OMG…My First Time Hooking Up With Another Woman

17/2/2026

Wives Not Sisters

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What is it actually like the first time you’re with a woman?

In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about first times with girls — the magical ones, the awkward ones, the confusing ones, and the ones that quietly change everything. Drawing from listener stories, polls, and their own experiences, they explore what it means when desire finally makes sense, why some first times feel life-changing and others feel messy, and how fear, alcohol, shame, curiosity, and timing all shape our queer awakenings.

From being a “ ‘straight’ girl” at a gay bar to sober sex, baby gay panic, internalized homophobia, and the relief of realizing you’re not broken — just queer and nervous — this conversation is honest, funny, and deeply relatable.

Whether your first time was magical, chaotic, or still hasn’t happened yet, this episode is for anyone navigating queerness, curiosity, and the moments that quietly rewrite your story.

01:45 – Today’s Topic: First Time With a Girl
03:00 – Listener Poll Results: Magical vs Awkward First Times
05:30 – How Old Were You the First Time?
06:45 – Did You Come Out After?
08:00 – Game Time: First-Time Confessions
10:40 – Identity Crisis vs Peace After the First Time
12:00 – Listener Story: First Time With a Woman After Only Dating Men
14:45 – Feeling Like a Teenager Again
16:45 – Why Exploring Identity Matters (Even If It Changes)
18:00 – Is the First Time Scarier Without “Knowing What to Do”?
20:20 – Listener Story: A Bad First Time That Still Meant Something
23:20 – What Counts as “Lesbian Sex,” Anyway?
26:00 – Intentional vs Party Hookups
29:00 – When It Finally “Clicks”
31:00 – Listener Story: Calm, Clarity, and First-Time Love
33:00 – Dating Men vs Dating Women: The Intimacy Wall
36:45 – Wishing You’d Figured It Out Sooner
38:00 – Listener Story: Awkward, Nervous, Perfectly Imperfect
40:15 – Why the Build-Up Is Often the Hardest Part
42:30 – Hooking Up With Someone Who’s Never Been With a Girl
45:00 – Sober Sex, Alcohol, and Lowered Inhibitions
47:45 – “Who’s the Problem?” Baby Gay Panic Edition
52:00 – Internalized Homophobia vs Externalized Heterophobia
54:00 – Closing Thoughts: You’re Not Broken, You’re Queer