DOD280: How Much Can We Control What We Find Attractive?

Thomas's friends are divorcing, and hearing the details hits a little too close to home. The dads dig into what it really means when someone can't stop making their partner feel small, whether people can actually change, and what it says about you when a friend's failing marriage makes you quietly wonder about your own. For Patrons: Eli is chaperoning a field day and we are all praying for him. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

Thomas got served a weird Christian-y video about marriage and attraction.   In the bonus for patrons: Tom does what his kid wanted and then is punished and gaslit... Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

The dads take a listener email about how and when to talk to your kid about a diagnosis like ADHD or autism. When do you share this information with your kid, and is it something you should anticipate sharing at multiple points at different developmental stages? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

It's another "Tom is sane despite all odds" episode! The dudes revisit a topic that Tom brought up in a previous episode about whether or not permission and support from parents are linked. If your parents let you do something (like join a school sports team), would that mean you could expect them to cheer you on at your games? What were the dads' experiences in their childhoods with this, and how do we want to show up for our kids with the things we've given them permission to do? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

The dads spend today's episode exploring a few different areas of concern from a listener email. But at it's core: how do you negotiate one partner's needs and the other partner's hurt? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

It's that time of year: Mother's Day happened last weekend. On a scale of perfectly clean butt to the most poopy of poopy pants, how did the dads do this year? And, in the patron bonus, we get an update on the fire that shut down the entirety of Eli's town! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

A recent NYT article discussed a study outlining the impact of cellphone bans in school. The dads chat about those results, and get into a number of tangents, such as age verification. Then, in the bonus exclusive to patrons, Thomas lays out one of the weirdest medical relationships (his doctor) he's ever been in. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

Eli provides some important news from his corner of the globe (and it hopefully continues to be funny and hasn't resulted in anything terrible for anybody) before the Dads discuss gut reactions to something their kid does that they would have never done themselves as a kid. How do we process that response, and can we eventually calm this response? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

We started this episode with a plan in mind, and then we remembered that ELI BETHESDA BOSNICK went GOLFING (?!) recently and had to stop everything to get the full story. And torment Thomas. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

Spoiler alert: this guy from r/AITA is definitely an asshole, but there's SO much to talk about from his unhinged post. In the story reserved for patrons only, Tom shares the coolest update about one of the kids. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]