How Relationships Help to Sculpt Your Ideal Self: The Michelangelo Effect

Dr. Louise Newson is a physician, hormone specialist and one of the world's leading voices in transforming menopause care. We discuss the misconceptions about menopause and hormone treatment, the benefits that HRT can provide even for women without overt symptoms, and how it can play a significant role in maintaining long-term health. Dr Louise highlights that hormonal changes affect every cell in our bodies, leading to surprising symptoms that women may not initially connect to their hormonal shifts. We explore the lesser-known effects of menopause that are frequently overlooked. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is a vital, but often misunderstood topic for women navigating the confusing journey of perimenopause and menopause. Dr Louise answers all my questions.Takeaways:Hormonal changes during menopause can lead to a wide range of symptoms beyond hot flushes. It's crucial for women to understand that many common symptoms are often misattributed and could be linked to hormonal changes. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) can significantly improve quality of life by alleviating symptoms and reducing long-term health risks. Many women remain unaware of the benefits of HRT, even if they don't have obvious symptoms, making education vital. Testosterone plays an extremely important role in women's health, affecting mood, energy, and cognitive function. Despite the benefits and advancements in understanding HRT, misconceptions and fears still prevent many women from receiving appropriate treatment. Connect with Dr Louise Newsonwww.drlouisenewson.co.ukwww.instagram.com/menopause_doctorWant more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).<a href="https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

Do your partner and closest friends support and validate your ideal self? Today, we're diving into the intriguing concept of the Michelangelo phenomenon in relationships. This idea suggests that the people closest to us can help us reveal our best selves, much like Michelangelo chipping away at stone to uncover a beautiful sculpture. Tune in to hear how actively supporting each other's growth by affirming the qualities and aspirations that align with your ideal self, leads to enhanced satisfaction and personal growth for both you and your partner. Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or nurturing close friendships, this episode is all about fostering connections that bring out the best in both you and those you care about. Takeaways:The Michelangelo phenomenon highlights how those closest to you can help reveal your best self, promoting personal growth. Affirmation from a partner can help to chip away at self-doubt, allowing you to express your truest self. It's important to assess if your relationships support your growth or hold you back based on outdated perceptions. Being a supportive partner means affirming strengths and aspirations, not imposing our own ideals on others. Personal growth is often viewed as an individual pursuit, but relationships can significantly enhance this journey. To foster healthy relationships, we should communicate our personal goals and encourage each other’s growth.

Neuroscientist, Anne-Laure Le Cunff challenges the traditional notion of linear goal-setting in our lives, urging us instead to embrace "tiny experiments" as a more fulfilling and adaptive approach. In this episode, we explore the concept of liminal spaces—those uncomfortable periods of transition that often provoke anxiety. Anne-Laure shares her journey from a successful career at Google to studying neuroscience, emphasising the importance of curiosity and personal exploration over societal expectations. We discuss how these tiny experiments can help us redefine success, allowing for growth without the pressure of rigid outcomes. Prepare to rethink your approach to goals and discover how to cultivate a more enriching and curious existence.Takeaways:The concept of linear goals is often misleading, as achieving them doesn't guarantee happiness. Tiny experiments encourage us to embrace uncertainty and explore personal growth opportunities. Instead of pursuing rigid ambitions, we should focus on curiosity and experimentation in our lives. Learning in public allows us to connect with others and enhances our personal growth journey. Connect with Anne-Laure:www.nesslabs.comBuy 'Tiny Experiments: How to live freely in a goal obsessed world".Want more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Today, we're diving into the ever-relevant topic of burnout, which has become a pervasive issue for many people. I want to unpack how personal traits such as perfectionism, people-pleasing tendencies, and unrealistic self-expectations, can inadvertently contribute to our own risk of burnout. Of course there are external pressures from our workplaces; but it’s important to look at how we interact with those pressures and the stories we're tell ourselves that are contributing to our chronic stress. We’ll discuss the signs of burnout, the different forms it can take, and how it can manifest not just in our jobs, but in roles like parenting and caregiving. Tune in to reflect on your own unhelpful patterns, and to consider how you might take proactive steps to help you manage stress better and nurture your well-being.Takeaways:Burnout is a consequence of unresolved stress, resulting in feelings of exhaustion and detachment. It's crucial to recognise the personal traits that may contribute to chronic stress and burnout. Perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome and undiagnosed neurodivergence can significantly increase your risk of burnout. Understanding your own limits and setting realistic expectations can help prevent the downward spiral into burnout. Beyond Confident opening in July. Register to hear when enrolments open:www.cassdunn.com/beyond-confidentWant more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Feeling disconnected in relationships is a theme that's been surfacing a lot lately in my coaching sessions, and I think it’s something that many of us can relate to. In this episode, I dive into the common struggles women face in long-term partnerships, particularly the sense of not being heard or satisfied. We explore the importance of owning our part in relationship dynamics while also recognising when our emotional needs aren’t being met. I share insights on how to navigate those tough conversations that can feel daunting but are essential for connection. Ultimately, we discuss the deeper emotional issues behind surface-level complaints and how reconnecting with a shared vision for the future can reignite the spark in a relationship. So, if you're feeling a bit lost or disconnected, this episode just might offer some helpful perspectives.Takeaways:Feeling disconnected in relationships is a common theme that many women experience, especially in long-term partnerships, and it's important to address this. To improve your relationship, it's crucial to understand your own emotional patterns and responsibilities without self-judgement or blame. Effective communication requires clarity about what you want to achieve from difficult conversations, focusing on positive intentions rather than complaints. Deep emotional needs often underlie surface complaints about behaviour; recognising and expressing these needs is essential for resolving relationship issues. You might also want to check out these episodes:Cracking the Code on Relationships with Dr Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Coupleshttps://www.crappytohappypod.com/cracking-the-code-on-relationships-with-dr-sue-johnson/The Key to Successful Relationships with Dr Ann Kelleyhttps://www.crappytohappypod.com/the-key-to-successful-relationships-with-dr-ann-kelley/Want more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE...

We're kicking off our brand new series for paid subscribers, "Mindfulness... and then what?", where we'll dive deep into how to truly incorporate mindfulness into your life for real benefits. I know, I know—mindfulness is one of those buzzwords that can make people roll their eyes, but stay with me! This month, we’re all about getting practical and relevant with mindfulness, addressing the stress, overwhelm, and uncertainty we face daily. Together, we'll explore what’s not working and set intentions for change. Whether it’s sleep issues, irritability, or just feeling off-balance, we're here to figure out what you want to be different by the end of the month, while I share tools to help you navigate your emotions and experiences. There'll be audio lessons, guided meditations and practical processes all designed to help you emerge with more clarity and calm, despite what's happening in your life.So, grab your journal, and let’s get started.If you're not a paid subscriber and would like to join in - upgrade to paid in the Apple podcasts app or on Spotify (which will link you to Substack). Or sign up directly on Substack: https://cassdunn.substack.comWant more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Today’s episode dives deep into a crucial question: who are you when you’re at your best? I’m inviting you to explore the qualities that make you shine and how to create the conditions in your life that allow you to be at your best more of the time. We discuss the importance of understanding both our best selves and our not-so-great moments, drawing connections between our moods, circumstances, and overall well-being. This episode is all about setting yourself up for success and identifying what conditions allow you to flourish. Takeaways:Knowing who you are at your best means identifying the unique qualities that truly shine when you are living optimally. Listeners are encouraged to consider the conditions that allow for optimal functioning, such as sleep, downtime, and mindful practices to enhance your overall well-being. We touch on the challenges of managing time and energy in a busy life, reminding ourselves to prioritise what truly matters for our mental health. Want more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Hi from my mum's wardrobe. I'm on holiday in Australia and taking a break from my packing to share a personal update that highlights how unpredictable life can be. My family has recently faced some unexpected challenges, including my husband’s work being impacted by significant global events and unexpected health issues with his father. Meanwhile, we live in another country with no clear end date, which makes everything feel a little tenuous.I wanted to take the opportunity to mention the importance of "psychological flexibility", a key concept from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which encourages us to stay adaptable and resilient by focusing on what we can control, staying connected to the present moment, finding meaning in our values, and taking the action that's necessary even if it's hard. Join me for a super quick chat from the wardrobe about how we can remain present and connected to what truly matters, even when life feels overwhelming. Takeaways:Life is unpredictable, and being prepared for unexpected challenges is essential for resilience. Psychological flexibility helps us adapt and remain centered amid difficulties and uncertainties. Focusing on present moments and values can guide us through life's challenges and changes. Quality social connections play a crucial role in maintaining our happiness and overall well-being. It's important to recognise that our thoughts and feelings are passing experiences, not our identity. Taking committed action aligned with our values is key to navigating tough times effectively. Want more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Carli McConkey was a naive 21yr old seeking self-improvement when she was recruited into a new age cult where she spent over 13yrs trapped and enslaved. Carli bravely shares her experience of being manipulated, coerced, and abused, explaining the psychological tactics employed by cult leaders to maintain control. After finally escaping, Carli’s struggles continued when she fought and won a defamation lawsuit brought upon her by her former cult leader. She also shares her frustration that her cult leader is currently a registered psychologist in Australia and the UK, despite regulatory bodies in both countries being made aware of the judges' rulings in this case.Carli sheds light on the complexities of recovery from cult abuse. Through sharing her story, she educates us about the red flags of cults, and highlights the importance of professionals being equipped to support cult survivors in the aftermath of their experience. For support and websites referenced in this episode:Cult Information and Family Support (CIFS) Australiahttps://www.cifs.org.au/Cult Education Institute (Rick Ross)https://culteducation.com/Connect with Carliwww.carlimcconkey.com

The recent World Happiness Report highlights a striking link between social trust and voting preferences, revealing that individuals with low social trust are more prone to supporting right-wing political parties. In this episode, I dive into this fascinating finding, which highlights how our personal dissatisfaction with life often translates into political choices that can influence societal outcomes. It’s a wake-up call for all of us to reflect on our role in fostering social connections and trust within our communities. Despite our natural pessimism about kindness, studies show that people generally underestimate the empathy and support available around them. We have the power to change this narrative—by actively nurturing trust and connection, we can improve not only our own well-being but also the fabric of our society.Takeaways:The World Happiness Report indicates that low social trust correlates with voting for right-wing parties. Individuals with lower satisfaction in life tend to reject traditional political systems and seek alternatives. Social connection is vital for our happiness, health, and longevity, and we must prioritise it. Many young adults feel they lack social support, often underestimating the kindness of others around them. Our perceptions of others' empathy significantly influence our willingness to connect and engage socially. Rebuilding social trust requires individual responsibility in recognising the goodness in others and fostering connections. Links:World Happiness Report 2025Want more?Upgrade to Paid in the Spotify or Apple podcasts App to get immediate access to bonus content, meditations and more!To get invitations to live calls and chats with Cass, join via Spotify or Substack:https://cassdunn.substack.comContact Crappy to Happy:Email: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comSocialswww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodFind out how to work with Cass:www.cassdunn.comwww.instagram.com/cassdunn_xoSubscribe to Cass's "Eternal Optimist" Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA