Tenderoni Hotline #3: Why Boundaries Feel So Hard + Why You Keep Procrastinating

#349: Your partner twists your words, denies what happened, and somehow you walk away from conversations feeling like the villain. If you're dealing with an emotionally immature partner, this pattern might feel painfully familiar.Living with an emotionally immature partner can feel like trying to navigate a wilderness without a compass, where your reasonable needs get labeled as "too sensitive" and your reality gets constantly questioned. Whether you're planning to stay and work on things or gathering strength to leave, you need practical tools to preserve your sanity and sense of self while navigating this challenging dynamic.Tune in this week as I provide concrete strategies for grounding yourself when conversations spiral, building an internal validation system, and setting boundaries that protect your nervous system. You'll learn how to stop chasing clarity from someone who doesn't want to understand, recognize signs of genuine growth capacity, and assess the real costs to your wellbeing.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/349Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Tenderoni Hotline #3: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care. In today’s episode, we’re exploring why setting boundaries can feel so hard, and why guilt often floods in after you finally speak your truth. We’ll talk about the deep nervous system wiring that makes boundaries feel threatening, especially if you were raised to believe that love means self-sacrifice. You’ll learn how your biology, past experiences, and systemic conditioning all collide to make boundary-setting feel unsafe, even when you know it’s the right thing. We’re also unpacking why you procrastinate, even on things that matter deeply to you. Spoiler alert: it’s not about laziness. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from real or perceived danger. You’ll learn how freeze shows up, how perfectionism fuels it, and what gentle, practical tools can help you shift from stuck to self-led. This work is compassionate, science-backed, and deeply honoring of your lived experience. Because you deserve to set boundaries without betrayal, take action without fear, and build a life rooted in your own nervous system safety and self-trust. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

#348: If you feel like you’re going crazy in your relationship, where simple conversations turn into confusing battles where you’re somehow always wrong, you might be dealing with an emotionally immature partner. Join me this week as I dive into the signs and impact of being in a relationship with an emotionally immature person. You’ll learn the key signs of emotional immaturity in relationships, how it affects your nervous system, and the connection between childhood experiences and current relationship patterns. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells in your relationship, or constantly questioning your reality, this episode is for you. And make sure to tune in next week for part 2, where we'll discuss practical strategies for dealing with emotional immaturity in relationships.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/348Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

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In this free, final workshop of the series, you'll learn how to make nervous system change actually last, how to stop backsliding when life gets chaotic, and how to create the kind of internal safety that sustains healing long term. It's happening on Wednesday, May 28, at 8pm eastern on Zoom. Click here to grab your spot: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastP.S. If you missed the other workshops in the series, there are limited-time replays available!

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same old patterns, no matter how much work you put into changing? Join me for this free, four-part workshop series on May 7, May 14, May 21, and May 28 where I’ll dive deep into why your nervous system keeps pulling you back into people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependent habits. Learn how to break free from these patterns using the powerful tools of neuroscience, somatics, and emotional regulation. This isn’t just feel-good talk, it’s real, life-changing work. Register now and I'll see you there!https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast

#323: Are you waiting for someone to magically transform into the person you need them to be? In this episode, I break down what relationship magical realism is, how it manifests in our thoughts and behaviors, and the real cost of staying in these fantasies. I share practical steps to recognize when you're caught in this pattern and how to start seeing relationships for what they truly are – not just what you wish they could be.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/323Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#215: My favorite little sister, Genie Albina, joins me today to discuss family systems from the perspective of being a change agent. Genie is a certified Parent Coach who works with both teachers and parents, a mom of two kiddos, and is now an official coach inside Anchored. Making intergenerational change takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-reflection. So, what do you do when you’re the intergenerational trauma bond breaker, or the one doing ancestral healing, and that’s not what’s happening in the rest of your family system? Find out in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/215Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

My sister Genie Albina is on the show this week and I could not be more excited! We're discussing what we can do to raise kids towards interdependence and reparent ourselves in this direction. Genie is highlighting some key components of prioritizing interdependence for ourselves and our kids, and sharing her best tips for facilitating radical honesty in your communication.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/141Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide