Healing Beyond Trauma

For decades, the path to healing from domestic violence trauma was long, arduous, and often incomplete. Laura Frombach's powerful journey demonstrates why that happens and how dramatically the path to healing has changed.Growing up with two alcoholic parents in a violent household, Laura witnessed her mother's startling transformation from a kind person to someone cruel and sadistic. Only decades later did Laura connect this personality shift to likely traumatic brain injury caused by her father's repeated abuse. This revelation came amid Laura's own struggles with alcoholism and recovery, including a devastating relapse after 16 years of sobriety and 20 years of talk therapy.The game-changer? Discovering that trauma lives not just in our thoughts but in our bodies. "I found out that trauma doesn't just live in your mind, it lives in your nervous system. It buries itself in your muscles, your gut and even your breath," Laura explains. Through body-based healing approaches like EMDR, somatic therapy, and breath work, Laura finally accessed and processed trauma that talk therapy had only helped her name but not feel.Joy Farrow, a retired deputy sheriff with 28 years of law enforcement experience, adds critical perspective on why this matters beyond individual healing. She explains how understanding trauma biology transforms how we respond to survivors: "For far too long we expected survivors to give clear, linear stories. But trauma scrambles the memory because it's stored in the body, not just the brain." This insight changes everything from how survivors testify to how quickly they can reclaim their lives.What took Laura 50 years might now be possible in months or years rather than decades. This offers profound hope to anyone who feels healing is out of reach. As Laura says, "As long as you are breathing, healing is never out of reach." Whether you're a survivor, support person, or helping professional, this episode provides vital information about cutting-edge trauma recovery approaches and why the body must be enlisted in the healing process. Listen now to discover how these breakthroughs are changing lives and offering new paths to recovery.

The digital world has become a hunting ground where algorithms serve as silent recruiters, pulling vulnerable young men toward misogynistic ideologies at alarming speeds. This eye-opening conversation with experts Laura Frombach and Joy Farrow reveals the disturbing reality of how technology amplifies hatred against women and girls.When researchers created a fake social media account for a 16-year-old boy, the algorithm began serving misogynistic content within just 23 minutes. This isn't coincidence – it's systematic grooming at an algorithmic level. While human predators might take months to isolate and indoctrinate victims, today's AI-powered platforms accomplish the same goal with frightening efficiency through data-backed feedback loops that constantly refine their effectiveness.The most troubling aspect is how this online radicalization translates directly into real-world violence. We examine three chilling case studies where digital hate found deadly physical expression, including the notorious Isla Vista killings by Elliot Roger and the Parkland High School shooting. These weren't isolated incidents caused by individual pathology alone – they represent the culmination of algorithmic radicalization pathways that validate and amplify harmful ideologies.For parents, educators and concerned citizens, addressing this crisis requires immediate action. Our experts provide practical strategies for engaging with youth about their online activities, teaching comprehensive media literacy, and effectively intervening when someone shows signs of radicalization. Most importantly, they emphasize the need to "call out the content but call in the viewer" – recognizing that many drawn to toxic content are primarily seeking connection rather than hatred itself.

Could your kindness be putting you in danger? This eye-opening conversation with Laura Frombach and Joy Farrow reveals how predators don't actually look for weakness—they deliberately target kindness, empathy, and accommodation. In this episode, Laura Frombach shares her powerful personal story of growing up with generational domestic violence, watching her once very kind mother transform under years of abuse and coercive control. Her journey to understanding took 50 years, ultimately revealing that domestic violence doesn't just harm the victim physically—it fundamentally alters their psychology, creating a cage they cannot escape. Laura's technological background offers a fresh lens: women's safety intuition is hardware, but society installs politeness "software" that teaches us to override our natural protective instincts.Joy Farrow, drawing from her 28 years as a deputy sheriff, provides chilling examples of notorious predators who expertly hid behind respectable facades. From Larry Nassar to Ted Bundy, these individuals specifically targeted women who were empathetic, trusting, and unlikely to establish firm boundaries. This counterintuitive understanding challenges everything we thought we knew about victimhood.The conversation delivers practical "software updates" for women: speaking instincts aloud, rehearsing boundary-setting like CPR, making politeness optional rather than default, and surrounding yourself with boundary-respecting women. Most importantly, they help listeners recognize "fawning"—being nice out of fear—as a trauma response that keeps women vulnerable to manipulation.Whether you've experienced domestic violence firsthand or simply want to better protect yourself and loved ones, this conversation offers transformative insights about reclaiming your instincts and establishing boundaries without apology. Your kindness is a strength—but only when paired with clear boundaries that keep you safe.

The battleground of family court has become a dangerous landscape for survivors of domestic violence and their children. When abusers wield the controversial theory of parental alienation syndrome as a weapon, protective parents often find themselves losing custody to the very people they're trying to escape.Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer of Genesis Women's Shelter & Support, pulls back the curtain on this troubling dynamic, explaining how a scientifically disputed theory from the 1980s continues to influence family court decisions with devastating consequences. We explore how protective behaviors—teaching children to recognize danger, set boundaries, and seek help—are frequently mischaracterized as attempts to "alienate" children from an abusive parent.The stakes couldn't be higher. Research shows children exposed to domestic violence face staggering long-term risks: they're 50 times more likely to abuse substances, 74 times more likely to commit violent crimes, and six times more likely to attempt suicide. When courts fail to recognize post-separation abuse tactics—using children as informants, undermining the protective parent's authority, or manipulating children psychologically—they inadvertently become accomplices in continued trauma.But there is hope. Ms. Guerreiro shares powerful insights about effective interventions that help children heal, including attachment therapy, trauma processing, and teaching critical thinking skills about healthy relationships. She offers practical guidance for rebuilding connection and stability, from creating family traditions to implementing consistent boundaries that counter the chaos of abuse.This episode challenges us to reconsider how we protect our most vulnerable citizens, advocating for family courts that prioritize children's safety above all else. Whether you're a survivor navigating custody issues, a professional working in family services, or simply concerned about child welfare, you'll come away with a deeper understanding of these complex dynamics and the tools needed to make a difference.

What happens when childhood trauma meets unwavering resilience? Katherine (Kat) Omo-Osagie's story answers this question with extraordinary power and grace.At just six years old, Kat witnessed unimaginable violence when her father shot her mother multiple times before taking his own life. Today, she stands tall as Miss Lewisville, a contestant in the 2025 Miss Texas pageant, a college scholar on a presidential scholarship, and a passionate mentor to young children finding their own paths.Kat takes us through her remarkable journey of healing - from the frightened child who lost her confidence in elementary school, to the middle schooler who was bullied when classmates discovered her family's experience through online searches, to the high achiever who still struggled with feeling "good enough" despite external success. With remarkable self-awareness, she articulates how trauma manifests differently throughout various life stages, creating new challenges even as she builds strength.The turning point came through pageantry, something Kat never imagined herself doing. Winning Miss Texas Teen in 2021 with her platform "Break the Cycle of Abuse" transformed the very story she once hid from into her greatest strength. "It was a really cool full circle moment to have this story of my family that was something I used to hide from...and then suddenly bring light to it and then have all this success because of it."Kat's philosophy, inherited from her resilient mother Stephanie Bond, that "adversity breeds success if you let it," shines through every aspect of her life. Her commitment to mentorship through Big Brothers Big Sisters reflects her desire to be for others what she needed as a child.This conversation isn't just about surviving domestic violence—it's about transforming pain into purpose and using your story to create ripples of positive change. As Kat eloquently puts it: "I never want to waste such a horrible thing that happened. If there can be good done with it..." Her journey reminds us that our deepest wounds can become our greatest gifts to the world.

Sara Sherbill's powerful memoir "There Was Night and There Was Morning" takes its title from the book of Genesis, establishing a profound metaphor for her life's journey from darkness to light. As the daughter of a respected rabbi who terrorized his family behind closed doors, Sarah lived a "split-screen reality" - presenting the perfect religious family image to the community while enduring horrific abuse at home.The weight of this duality crushed Sara for decades. As the eldest of five children, she felt responsible for maintaining the facade of a wholesome religious lifestyle while privately suffering at the hands of her father. This burden of secrecy and performance dominated her childhood until she finally reached a breaking point in high school when concerns for her mother's safety led her to alert authorities.What makes Sara's story particularly compelling is her unflinching examination of the complex relationship between religion and abuse. Her father specifically sought the rabbinate hoping it would "keep him in check," suggesting he possessed some awareness of his darker impulses. This revelation illuminates how religious structures can simultaneously provide cover for abusers while offering victims a framework for understanding their experiences. Sarah doesn't condemn religion itself but shows how it can be weaponized by those seeking control.The redemption in Sara's story comes not through forgiveness or reconciliation with her abuser, but through finding her voice. After discovering her father's abuse had expanded beyond family to include young women in his Florida congregation, she began publishing essays about her experiences, eventually culminating in this memoir. Through writing, Sarah transformed shame into strength and silence into power, freeing herself from carrying the burden of her father's actions with the profound realization: "I was not the man who did this... I'm just his daughter."Ready to break your own silence? Sara's journey from trauma to redemption shows how naming our pain can be the first step toward healing. 

What warning signs did we all miss? In the wake of Gabby Petito's tragic murder by her fiancé Brian Laundrie, situational awareness expert Kelly Sayre joins host Maria MacMullin to fulfill Joe Petito's call to action—using his daughter's story as a learning tool to help others recognize the dangerous patterns of abuse before they turn deadly.Kelly breaks down abusive behaviors through the lens of situational awareness, defining it as "using all your senses and intuition to notice when something is off in your environment, understanding what it means to your safety, and taking action." This framework provides listeners with practical tools to identify potentially dangerous relationships, whether in their own lives or those of loved ones.The conversation examines specific red flags from Gabby's relationship: her tendency to take all blame during the Moab police encounter, Brian's tactics to isolate her from friends and family, his financial abuse that undermined her independence, and the controlling behaviors disguised as concern. Most importantly, Kelly emphasizes that severe domestic violence rarely begins with physical attacks—it starts with psychological manipulation that gradually escalates.Perhaps most powerful is the discussion about intuition as a biological safety mechanism. "Intuition is not a prankster," Kelly explains. "It's simply trying to let you know something in your environment is off." Both experts encourage listeners to trust that gut feeling when something doesn't seem right in a relationship, as this instinct exists to preserve our safety.Whether you're concerned about your own relationship or trying to support someone you love, this episode offers crucial insights into recognizing abuse patterns early. Trust your intuition, maintain your boundaries, and remember that knowledge is power when it comes to personal safety. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it—it could save a life.

What happens when your abuser carries a badge and a gun? For victims of officer-involved domestic violence, the journey to safety becomes a dangerous maze with few exits.Bruce Bieber joins us with the heartbreaking story of his daughter Abby – a rising star deputy sheriff who was murdered by her intimate partner, himself a detective in the same sheriff's office. This wasn't a random tragedy but the culmination of systemic failure, as her killer had previously been reported for domestic violence years earlier, only to have the incident swept under the rug.Through tears and determination, Bruce reveals how his quest for answers uncovered layers of institutional protection that prioritized shielding officers over protecting victims. When he discovered that approximately 40% of police families experience domestic abuse – potentially hundreds of thousands of households – he transformed his grief into purpose.The parallels between Abby's case and countless others expose a chilling pattern: documentation disappears, investigations vanish, and perpetrators not only remain employed but often advance in their careers. Questions about the failure of fellow officers to intervene when Abby was killed reveal uncomfortable truths about the "blue wall of silence" that protects abusers in uniform.Bruce is now fighting for legislation requiring Florida's law enforcement agencies to adopt protocols for handling cases when the abuser wears a badge. His urgent message resonates beyond one family's tragedy: if we immediately act when officers commit robbery or deal drugs, why do we still treat domestic violence as a private matter rather than the crime it is?Share this powerful episode with someone who needs to hear it, and join us in breaking the silence around officer-involved domestic violence.

When Lynn Stroud was 20 years old, her boyfriend deliberately violated their agreed-upon method of contraception following a birth control failure. His casual dismissal – claiming he "forgot" and was "drunk" – masked a calculated attempt to trap her through pregnancy. What followed was a harrowing journey through reproductive coercion, a form of intimate partner violence that remains largely invisible despite affecting a quarter of domestic violence survivors.Lynn's powerful testimony takes us through the red flags she missed, the isolation she felt when facing an unwanted pregnancy while her partner pressured her toward marriage, and the trauma of seeking care without support. Her boyfriend's refusal to help – financially, emotionally, or logistically – underscores the complex dynamics of reproductive coercion. This wasn't merely about pregnancy; it was about control, power, and the systematic dismantling of her autonomy. The relationship later escalated into stalking, intimidation, and further abuse that continued for years.Today, Lynn channels her painful experiences into education and advocacy. She helps survivors recognize the warning signs of reproductive coercion: pressure and guilt around pregnancy decisions, unreasonable excuses to avoid contraception, and threats related to reproductive choices. While legal protections remain woefully inadequate – only four U.S. states have specific laws addressing even one form of reproductive coercion (stealthing) – Lynn's advocacy points toward a future where survivors have both voice and recourse. Her message resonates powerfully in our current climate, where reproductive rights face significant challenges and the conversation around consent continues to evolve. By sharing her story, Lynn offers both validation for survivors and a blueprint for change in how we understand, discuss, and address this hidden form of abuse.

Navigating the aftermath of sexual assault often leaves survivors feeling adrift without a comprehensive roadmap. Cheyenne Wilson transformed her own traumatic experience into a powerful resource that builds bridges over these information gaps. Her book, "We Are the Evidence: A Handbook for Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault," provides the comprehensive guide she desperately sought but couldn't find during her own healing journey.Wilson masterfully unpacks the critical role language plays in survivors' experiences. She explains how definitions have evolved from narrow constructs that excluded many victims to more inclusive terminology that validates diverse experiences. When survivors question whether their experiences "count" if they didn't fight back or say no, these clarifications become lifelines. The distinction between advocacy language and legal definitions helps survivors navigate both healing and justice pathways with greater confidence.The episode illuminates the vital differences between community advocates (who maintain confidentiality and focus on survivor wellbeing) and victim witness advocates (who work with prosecution). For women of color and indigenous women, additional cultural and historical barriers make accessing support even more challenging. Wilson compassionately addresses these complexities while highlighting specialized resources like the National Organization of Sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault.What makes Wilson's approach revolutionary is its trauma-informed methodology. She integrates survivor stories for validation, builds in mindful check-ins for processing, and structures the handbook to be accessed in any order based on individual needs. This acknowledgment that healing isn't linear empowers survivors to engage with difficult information on their terms. Whether documenting assault evidence, understanding reporting options, or exploring alternatives like restorative justice, Wilson ensures readers maintain agency throughout.Join us for this essential conversation about creating pathways to healing that honor survivors' experiences and needs. Whether you're supporting someone who's experienced sexual assault or seeking resources for yourself, this episode offers concrete tools, validation, and hope for the journey ahead.