The Reality of “Having It All”

Can you really have it all — the career, the family, the marriage, the dreams…all at the same time? This week, Dani and Jordan are diving into the new season of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, from Taylor Frankie Paul’s ongoing chaos to Jen and Zac’s struggle to balance marriage, family, and big career ambitions. But the conversation quickly hits close to home. Dani and Jordan reflect on a season in their own marriage when Dani was considering reality TV and they didn’t always see eye-to-eye on what pursuing the next big opportunity could mean for their family. They get candid about ambition, motherhood, supporting your spouse’s dreams, and how you decide which opportunities are worth saying yes to in different seasons of life. Plus, Jordan takes us down a wild airplane rabbit hole, Dani shares an update on her new workout obsession, and they recap everything happening in their lives lately. Can you chase every dream and still protect what matters most? Let’s get into it. Thank you to our sponsors: Hiya Health: Receive 50% off your first order on any of their products. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/DANIAUSTIN. This deal is not available on their regular website. Vionic: Use code DEINFLUENCED at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Vionic Shoes. Wearable well-being for your feet. Cozy Earth: Head to cozyearth.com and let them know you heard about us on DeInfluenced in the post-purchase survey. Ladder: If you have an iPhone, head to ladder.fit/DANI and take a quick quiz to find your perfect Ladder plan. Use my link and get a free 7-day trial with NO credit card, and $10 off your first month if you join. @Vote: Use the links in my show notes to check your registration, get registered, or receive election reminders. You can also visit vote.online or @vote on Instagram for more information.Yoto: The reason Yoto has become such a big part of our routine isn't just because it's screen-free - it's because my kids genuinely love it. If you're looking for a gift they'll actually use and enjoy, head to yotoplay.com - use my code DANI to save 10% off all eligible items, terms apply. Freestyle: Head to freestyle.world/DANI and use code DANI to get 30% off your first 3 months of a Freestyle diaper subscription. That brings your first 3 months down to just $49 a month Produced by Dear Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have A LOT to unpack this week. Dani is officially hooked on Alix Earle’s new reality show — and somehow Jordan is too — which leads us straight into the Braxton Berrios breakup, why Dani thinks Alix may have chosen her career over the relationship, and a little piece of information Jordan has apparently been sitting on: Braxton had a ring?! We also get into the Alix Earle vs. Alex Cooper drama and whether Alix Earle was actually taken advantage of by the Unwell Network or simply outgrew the deal she signed. Plus, Dani takes Jordan down the absolutely WILD rabbit hole of former Bachelor Clayton Echard’s paternity scandal and the Love Trapped podcast. Then we get a little deeper: Has our culture made marriage harder by convincing people they need to have their entire lives figured out before finding a spouse? We talk about building a life with someone versus waiting until you’ve built it alone, influencer culture at live events, and whether creators have officially gone too far. It’s pop culture, marriage, internet rabbit holes and plenty of unsolicited opinions. Let’s get into it. Thank you to our sponsors: Salt & Stone: Try Salt and Stone’s discovery set to find your signature scent — Go to Salt and Stone dot com slash DANI and use code DANI at checkout for 15% off your first order. That’s Salt and Stone dot com slash DANI and use code DANI for 15% off your first order. Little Spoon: Feeding the kids doesn’t have to be complicated. Little Spoon makes it easy with real, nutritionally balanced meals and snacks designed for every stage. It shows up ready to go, takes the pressure off and somehow still gets devoured—veggies and all. No artificial dyes, flavors or sweeteners either. And you know what? That’s a win I’ll take every time. Get 30% off your first online order at https://littlespoon.com slash DANI with code DANI. Vionic: Use code DEINFLUENCED at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Vionic Shoes. Wearable well-being for your feet. CORT Furniture: Rent today at cort.com/podcast. That’s cort.com/podcast. KiwiCo: Tinker, create, and innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first monthly crate at kiwico.com, code deinfluenced. Panda Crate is an exception. See site for details. MomCozy: If you’re in the infant stage or know someone who is, you have to check out the Momcozy Night Pro Bottle Warmer or the DeepClean Bottle Washer D8. They’re offering 10%off if you go to momcozy.com and use code dani for 10% off. That’s momcozy.com, and use code dani! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Dani and Jordan are catching up on everything from Dani finally getting back into working out six months postpartum to a very real conversation about SSRIs, anxiety, and what happens when you try to come off medication too quickly. Then we get into the internet rabbit holes: the man who allegedly spent years pretending to be a San Francisco 49ers player and scammed 26 women out of more than $1 million, AI agents that are starting to sound a little too much like the plot of a sci-fi movie, and why everyone suddenly seems to be trading screen time for sourdough, sewing, and embroidery. Plus, Dani and Jordan talk about how life has shifted since moving to Nashville, redefining what “success” actually looks like, and why being surrounded by people who value faith, family, and fruitfulness over achievements has been surprisingly challenging — in the best way. It’s internet chaos, life updates, a few rabbit holes, and some unexpectedly deep thoughts. Basically… a very De-Influenced episode. Thank you to our sponsors: Quince Find the fall pieces you’ll reach for most at Quince. Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to ⁠Quince.com/dani⁠. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK, too.Monarch MoneyWrite your own money story with Monarch. Use code DANI at ⁠Monarch.com⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. That's 50% off your first year at ⁠Monarch.com⁠ with code DANI.WayfairTransform your space with pieces that hold up to real life. Join Wayfair Rewards today and get five percent back on every purchase. Head to ⁠Wayfair.com⁠ or shop the Wayfair app for all things home.Hiya HealthWe've worked out a special deal with Hiya. Receive 50% off your first order on any of their products. To claim this deal you must go to ⁠hiyahealth.com/DANIAUSTIN⁠. This deal is not available on their regular website. Go to ⁠hiyahealth.com/DANIAUSTIN⁠ and get your kids the full-body support they deserve.OgeeThanks to today’s sponsor, Ogee: A higher standard for beauty. Go to ⁠ogee.com/DANI⁠ and use code DANI to get 20% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. Or visit ⁠Sephora.com⁠, search Ogee, and shop the Crystal Contour Collection today.Our Place Upgrade your kitchen with Our Place today. Visit ⁠fromourplace.com/DANI⁠ and use code DANI for 10% off sitewide. With a 100-day trial, you can try it completely risk-free.Instant Hydration For a better way to stay hydrated, go to ⁠INSTANTHYDRATION.COM/DEINFLUENCED⁠ and use my promo code DEINFLUENCED for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer available. (edited)  CHAPTERS: 00:00 Dani Is Back 01:40 6 Months Postpartum + Working Out Again 04:45 Dani’s Honest Experience With SSRIs & Lexapro 10:30 Jordan’s Experience With Zoloft 15:00 Getting Back in Shape After 4 Babies [~18:00] Lindsay Clancy Case Update 29:00 The Fake San Francisco 49ers Player Scam 32:00 How Social Media Makes Scams Look Real 38:40 The AI Story That Terrified Us 42:00 Could AI Become Conscious? 44:30 Why “Grandma Hobbies” Are Making a Comeback 47:00 Redefining Success, Faith & Productivity 53:00 Dani’s New Embroidery Obsession 56:00 Dani Is Entering Her Horse Girl Era58:00 SSRIs, Emotion & Who We Become Produced by ⁠Dear Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you pay $6,500 to get your baby to sleep? Because apparently… that’s an option. 😂 This week, Dani and Jordan debate whether they’re desperate enough to hire a three-day baby sleep trainer — and somehow that turns into a much bigger conversation about all the things parents are told they need to be doing for their kids. Plus, Jordan officially becomes THAT dad at 4-year-old soccer, Dani survives her first workout back, and a missing credit card sparks a marriage argument. Then they get into the internet debate around Forrest Frank’s viral shirtless photo and whether there’s a double standard when it comes to modesty for men and women. Later, things get a little deeper as Dani and Jordan unpack cessationism vs. continuationism, spiritual gifts, speaking in tongues, healing, modern-day prophets and discernment. Dani shares how growing up in a charismatic church shaped the way she approaches faith today — including one question she still wrestles with: Is it the Holy Spirit… or is it the music? And because no De-Influenced episode is complete without a rabbit hole, Jordan found data on where single people should actually live if they want to get married… and apparently your ZIP code might matter more than you think. Basically: sleep-deprived parents, soccer dads, internet debates, spiritual gifts and dating statistics. A very normal week over here. Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: Head to cozyearth.com and let them know you heard about us on DeInfluenced in the post-purchase survey. Ka’Chava: Take your daily ritual with you. Go to kachava.com and use code DANIAUSTIN for 15% off your first order. Ross: Find your nearest Ross at RossStores.com Vionic: Use code DEINFLUENCED at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Vionic Shoes. Wearable well-being for your feet.Quince: Find the fall pieces you’ll reach for most at Quince. Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/dani. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK, too. @Vote: Use the links in my show notes to check your registration, get registered, or receive election reminders. Check Your Registration - https://tools.vote.online/embeds/check-your-registration?partnerId=c3b53a3d Get Election Reminders - https://tools.vote.online/embeds/get-election-reminders?partnerId=c3b53a3d Register To Vote - https://tools.vote.online/embeds/register-to-vote?partnerId=c3b53a3d Pledge To Register - https://tools.vote.online/embeds/pledge-to-register?partnerId=c3b53a3d Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on De-Influenced, we are officially in our back-to-school era… and apparently that means approximately 400 drop-offs, pick-ups, soccer practices and things to remember every single day. 😂 We're talking about the chaos of getting the kids into a routine, whether we need to seriously re-divide the mental load in our marriage, and why Dani is apparently preparing for the collapse of the financial system by selling her clothes on Instagram. Normal stuff!! Then Jordan takes us down one of his latest history rabbit holes and somehow we end up having a conversation we've never really had before: IVF, frozen embryos and the complicated questions surrounding when life begins. We definitely don't have all the answers, but we talk through where we're conflicted, why this topic feels so personal and sensitive, and why sometimes faith leaves room for questions. Plus, why we need to stop putting people on pedestals, Dani's thoughts on moms judging other moms, Jordan's Nashville makeover…and somehow, by the end of the episode, we're talking about whether dragons were real. Basically, a very normal episode of De-Influenced. 😂 We love y'all!! Thanks for listening! 🤍 Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: Made from viscose from bamboo — breathable, soft, and built for summer. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code DANI for an exclusive 20% off. That's code DANI for an exclusive 20% off. And if you see a post-purchase survey, mention that you heard about Cozy Earth right here! Storyblocks: Head to Storyblocks.com/DANI to access the human-made stock media library that's essential to my workflow. For a limited time, they're offering 15% off any annual plan, and that discount is only available through my link. Again, that's storyblocks.com/dani for 15% off annual plans. Ross: Find your nearest Ross at RossStores.com Vionic: Use code DEINFLUENCED at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Vionic Shoes. Wearable well-being for your feet. Yoto: The reason Yoto has become such a big part of our routine isn't just because it's screen-free - it's because my kids genuinely love it. If you're looking for a gift they'll actually use and enjoy, head to yotoplay.com - that's Y-O-T-O - and use my code DANI to save 10% off all eligible items, terms apply. CashApp: Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oux30p76 #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Things got a little TOO honest this week. 😂 Jordan admits he was fully spiraling after a chaotic few weeks of traveling, sick kids and approximately zero alone time—and Dani shares the surprisingly simple thing that apparently fixed everything overnight. Marriage with four kids, people!!! Then we get into the internet's obsession with judging parents, Dani responds to getting called "out of touch" over her minivan comments, and we ask: can anyone take a joke anymore?! Plus, we're diving into the controversy around homeschooling, the wild claims that some of what we know about Blue Zones and longevity may be based on faulty data, and whether churches and pastors should mix faith, politics and media. Basically… marriage, parenting, internet drama and a few rabbit holes we probably shouldn't have gone down. Enjoy!! Thank you to our sponsors: Cotton: Cotton is the Fabric of Our Lives. The next time you're shopping, check the tag and choose cotton. Learn more at TheFabricOfOurLives.com, and follow along at @discovercotton using #ShopCotton. Resort Pass: Visit resortpass.com/dani to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more. That's R-E-S-O-R-T-P-A-S-S.com slash D-A-N-I, for $20 off. ResortPass—the day is yours. Storyblocks: Head to Storyblocks.com/DANI to access the human-made stock media library that's essential to my workflow. For a limited time, they're offering 15% off any annual plan, and that discount is only available through my link. Again, that's storyblocks.com/dani for 15% off annual plans. Instant Hydration: For a better way to stay hydrated, go to InstantHydration.com/Deinfluenced and use my promo code DEINFLUENCED for over 40% off your first subscription order - it's Instant Hydration's best offer available. Salt and Stone: Try Salt and Stone's discovery set to find your signature scent — Go to SaltandStone.com/DANI and use code DANI at checkout for 15% off your first order. Vionics: Use code DEINFLUENCED at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Vionic Shoes. Wearable well-being for your feet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Thursday, De-Influencers!! We are ALL over the place today 😂 We’re starting with a little life update from Nashville before getting into the things we think are actually worth splurging on… and apparently Dani and Jordan have VERY different definitions of a “splurge.” We’re also settling the debate on tipping culture because WHY does every screen ask for 30% now?! Then things take a deeper turn. Jordan found a study on creator mental health that led us into a really honest conversation about Dani’s 15 years on the internet, burnout, tying your worth to numbers and what success looks like when the internet moves on to the next person. And finally, we’re talking about the Lindsay Clancy case and the really difficult conversation surrounding postpartum mental health, postpartum psychosis and criminal responsibility. This one is heavy, so we give a warning before getting into it for anyone who may not be in a place to listen right now. Basically… deodorant, index funds, influencer existential crises and true crime. A very normal episode of De-Influenced 😂 WE LOVE YOU GUYS!! Thanks for hanging with us every week. 🤍 Thank you to our sponsors: Quince: Upgrade your everyday. Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/dani. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK, too. Monarch Money: Write your own money story with Monarch. Use code DANI at Monarch.com to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. That's 50% off your first year at Monarch.com with code DANI. Hiya: You can now find Hiya in person at Target stores nationwide, or order directly from their website with a special deal we’ve worked out just for you. Receive 50% off your first order on any of their products. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/DANIAUSTIN. Wayfair: Join Wayfair Rewards today to get 5% back on every purchase and start saving on your next home upgrade. Head to Wayfair.com to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every Style. Every Home. Minnow: Shop the capsule starting July 7th at shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. That's shopminnow.com code MEETMINNOW15 for 15% off your first order. Cozy Earth: Head to cozyearth.com and use my code DANI for an exclusive 20% off. Our Place: Upgrade your kitchen with Our Place today. Visit fromourplace.com/DANI and use code DANI for 10% off sitewide. With a 100-day trial, you can try it completely risk-free. Little Spoon: Get 30% off your first online order at littlespoon.com/DANI with code DANI. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our Costa Rica trip was honestly one of our favorite family vacations EVER…and then the trip home happened. 😂 This week we're recapping everything—from our flight getting canceled, getting stranded in Charlotte with four kids, and somehow still managing to laugh through all of it. We also ended up having a surprisingly real conversation about control, why Jordan finally took his shoes off (it's deeper than it sounds 😂), and what moving to Nashville has been teaching us about letting go. Plus we're sharing fun facts about Costa Rica, why we'd absolutely go back, and a few unexpected lessons we brought home with us. As always, this episode has a little bit of everything!! Subscribe to our official YouTube channel, @deinfluencedpodcast, and follow along on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your De-Influenced fix. You can also find us on Instagram and TikTok at @deinfluencedpodcast. Thanks so much for listening and supporting the show! A special THANK YOU to our sponsors: Ka’Chava: Go to https://kachava.com and use code DANIAUSTIN for 15% off your first order. Cotton: Cotton is The Fabric of Our Lives. Learn more at TheFabricOfOurLives.com. Visit Myrtle Beach: You belong at The Beach – Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Plan the best trip ever at VisitMyrtleBeach.com. Olive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/DANI for 20% off your first System! Ogee: Thanks to today’s sponsor, Ogee: A higher standard for beauty. Go to ogee.com/DANI and use code DANI to get 20% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. Produced by Dear Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're catching up on everything that's happened over the last few days... and somehow it includes a trip to urgent care, a fake broken toe, girls' night, minivan debates, and a life update after our move to Nashville. We also answer some of your questions about how we're really doing since the move, what work looks like now, missing family, surviving life with four kids, and why neither of us is getting much sleep these days. As always, it's a little chaotic, a lot of laughing, and feels like you're hanging out in the living room with us. Subscribe to our official YouTube channel, @deinfluencedpodcast, and follow along on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your De-Influenced fix. You can also find us on Instagram and TikTok at @deinfluencedpodcast. Thanks so much for listening and supporting the show! Sponsors Cozy EarthHead to cozyearth.com and use my code DANI for an exclusive 20% off. Cash App If you're ready to start teaching money habits without adding more stress to your plate, download Cash App and set up a managed account for your child today. For a limited time, new Cash App customers who are parents can use our exclusive referral code FAMILY10 to earn $10. Download Cash App, enter the referral code in your profile, send $5 to a friend within 14 days, and you will receive $10. Terms apply. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6–12. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Ross Find your nearest Ross at RossStores.com. ResortPass Go to resortpass.com/dani and use code DANI for $20 off your first booking of $100 or more. resortpass.com/dani, code DANI. ResortPass—the day is yours. Rythm Right now, Rythm is offering our listeners 15% off your first month and free shipping at rythm.health/dani. Stop guessing, start testing. Our Place Upgrade your kitchen with Our Place today. Visit fromourplace.com/DANI and use code DANI for 10% off sitewide. With a 100-day trial, you can try it completely risk-free. Starbucks Learn more at Starbucks.com/Partners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the best conversations are the ones you never plan. This week we're talking about everything from Christopher Nolan's The Odyssey to AI, data centers, birth rates, marriage after kids, moving to Nashville, finding community, and why we're always falling down new rabbit holes together. We also share what we're learning about family life, personal growth, and why discomfort isn't always something to fix. As always, thanks for hanging out with us!! We rounded up some great deals from a few of our favorite brands for you: If you're ready to take the next step in your life, whether that is merch, your own hair care line, or something in between, go to shopify.com/dani and make it happen. It doesn't matter where you're at in your entrepreneur journey, Shopify is there to make your life and selling journey easier. Head to storyblocks.com/dani to access the human-made stock media library that's essential to our workflow. For a limited time, they're offering 15% off any annual plan, and that discount is only available through our link. Visit resortpass.com/dani to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more. ResortPass - the day is yours. Find your nearest Ross at RossStores.com You belong at The Beach - Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Plan the best trip ever at VisitMyrtleBeach.com. Made from viscose from bamboo - breathable, soft, and built for summer. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code DANI for an exclusive 20% off.That's code DANI for an exclusive 20% off. And if you see a post-purchase survey, mention that you heard about Cozy Earth right here! Subscribe to our official YouTube channel, @deinfluencedpodcast, and follow along on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your De-Influenced fix. You can also find us on Instagram and TikTok at @deinfluencedpodcast. Thanks so much for listen ing and supporting the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices