419 | Kim Evenson | Male Friendship

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On this episode: Aaron is tired and cleans the fridge. Nate talks about the dragon of our age. Our Guest: Aundi Kolber - licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, wife, and mom. She shares her journey of being raised in the Catholic church and complex trauma. She encourages us to be present, loving, honoring, and respecting ourselves along the journey as she discusses her books Strong Like Water and Try Softer. Links:   Aundi’s Website Aundi’s Instagram Psychology Today Aundi’s Books: Try Softer Try Softer Guided Journey Strong Like Water Strong Like Water Guided Journey Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron rides an exercise bike and figures out how to get paid to exercise. Nate reconsiders his gym membership. Our Guest: Michael Ayala-White, a Buffalo NY native, is a Trauma Informed Certified Coach who is located in Buffalo, NY, but his certification is global and does remote coaching with clients all over the country. He specializes in addiction recovery, inner child work, and trauma informed coaching. He talks about the differences between toxic shame and everyday shame and how to work on them in healthy ways. Michael discusses his disconnects between reading the Bible, memorizing verses, and his inability to stop his addiction. Helping us see that recovery and healing involves ALL of you and can take many paths. Links:   Wayward Coaching Michael’s Email Boulder Recovery Tin Man Ministries Voice of the Heart by: Chip Dodd Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by: Jay Stringer Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate observes people starting to walk on sidewalks. Aaron shares his crush on Anne of Green Gables. Our Guest: Kim Evenson comes to us from Oslo Norway by way of Australia. He discusses the desire and need for close male relationships. Kim shares the foundation of friendship being love, and including compassion, vulnerability, comfort, hugs, and seeing each other face to face. He started Brothers first out of selfish need, along with the desire to help others. We also consider friendship as we look at the relationships modeled by God and Jesus. Links:   Brothers Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss ADHD, convergent and divergent thinking. How someone with ADHD isn’t broken. Our Guest: Rachel Allen has lived in Alabama and Tennessee, and now calls Utah her home. She is a CSAT who works with a lot of women and couples. She shares her fascination with human behavior and how she started explaining sexuality to women in college. Rachel urges women not to Google Women’s Sexuality, especially in considering rape and purity culture, women’s masturbation, and sexual addiction. She educates on sexual anorexia, shame, body hate, control, and dopamine hits. Rachel also disputes society's incorrect message that women are responsible for men's thoughts. Links:   Healing Paths Recovery Rachel Allen’s Email Books: Come As You Are by: Emily Nagoski Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by: Peggy Orenstein Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD by: Susan Pinsky Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron and Nate each allow Dr. Andrew J. Bauman to lead them in some therapy work. This episode is subdivided into two parts: first with Aaron and then with Nate, where Dr. Bauman walks them through exercises to connect their mind, feelings, body, and spirit for healing. Andrew will be the lead speaker at the 2024 Samson Summit, sharing how we can be closer to God through engaging our secrets and shame.  Links:   Andrew J. Bauman Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Dr. Tamara Rosier. Dr. Tamara is an ADHD coach, and the founder of the ADHD Center in West Michigan. She shares her knowledge and history of ADHD going back to the 1800’s. Ways to cope with the thing that gives you reoccurring anxiety, including emotionally engineering your day. The fact that ADHD people are more susceptible to addiction, because dopamine makes them feel more “normal.” Other topics include ADHD in marriage, supporting kids with ADHD, Convergent and Divergent Thinking, and flight, flight, freeze, and appease. Links:  d Dr. Tamara Rosier Books: Your Brain’s Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron debate one day for p@rn. Nate updates us on his speaking engagements. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guests, Chelsea and Layton Boeve. Chelsea and Layton host the Liberator podcast. The Michiganders share their journey that brought them to their passion for strong and healthy relationships. Layton grew up without TV and became a voracious reader which started his journey into fantasy and later porn. Chelsea brings us to an understanding of how trust is broken with image consumption. The couple shares how healing in a relationship happens as fast as the weaker person heals. Links:   Liberator Podcast Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss 13 foot, 5 inch Oscar. Nate builds a screened-in treehouse. Our Guest: Natives of Miami, Josh and Charlene share their real-life experiences with alcoholism and substance abuse. Josh also talks about sex and work addiction and trading one addiction for another as part of his recovery in 12-step. Charlene’s journey in recovery includes becoming a certified addiction professional and an IITAP certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Josh’s journey includes becoming a sponsor and recovery coach. Together they have created an online intensive program for outpatient recovery treatment. Links:   Intimacy E-HAB Books: Comfort Crisis By: Michael Easter Scarcity Brain By: Michael Easter Addict America By: Dr. Carol Clark Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Pablito and Rob didn’t get fired. Rob feels different ages when he dances. Is dancing a metaphor for life? Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome Jeremy Morris. Jeremy is from Western Idaho and brings a majestic beard and loads of life experience. He engages the lie that if others really knew us, they wouldn’t love us. Talking about your story in the present, sharing where the battle IS. Discussing the differences of transparency and vulnerability. Rejoicing with those who rejoice, and mourning with those who mourn. Honoring each other with our time, holding the tension, not correction. The safety in avoiding discussing work or career in recovery settings. Links:   Wild Courage Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.