207. The How To Be Dateable One ft. Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Avocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com.Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHHappy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comFactor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Ross: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Bellesa: SILENT VIBRATOR GIVEAWAY: https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/findingmrheight-podcastRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHFactor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to highlight more about our relationship in future episodes, including with him as a guest!).This week’s media mention comes from Josh Lora, @tellthebeees on TikTok and IG, discussing The Cut’s article “My Friends Abandoned Me When They Had Kids.”Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 12.If you'd like to hear my personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nicknames from before FMH as you know it existed and chat about a strategy I recently learned for managing overthinking!Trigger warning: I discuss grief/loss throughout the episode, beginning around minute 15, and briefly discuss SA around minute 27 lasting for 35 minutes (both are called out verbally before they are mentioned).This week’s media mention comes from episode 11 of Felix Levine’s podcast, Unlike Me, and the clip is posted to his TikTok @felixlevine.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHCheck out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving forward, and more. Erica, we will miss you SO much. We love you!Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Factor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHOur Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose responsibility it is to wake themselves up in the morning.In Updates, Erica is still traveling and reflects on her communication and connection with The Roommate while she’s been gone. Ali celebrates Valentine’s Day with Skyline and the gals reminisce about Valentine’s Days past.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHApostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Factor: Head to factormeals.com/factorpodcast and use code fmh50off to get 50% off.Life Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigating friends’ feelings about it, texting with someone who canceled a first date, feeling anxious when you haven’t heard from someone you’re dating, admitting romantic feelings for a friend, deciding whether to pay for dating apps, and navigating your partner’s friendship with an ex.In Updates, Erica sees The Roommate twice (!!) before she leaves for the east coast. Ali celebrates a major accomplishment with Mama J.Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Life Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage and into the dating journey that followed his divorce. He takes us through all the lessons he’s learned along the way (and some intense stories) as he worked on himself to lead to his current, healthy partnership (and new baby!).In Updates, Erica recaps her long-awaited first date with The Roommate and reflects on how her upcoming travel could impact their connection. Ali is excited to have Skyline on the Patreon for the first time, but is dealing with some medical issues.Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.Timestamps: Justin joins us at around minute 25.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Bellesa: FREE TOYS OR GIFT CARDS FOR TOYS! Everyone who signs up to our giveaway with Bellesa wins something! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/findingmrheight-podcastLife Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHApostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these archetypes have shaped their dating journeys and give advice on how listeners can make their type work for them (plus what pitfalls to look out for).But first, Ali & Erica discuss the upcoming Valentine’s Day holiday and how they’ve approached it in the past. Plus, Ali recaps her January surprise date with Skyline and Erica looks forward to her first date with The Roommate.Where to find Julie & Yue: On the Dateable podcast and on Instagram @dateablepodcast. Order their book, How To Be Datable for more from this episode!Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.Timestamps: Julie & Yue joins us at around minute 24.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Life Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups, and managing expectations for a second date.In Updates, Ali is back from her travels and recounts some special & emotional memories from introducing Skyline to her San Diego people. Erica looks forward to the roommate date when she returns to LA.Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 46.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHLife Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Our Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMH* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy