke free from victimhood to reclaim her health. The discussion highlights the significance of motherhood in healing one's inner child and the responsibility parents have in shaping their children's emotional well-being. They emphasize that healing is an ongoing process and that small, conscious choices can lead to significant changes in life and parenting. Takeaways Inner healing reflects in our parenting. Generational patterns can be broken through self-awareness. Crying is a natural and healing response. Motherhood brings empathy and understanding for our own parents. Healing is not linear; it is an ongoing journey. You are both the problem and the solution in your life. Children learn by mirroring their parents' behaviors. Emotional neglect in childhood can have lasting effects. You only need to get it right 45% of the time as a parent. Your child is your generational wealth, and how you treat them matters. Keywords Inner healing, generational patterns, motherhood, trauma, autoimmune disease, self-awareness, emotional health, parenting, healing journey, self-discovery Follow Stefani Here for more inspiration on motherhood, healing, water, and more! Apply now for Kayla's High Level Coaching Program "From Patterns to Power" (Limited spots open) --- This episode is sponsored by AirDoctorPro! Go to www.airdoctorpro.com and use code HABITS to get up to $300 OFF + a FREE three year warranty! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices