Is This Female Friendship or Gay AF? Untangling Homoerotic WLW Dynamics

In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and ends with the messiest Who’s the Problem yet (yes, it involves towels).This conversation explores queer history, safety, allyship, feminism, chosen family, and why context matters more than hard rules.00:00 – Intro: married, queer & back for the new year02:10 – “Everyone’s a little bi?” identity & labels04:30 – The real question: straight people in queer spaces07:45 – Coming out in 2009 & first gay bar experiences12:05 – Why queer spaces feel intimidating (and necessary)15:10 – Straight friends, allies & knowing the culture18:45 – Lesbian spaces vs gay male spaces22:10 – When inclusion goes too far (and when it doesn’t)25:45 – Queer Camp: who it’s for and why it changed everything31:30 – Bars vs retreats: sex, safety & intention36:30 – Can you even “police” queerness?41:45 – WHO’S THE PROBLEM: The Towel Incident 🫠49:50 – Final thoughts & listener call-in#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerSpaces #Allyship #LesbianPodcast #StraightInGaySpaces #QueerCommunity #ChosenFamily #Feminism #WivesNotSisters #WhoIsTheProblemConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now?In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split.00:00 – Intro & why WLW breakups feel different03:10 – Emotional enmeshment in queer relationships07:40 – Why “let’s stay friends” often backfires12:50 – Identity loss after a WLW breakup18:30 – Attachment styles & emotional mirroring24:40 – Boundaries, no-contact & healing30:20 – Grief, longing & nervous system repair35:10 – What actually helps you move on40:00 – Closing reflections#WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcastConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Is it cheating… or just crossing a line?Alix and Kayla kick off the new year from Nicaragua by playing "Cheating or No?" —breaking down gray-area relationship scenarios like shared playlists, DMs, flirting, emotional affairs, and “we weren’t official” loopholes. They read listener-submitted cheating stories that include coworker crushes, wedding-night confessions, secret double lives, and queer awakenings sparked by one kiss. Honest, funny, and unfiltered conversations about boundaries, emotional intimacy, and why cheating isn’t always about sex.00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + lost episode recap02:50 Game: Cheating or No? (playlists, DMs, flirting, nudes)07:09 Listener cheating stories begin08:00 Emotional affair with a coworker13:45 Best friend confesses love before the wedding22:18 “It wasn’t cheating because it was a girl”28:20 Secret double life & poly vs monogamy35:10 “We weren’t official” situationship disaster40:20 Who’s the problem? Personal cheating story46:00 Is staying with a cheater worse than cheating?#CheatingOrNo #QueerPodcast #WLW #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalCheating #Situationships #QueerStories #DatingBoundariesConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Are homoerotic friendships a canon queer experience? 🌈Recording from their new studio in Nicaragua, Alix and Kayla dive into homoerotic WLW friendships—the kind that blur the line between “best friend” and “something more.” From red/green flag dating games to listener submissions about twin-bed cuddling, forehead kisses, shared Google Docs, and lifelong “what ifs,” this episode unpacks queer longing, closeted intimacy, and the friendships that change us forever. Plus: a late-addition deep dive into Wicked as the ultimate WLW-coded friendship.00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + new studio setup01:20 Listener submissions & why this episode exists02:40 Red Flag / Green Flag / Beige Flag (WLW edition)06:10 Common outcomes of homoerotic friendships08:45 Listener Story #1: “The book I never got to finish”15:30 Personal college story & grief, queerness, and longing19:40 More submissions: roommates, Google Docs, future fantasies28:55 Shooting your shot vs. staying silent38:30 High school crushes & delayed coming out46:20 Who’s the problem? (Spoiler: society)49:10 Wicked, Glinda & Elphaba, and WLW-coded friendships#QueerPodcast #WLW #HomoeroticFriendships #LesbianPodcast #QueerStories #Situationships #ComingOut #QueerCulture #WickedMovie #SapphicConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Family, queerness, religion, and the holidays—this episode goes deep. Alix and Kayla open up about navigating strained family relationships, missed weddings, religious rejection, reconciliation, and what it really takes to protect your peace as a queer couple during the holidays.From engagement fallout and parents not showing up, to rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, and creating chosen family traditions in Nicaragua—this is an honest, emotional, and deeply relatable conversation for anyone who’s ever felt unseen by their family.00:00 – Intro: married, not related, definitely codependent02:30 – Highs, lows & weirds of the week05:20 – Dreaming up a queer camp & chosen family07:00 – Family estrangement, phone anxiety & emotional triggers11:15 – Holidays, big families & complicated dynamics13:30 – Engagement fallout & family refusing to attend the wedding18:30 – Feeling invisible as a queer couple23:00 – Acceptance vs. avoidance in family systems29:00 – Therapy, boundaries & rebuilding relationships32:45 – Healing moments, unexpected growth & hope38:30 – Redefining holidays & creating new traditions43:00 – Religion, queerness & family rupture51:00 – Confrontation, truth, grief & clarity01:02:30 – Choosing peace, boundaries & moving forward#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #ChosenFamily #QueerMarriage #HolidayBoundaries #ReligiousTrauma #FamilyEstrangement #LesbianPodcast #HealingJourneys #QueerStories #WivesNotSistersConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this juicy, long-form episode, Alix and Kayla go deep into Caitlyn Jenner’s childhood, gender dysphoria, Olympic fame, marriages, parenting issues, transition timeline, political contradictions, and why the public remains so divided. Honest, funny, compassionate, and unfiltered.00:00 – Intro, reviews & coming-out stories01:20 – Why listeners say the show helped them come out04:40 – Caitlyn Jenner: pronouns & how she refers to her past06:30 – Childhood, dyslexia & early gender dysphoria08:20 – Athletics, college injury & the decathlon path11:50 – Olympic fame & America’s “golden couple” narrative13:10 – Marriages, kids & early controversies18:25 – Gender dysphoria during marriage & first transition attempt22:30 – Meeting Kris Jenner & the rise of the Kardashian empire34:20 – Parenting patterns & strained family relationships48:00 – Transition timeline, Diane Sawyer interview & media frenzy56:40 – Missteps, public criticism & political contradictions01:02:50 – Why the queer community is divided on Caitlyn Jenner#Podcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerStories #CaitlynJenner #TransHistory #PopCultureDeepDive #Kardashians #LGBTQCommunity #QueerMarriage #IdentityJourneyConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

This week on Wives Not Sisters, Alix & Kayla dive into your juiciest queer write-in questions—identity shifts, relationship changes, generational LGBTQ+ tensions, age-gap love, and what really counts as “queer representation.” It’s honest, hilarious, vulnerable, and very, very gay. 🌈We also play Underrated or Overrated (spoiler: baths don’t stand a chance), confront who’s the problem this week, and unpack the Sydney Sweeney “good jeans” chaos.00:00 – Intro: Married, codependent, and chaotic00:50 – Write-ins & why reviews matter02:00 – Naming the listeners: “Sister Wives”?02:33 – Underrated/Overrated (baths, therapy, matcha, astrology memes + more)06:21 – Queer Rants: Anonymous #1 – Identity shifts in a transitioning relationship10:15 – Lesbian identity vs. partner transition20:05 – Opening the relationship? Boundaries & self-trust25:56 – Queer Rant #2 – Older gays, younger gays & language policing30:25 – LGBTQ+ history, AIDS crisis & generational tension36:37 – Queer Rant #3 – Should only queer actors play queer roles?41:35 – Queer Rant #4 – Age-gap relationships & community judgment47:09 – Who’s the Problem? Hair-washing edition50:28 – Sydney Sweeney “good genes/jeans” debate54:50 – Outro & call to action#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #WivesNotSisters #QueerStories #LesbianPodcast #TransSupport #QueerCommunity #LGBTQHistory #AgeGapRelationship #QueerRepresentation #RelationshipAdvice #PodcastersOfYouTube #BuzzsproutPodcastsConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Alix and Kayla dive deep into the wild, chaotic, endlessly fascinating lore of Caroline Calloway — from Instagram fame and ghostwritten captions to book-deal drama, retreat controversies, and the blurred lines between “scam,” self-mythology, and survival. The wives break down the friendship between Caroline and Natalie Beach, the homoerotic tension, the internet cancellation, the workshops, the snake-oil era, and why queer audiences are obsessed with this story.If you love scammers, internet culture, WLW lore, or messy influencer history, this episode is for you.00:00 – Intro: Reviews, comments & community love01:30 – Who is Caroline Calloway?01:50 – Scam or Stan game (NFTs, Erewhon smoothies, retreats, astrology apps)04:50 – Breakup brands, viral masterclasses & influencer culture10:00 – Why Caroline’s story is “entertaining, not dangerous”11:00 – The WLW lore + homoerotic friendship dynamic18:00 – How Caroline built her Cambridge-era Instagram persona21:00 – Natalie ghostwrites captions & the early partnership28:20 – The $500K book deal & $100K advance30:30 – Addiction, missed deadlines & the fallout34:20 – Whose side are you on?35:20 – The infamous “workshops”37:00 – Is it a scam if people willingly pay?38:20 – The cancellations & venue chaos42:30 – Snake oil, villain era & Caroline’s pivot43:40 – “I Was Caroline Calloway” & Natalie’s takedown essay48:40 – Natalie’s book deal + riding coattails49:55 – Caroline’s tragic family news amid cancellation53:45 – Obsession, shamelessness & survival mode54:40 – New York era, OnlyFans, and rising again#CarolineCalloway #ScamOrStan #InfluencerCulture #NatalieBeach #InternetDrama #Podcast #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #MessyInfluencers #BookDealDrama #CarlowayLore #OnlineScams #InternetHistory #WomenWhoWrite #CouplePodcast #AlixAndKaylaConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

If you’ve ever argued about groceries, avoided showing your partner your skincare receipts, or wondered how to merge finances without losing your mind, this one’s for you! From $300 facials to $3,000 handbags, Venmo-requesting girlfriends, U-Haul financial disasters, queer throuple budgeting, and how not to commit tax fraud as a married couple — this episode has answers to the questions YOU submitted about managing money.01:35 – Splurge or Save: Dyson dryers, facials & quiet luxury05:26 – $3,000 handbags & the lost purse saga08:30 – Gear talk, e-bikes & used surfboards10:23 – Listener Q&A: Power dynamics & “my treat” vacations16:55 – Merging finances without losing your identity23:04 – Allowances, budgets & guilt-free spending31:16 – Queer throuple money management36:12 – Financial secrets & student loan surprises41:46 – Investing, retirement, & balancing present vs future45:01 – Gift giving gone wrong: The $1200 suit49:03 – U-Hauling & the IKEA spending spiral51:31 – Eloping, wedding budgets & cake regrets57:54 – Who’s the problem? (Hint: taxes.)01:01:00 – Closing & community love#LGBTQPodcast #QueerCouples #LesbianPodcast #MoneyTalks #RelationshipAdvice #WivesNotSisters #BudgetingTips #CouplesFinance #QueerLove #PodcastEpisodeConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into the internet discourse that blew up:Are lesbians allowed to have dating preferences—specifically around bi women or trans women—without being labeled discriminatory or TERFs? Check out the post that started the comments war HERE!This conversation isn’t about exclusion—it's about autonomy, nuance, and consent in queer dating.🎙️ Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll want to be in the comments for this one.02:00 – Why real conversations matter02:32 – Gay This or That (gay brunch vs. gay rave, U-Haul vs. slow burn, etc.)06:10 – Episode topic reveal: The TERF Talk07:40 – The viral reel that started everything10:39 – When “preferences” go viral12:15 – What TERF actually means16:44 – “Are we TERFs?”22:28 – Sexual preference vs. discrimination30:02 – Should we question our preferences?38:30 – “Why say it out loud?”43:26 – Preferences in queer culture (femme for femme, masc, etc.)51:06 – Why gay men don’t get this backlash56:21 – My body, my choice—also applies to dating01:02:17 – Who’s the problem? (Queer Ultimatum being cancelled)#LGBTQ #LesbianPodcast #QueerDating #TERFConversation #DatingPreferences #QueerRepresentation #PodcastClips #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #BuzzsproutPodcast #QueerCommunity #BiWomen #TransWomenAreWomen #MyBodyMyChoice #SapphicConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!