They Want A "Break" - What To Do

When the person you love says they “need a break,” it can feel like the ground shifts beneath you. One moment, everything feels steady but the next, you’re trying to make sense of the distance that came out of nowhere. You might replay every word, every moment, searching for clues. But what most people don’t realize is that when someone asks for a "break," it’s not always about needing time alone. It’s often about uncertainty, fear, and emotional confusion. In this episode, Coach Lee talks about what a “break” really means in a relationship as well as what it doesn’t mean. You’ll learn how to handle this painful situation without losing your sense of strength or self-respect - and hopefully without losing the one you love. Many people make the mistake of chasing, pleading, or trying to reason with the person who asked for space. That reaction feels natural, but it often drives the other person even further away. Lee explains why calmness, restraint, and patience are far more powerful than panic in this situation. He also discusses the deeper psychology behind why people ask for breaks. Sometimes, even often, it’s not about needing distance from you but is about wanting relief from the pressure of their own confusion. They call it “space,” but in many cases, they’re really trying to see what life feels like without you, while still keeping you within reach. It’s a form of emotional testing (not just for you but for them), and how you respond can determine what happens next. Coach Lee shares how real love isn’t destroyed by silence or time apart but is revealed by it. If your connection is genuine, the distance will deepen their awareness of your absence. But if it fades quickly, that truth can be painful yet freeing. Either way, clarity comes through time, not through chasing or efforts to convince them to end the break. Whether you’re married, dating, or recently broken up, this episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface when your partner says they need a break. You’ll hear practical advice on what to do (and what not to do) so that you protect your value, keep your dignity, and give love its best possible chance to return. More from Coach Lee: 🔹 The Emergency Breakup Kit – step-by-step plan to get your ex back at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk 🔹 Coaching with Coach Lee – one-on-one professional guidance for your situation at https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/ 🔹 Masculine Destiny - a guide for men who want to be more successful with women at https://MasculineDestiny.com

When you go no contact with an avoidant ex, it might look like they don’t care — but that’s not what’s really happening beneath the surface. In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the true stages of no contact for an avoidant ex — what they feel, how they process silence, and why their calmness often ends with sudden panic or regret. Avoidant exes don’t handle emotional loss the way secure people do. At first, they feel relief — convinced that distance equals peace. But that “peace” eventually cracks. What follows is a slow unraveling that ends in what Lee calls punctuated equilibrium — a sudden emotional rupture after weeks or months of suppression. You’ll discover: Why avoidants appear cold right after the breakup The point when silence starts working on them internally Why they often resurface after long gaps of quiet How no contact reveals their attachment fears and triggers realization This isn’t about manipulation — it’s about understanding how an avoidant’s emotional system reacts to loss. If you’ve wondered whether your ex still thinks about you, this episode will help you see the patterns behind their silence — and the moment it finally breaks. 🎧 Listen now and learn the psychological stages your avoidant ex goes through during no contact. ➡️ Get Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit at Attachment Style Evaluation/Test.     

The Egomaniac Attachment Style: The Hidden Side No One Talks About Most people have heard of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles. But what happens when someone’s attachment isn’t about love or connection — it’s about ego? In this video, I explain what I call the Egomaniac Attachment Style. This hidden side of attachment shows up when a person needs admiration more than intimacy. Their relationships revolve around control, validation, and protecting their self-image instead of building trust. If you’ve ever felt like your ex (or partner) always made it about them, dismissed your needs, or left you feeling invisible, this video will help you understand why. You’ll learn: What the Egomaniac Attachment Style is and how it develops How it compares to anxious and avoidant attachment Signs you may have been in a relationship with someone like this Why it’s not your fault — and how to protect yourself going forward This is one of those hidden truths that rarely gets talked about, but it can make sense of so many painful relationship experiences. 💡 If this video helps you, don’t forget to subscribe for more insights on attachment, relationships, and breakups. To get your ex back, get my Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk Men, to have success with women like NEVER BEFORE, get my Masculine Destiny course at https://MasculineDestiny.com. To book a coaching session with me, go to https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

  When someone ends a relationship, it often looks simple on the outside: they make the decision, walk away, and insist they’re sure of it. But the truth is rarely that clean. In this episode, I explain why your ex might still be wrestling with their feelings for you, even if they’re the one who chose to leave. Book a coaching session for guidance on your situation at https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/ The first thing to understand is that relief often comes right after a breakup. It can give the dumper a false sense of freedom, as though they’ve escaped the pressure or tension of the relationship. But that “honeymoon phase” doesn’t last. As days and weeks pass, the very silence they asked for can become louder than they expected. Silence has a way of echoing. It forces them to confront what life is actually like without you—without your voice, your presence, or your support. That realization alone can stir up emotions they thought they had buried. Another layer to this struggle is that most people don’t replace the person; they replace the role. Your ex may move quickly into another relationship, or they may distract themselves with work or new hobbies. But roles are easier to fill than genuine connections. Eventually, they realize that chemistry, history, and shared experience can’t be swapped out so easily. It’s at this point that many people begin to wrestle with the thought that maybe they let go of someone who mattered more than they admitted. In this conversation, I also cover how dignity and restraint work in your favor. When you handle the breakup without chasing, pleading, or trying to repair what they decided to end, you keep your value intact. That’s when they start to wonder why you seem steadier than they feel. That contrast can be jarring. The person who left expects to be fine, and they expect you to crumble. When it flips the other way, the imbalance of attraction begins to shift. I’ll also explain why not “fixing” what they broke is one of the smartest things you can do. It shows them that losing you has real consequences. They no longer have access to the benefits of your love and support, and that reality is what makes them question whether they made the right choice. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer understanding of the psychology behind their resistance, their mixed signals, and their quiet moments of doubt. Most importantly, you’ll see why stepping back is not about giving up—it’s about creating the space for them to realize what they stand to lose. If you’re struggling with the pain of a breakup, this episode will give you both insight and encouragement. You are stronger than you feel right now, and sometimes, the best thing you can do is let the silence speak on your behalf. If you’re going through a breakup or separation and need clear guidance, I put together a course that walks you step by step through what to do and when. It’s already helped thousands of people take the right actions at the right time. You can find it here: https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk For men who want to become more successful with women and relationships, I also created a course called Masculine Destiny. You can learn more here: https://MasculineDestiny.com

Don't Fix What They Broke Podcast with Coach Lee When a breakup leaves you reeling, there’s a strong temptation to rush in and patch things up—especially if you didn’t want the relationship to end. You might feel like if you can just fix it, explain yourself better, or show them how much you care, everything will fall back into place. But here’s something most people overlook: if they were the one who broke it, fixing it for them actually makes things worse. In this episode, I talk about why stepping back—and staying back—can often do far more for your chances of reconciliation than chasing or trying to clean up the damage they caused. You’ll hear why it’s important that your ex sees what life is like without you rushing in to save the day. If they ended it, if they ghosted you, or if they created the distance… they need to feel the weight of that decision. They need to experience the silence, the space, and the consequence of what they did. Because if you make it too easy—if you do all the work—they never have to face the loss. And that’s the moment you lose your power. We’ll dive into the psychology behind what happens when you don’t fix it. I’ll explain how self-respect, restraint, and quiet strength speak louder than emotional speeches or repeated apologies. When you hold back, it challenges their assumptions. It makes them wonder if they were wrong. And that question—“Did I mess up?”—is the one that often brings them back. You’ll also hear how giving your ex the emotional consequences of the breakup isn’t about revenge or being cold. It’s about stopping the cycle of imbalance. If you’re always the one doing the emotional labor, the relationship was never even to begin with—and reconciliation will only be more of the same. This episode is for anyone in the thick of heartbreak, especially those who feel like their ex is just waiting for them to fix it again. It’s a reminder that silence, boundaries, and letting the broken pieces stay broken for a while can actually create the space needed for clarity, remorse, and maybe even a real reunion. Listen now—and if you're serious about getting your ex back, visit MyExBackCoach.com for more resources. Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at MyExBackCoach.com/ebk For men, have more success with women than you ever thought possible with Coach Lee's Masculine Destiny course at MasculineDestiny.com!

They didn’t think it would matter. When they let you go, they figured they’d be fine. Maybe even better off. In their mind, you’d be easy to replace. Someone else would come along and fill the space. They believed they could move on without consequence, without even looking back. But people like you don’t come around every day. And that’s something they never truly considered—until the silence set in. Until the conversations weren’t as natural. The laughter didn’t sound quite the same. The connection didn’t flow. The comfort wasn’t there. In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the hard truth behind what happens when someone thinks you’re replaceable… and then realizes you’re not. You’ll learn how to stop trying to prove your worth to someone who undervalued you—and why your silence, your strength, and your absence often do more to create regret than any words ever could. Coach Lee explains how walking away with dignity leaves a mark that lingers far longer than begging, convincing, or chasing ever would. This episode isn’t about playing games. It’s about understanding human psychology, especially in the aftermath of a breakup. When someone thinks you’ll chase, they assume they have control. They expect you to fall apart, to cling, to wait around just in case they change their mind. But when you don’t? That’s when the narrative starts to change. You’ll hear why it’s so important not to hand over your emotional power, and how doing so often makes the other person feel justified in their decision to leave. Coach Lee walks you through what happens when you pull back, live your life, and let the silence speak for you. We also discuss why most people who end relationships aren’t thinking long-term in the moment. They’re reacting to emotion, impulse, or a fantasy of something “better.” But over time, reality has a way of setting in—and it rarely looks the way they imagined. That’s when they begin to compare. And if you’ve been composed, grounded, and quietly rebuilding your strength? You stand out more than ever. In the episode, Coach Lee shares how to handle those inevitable breadcrumbs—those vague texts, likes on social media, or messages just checking in. You’ll learn how to recognize them for what they are: attempts to get emotional reassurance without committing to anything real. Responding correctly can either reinforce your value—or confirm that you’ll settle for less than you deserve. You’ll learn how to keep your edge and avoid falling into emotional traps that give away your progress. We also talk about what it actually looks like when someone regrets losing you. It’s not always dramatic or loud. Sometimes it’s quiet. A creeping realization. A late-night memory. A moment of comparison. And often, that regret comes long after they expected to feel nothing at all. This episode will remind you that you were never easy to replace. You might have been quiet. You might have walked away calmly. But what you brought to the table can’t be duplicated—and eventually, they’ll see that. And when they do? You’ll be standing stronger, wiser, and more certain of what you deserve. — If you’re struggling with the pain of a breakup or still hoping your ex will come back, visit myexbackcoach.com for a step-by-step plan with Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit (see https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk). For men wanting to better understand how attraction works and how to be more grounded in relationships, visit MasculineDestiny.com for powerful, no-nonsense guidance. You’re not replaceable. Not even close. And this episode shows you why.

They don’t come back when you chase. They come back when you let go. In this video, Coach Lee explains why letting someone go often has a more powerful impact than trying to convince them to stay. If you're wondering why your ex suddenly comes back after you've stopped reaching out or walked away, this video will help you understand the psychology behind it. Letting go creates mystery, space, and the contrast they didn’t expect to feel. It shows strength instead of desperation—and that shift can change everything. 🔹 Want a proven plan to get your ex back? 👉 Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk 🔹 Want to become more grounded, attractive, and effective in relationships as a man? 👉 Masculine Destiny Course at https://MasculineDestiny.com On YouTube at "Why An Ex Comes Back When You Let Them Go"

In this episode, we’re digging into something a lot of people struggle with after a breakup. I'm talking about how to make your ex actually feel the loss. Not out of spite, not to play games, but because deep down, you know they took you for granted. Maybe they assumed you’d always be there. Maybe they expected you to fall apart or chase them the moment they walked away. And maybe… that’s exactly why they left in the first place. Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk Masculine Destiny (for men) at https://MasculineDestiny.com Coaching Session at https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/ But when you pull back—when you truly let go and stop showing up in ways they’ve grown used to—that’s when something unexpected happens. They start to feel it. Not right away, maybe not even consciously at first, but the absence settles in. And it’s different than silence. It’s strength. It’s peace. It’s self-respect. In this episode, I walk you through the reasons people tend to come back once you let go. You’ll learn why chasing only delays their regret, why your calm detachment shifts the entire dynamic, and how to carry yourself in a way that rewrites their memory of the breakup. If you’ve ever felt invisible after giving your best to someone, this episode is for you. We’re not talking about pretending to be okay—we’re talking about actually getting to a place where you are. And when that happens, you won’t need them to regret losing you. But ironically, that’s when they usually do. Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk Masculine Destiny at https://MasculineDestiny.com Coaching Session at https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

In this episode, we’re talking about something that hits deep: what it feels like when someone walks away—but expects you to wait. Maybe you’ve been there. You gave your heart, your time, your consistency… and in return, they gave confusion. Silence dressed up as “space.” Excuses instead of effort. And yet, part of you still held the door open, hoping they’d come back. This conversation is for the ones who waited—out of love, out of belief, out of loyalty—until one day, you realized that love shouldn’t feel like waiting in emotional limbo. Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk MEN, get Coach Lee's NEW Masculine Destiny course on attracting women and building rock-solid relationships at https://MasculineDestiny.com  We’ll unpack the subtle ways people try to keep a grip on you without actually choosing you. We’ll talk about why real love shows up, and why you’re not wrong for finally walking away from someone who never truly committed. If you’ve ever been told to “just be patient,” or if you’ve felt stuck between loving someone and losing yourself, this one’s for you. You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy for expecting someone to meet you halfway. Listen all the way through. You might just realize you’ve been giving too much to someone who never planned on giving it back—and that you’ve had the strength to let go all along. Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk MEN, get Coach Lee's NEW Masculine Destiny course on attracting women and building rock-solid relationships at https://MasculineDestiny.com 

Breakups are messy—even for the one who ends it. In this episode, I walk you through the timeline of what usually happens after someone breaks up with you. Not right away, but in the weeks and months that follow, there’s often a shift they didn’t expect. The relief fades. Doubt creeps in. And if you’ve gone quiet, that silence starts to get loud. We’ll talk about the common phases dumpers go through, why they sometimes reach out even when they’re not sure what they want, and what it really means when they start watching your stories or texting out of nowhere. If you’ve been left wondering what your ex is thinking—or hoping they’ll realize what they gave up—this one’s for you. Get my Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk Get my Masculine Destiny course for men at https://MasculineDestiny.com