#286: Letting go of external validation (Samantha’s Story / YOF Spotlight)

I’m looking at the influence of perimenopause - the transitional period before menopause - on sexuality and how this intersects with body image. I also talk about how hormonal changes that occur during perimenopause can influence sexual desire, and why understanding our sexual functioning and desire is important when talking about body image, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/295 In this episode, I talk about: - How sexual desire and sexual functioning change as we age as a result of hormonal changes as well as aging in general, - The “breaks vs accelerator” framework as it relates to sexual desire, - That it’s not uncommon to have lower sexual desire during perimenopause,   - Some of the perimenopause symptoms that can create changes in sexual functioning, - Why perimenopause can cause an increase in pelvic pain,   - Some of the results of the studies that have been done of this topic, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/295 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about the influence of perimenopause – the transitional period before menopause – on body image. I’m looking at what the research says about perimenopause and body image, why our body image is worse during perimenopause compared to menopause, and what we can do to build resiliency and mitigate these effects, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/294 In this episode, I talk about: - What influences body image in perimenopause, - How a history of dieting can put you in a more vulnerable position as your body changes with age, - The other stressors that impact body image during this time, - Why this time in life can also be liberating, - The importance of unpacking our beliefs around aging, - The importance of resilience and how to strengthen it, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/294 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Lael Atkinson, a certified professional recovery coach who works at the intersection of drinking and dieting. They are talking about the similarities between drinking culture and diet culture and how they have both set us up to steal our time, energy and money. They also talk about how dieting fuels drinking, why we should not compare food addiction to alcohol addiction, and signs that you should visit your relationship with alcohol. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/293 In this episode, we talk about: - The similarities in how dieting and drinking are marketed to us, - That society encourages us to both drink and diet, - How their drinking was intertwined with their body image and their queerness, - The stats on the co-occurrence between eating disorders and substance abuse, - Ways that drinking and dieting are the same, - Advice to someone starting to visit their relationship to alcohol, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/293 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this episode, I’m cohosting with my best buddy Vinny Welsby. Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. In the second half of this two-part episode, Vinny and I are reading some of these to give our verdict on AITA posts around weight and diets. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/291 In this episode, we talk about: - The cognitive dissonance we see in the responses, - How you can hear the anti-fat attitudes in what people write, - How we would have handled these situations, - How people’s own self-esteem influences how they treat and view the people around them, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/291 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this episode, I’m cohosting with my best buddy Vinny Welsby. Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. Vinny and I are reading some of these to give our verdict on AITA posts around weight and diets. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/291 In this episode, we talk about: - How much our views differ from the popular public opinion, - That people’s bias can create exaggerations in storytelling, - The incorrect assumption that someone’s ability is related to their size, - How universal the experience of being fat shamed as a kid is and the impact it has on your future body image, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/291 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Nia Patterson, author of the newly released “What’s The Story” A Guided Walkthrough of the Stories You Tell Yourself About Your Body. Nia shares their story of recovering from an eating disorder, what helped them in recovery, what body neutrality means when your body isn’t neutral in our culture, how core beliefs influence our body image, the importance of self-affirmation, and why eradicating anti-fat bias helps everyone. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/290 In this episode, we talk about: - Their relationship with their body growing up, - How the way we perceive our bodies as kids is so different, - The hardest parts of being in recovery, - What helped them the most in recovery, - That there’s no one way to define body neutrality, - How if you work to benefit marginalized people, it benefits everyone, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/290 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Tiffany Ima, who is also a body image coach. She shares her story of how she developed exercise bulimia and bulimia and what helped her to overcome that. We also talk about why body neutrality isn’t enough for her, how she’s learned to celebrate and embrace her body, and the importance of using self-expression to heal. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/289 In this episode, we talk about: - Her relationship with her body growing up and when her body image took a turn for the worse, - How the diet culture mentality remained even after she was recovered from her eating disorder, - What she called her “personal recovery phase,” - The comment that led her to shift her mindset and find her current path, - How body neutrality helped her initially and why she no longer feels it’s enough, - Why she worked to expand her idea of beauty and define her own beauty standard, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/289 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Amapoundcake - we are talking about some of the recent headlines in the news around anti-fatness including the photos of Emily Ratajkowski in the extra large jeans and Oprah’s announcement that she’s been using weight loss drugs. We segue into talking about what to do if you still want to lose weight or if you work with clients who still want to lose weight. Finally, we talk about the re-launch of our Body Image Coach Certification program, including our newest offering the Body Image Coaching Foundations course. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/288  In this episode, we talk about: - Why we think people are wanting to lose weight, - Why we can’t criticize people for wanting to lose weight, - The importance of owning your privileged and the power dynamic when working with clients, - What it means to be “stuck on your privileged” and how it can get in the way, - The importance of grace and empathy, - Who our new offering is for and how it differs, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/288  Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Janine, who was one of the incredible women who worked with me during the You, On Fire program. She talks about how she struggled with her weight for over 4 decades and even went through two weight loss surgeries to find herself still feeling hatred and shame about her body. She talks about how she had had enough of being in that cycle of weight loss and gain and how she was able to move to a place of acceptance with her body. You’ll find all the links mentioned in this podcast at summerinnanen.com/287.   You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/287   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Samantha, who was one of the incredible women who worked with me during the You, On Fire program. She talks about how aging had brought up some old body image concerns and had made her more concerned about what other people are thinking of her. Through our work together she was able to let go of that external validation and be unapologetically herself. You’ll find all the links mentioned in this podcast at summerinnanen.com/286.   You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/286   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap