RATING Popular Marriage ADVICE (The Last One is the WORST)

This is an old episode that you guys loved, so we're bringing it back! Adam and Karissa recorded this when they had just finished EntreLeadership Summit where they heard Patrick Lencioni speak. His book "5 Dysfunctions of a Team" is so powerful and SO APPLICABLE to marriage, so we figured we'd share our reflections on these dynamics with you! You can grab his book here: https://amzn.to/3zAKBhY Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🔥💍 Which pieces of “good marriage advice” are actually helpful, and which ones might quietly make your marriage worse? We are back to rate the advice YOU submitted, from “the first year is the hardest” to “forgive and forget,” “marriage is 50/50,” and even the controversial question of whether a husband should be allowed to golf whenever he wants. 😅 Along the way, we'll unpack the nuance behind each one and share a better way to think about communication, sex, forgiveness, prioritizing your marriage, and loving your spouse wholeheartedly. Some advice gets an A, some gets an F, and a few sound wise until you look a little closer. Resources: Marriage vs. Kids: Who Gets Priority? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-young-married-couple/id1494555036?i=1000766204889 prEquipped: The DYMC Premarital Course https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/prequipped Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

😬 Not all marriage advice deserves an A. In this episode, Adam and Karissa put seven common pieces of marriage advice to the test - from “marriage is all about compromise” to “happy wife, happy life” - and give each one a grade. Some sound wise but need a little more nuance, some are surprisingly solid, and a few might actually be setting couples up for disaster. Come find out which advice gets an A… and which ones newlyweds should stop being told. 👀 Resources: prEquipped: The DYMC Premarital Course https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/prequipped REALIZATIONS Conversation Card Deck https://a.co/d/0deFmRMl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Most of us have confidence all WRONG (especially in today's self-righteous and entitled culture.) Why do you think even highly successful people starve for validation? How secure are you in the possibility of failure? Let's explore the difference between chasing approval, trying to manufacture your own worth, and receiving an identity that doesn't have to be earned. Resources: Monthly Live Date Night at DYMC: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/monthlylivedatenight prEquipped: The DYMC Premarital Course https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/prequipped Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We've all done it... We've labeled ourselves and our spouse as the "high/low drive" one. We assume one party can get it on at any given time and the other just generally isn't in the mood. The truth is, it's much more complex than that. In this episode, we're gonna share a simple tool that will take you minutes to complete, but give you so much insight into each others' desire for sex. Resources: The Integrity Project led by Adam King https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/porn-recovery-focus-group Dear Young Married Couple: The Book! https://a.co/d/0dUFnTrR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is an episode we aired in 2022 and it really resonated with you all. It's a message that doesn't have an expiration date: How to Repair After an Argument It's not always easy to know the steps to take to repair after a nuclear argument. Join Adam + Karissa as they share how you can repair + the steps to do so! Join us for the next DYMC Monthly Live Date Night where we dig into some of these topics with you LIVE for 90 minutes this month!  Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🛡️📱 When should "the" conversation start, and what happens if we wait too long? Do you know the danger of some of the seemingly "innocent" games your kids are playing online? Hear author and educator Kristen Jenson  unpack one of the most important parenting conversations of our time. Whether your child is a toddler, tween, or somewhere in between, this episode will equip you with confidence, clarity, and actionable tools to help your kids navigate today’s digital landscape with wisdom and resilience. Resources: Good Pictures, Bad Pictures https://a.co/d/064wY07d Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Jr. https://a.co/d/0asre2Lz Guide for Girls https://a.co/d/0iejcKVq having the talkS Card Deck https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/havingthetalks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You can genuinely care about your spouse, say all the “right” things, and still leave them feeling completely alone. In this episode, we explore why empathy can sometimes feel fake, how your spouse’s emotions stir up emotions in you, and the subtle difference between holding space and simply trying to make the moment end. What looks like listening may actually be fixing, defending, or even overvalidating. So how do you stay present without becoming your spouse’s therapist, punching bag, or problem solver? The answer may change the way you handle emotional conversations. GET OUR NEW BOOK: https://a.co/d/0fjgps4u JOIN US THIS MONTH ON TOUR: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/marriage-toolbox-tour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🏡 We’re moving and chasing a God-sized dream. This isn’t a story about running away from California. It’s about moving toward the life, ministry, and vision we believe God has been leading us toward for years. We talk about the grief of leaving our home, church, family, and friends; the “breadcrumbs” that helped us recognize God’s direction; and why Nashville gives us a better opportunity to serve couples without sacrificing time with our own family. We’re also sharing more about our dream of building the Married Couple Refuge—a beautiful retreat center created to provide rest, healing, and support for couples who spend their lives serving others. This is a bittersweet conversation about calling, obedience, family, and the courage it takes to choose between something good and something else God may be calling you toward. 🚚 Save big on your interstate move with Moving Yourself:https://www.movingyourself.com/pages/dymc 📘 Order Dear Young Married Couple:https://a.co/d/00W5jefI ⭐ Leave the book an Amazon review:https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=B0H7BJRHQC 🎟️ Join us on the Marriage Toolbox Book Tour:https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/marriage-toolbox-tour 📲 Follow our move and the next chapter of DYMC:https://www.instagram.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

📖 TODAY'S THE DAY! Hard copies are available on Amazon! You can get it on your doorstep as early as tomorrow. After years of conversations, counseling, rewriting, and refining, we are pulling back the curtain on what creating Dear Young Married Couple taught them about strengthening our own marriage. Whether you're building a dream together or simply trying to build a stronger relationship, this conversation will leave you with practical encouragement you can start applying today. Resources: 📘 Dear Young Married Couple: Letters & Tools for the Fights, the Fun, the Sex, and the Soulwork (available in Kindle, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon) https://a.co/d/0eBcyQkX Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices