Trying to Work Your Way Out of Shame? That’s Not Hustle—That’s a Firefighter

You wake up with a pounding heart, a foggy memory, and a sinking feeling in your gut.   “Did I say something I regret?” “Did I break a promise?” “Why did I drink again?”   That’s the regret spiral—and it’s brutal.   In today’s episode, I walk you through 5 tools that can help you stop spiralling and start repairing. From radical compassion to healthy responsibility, you’ll learn how to transform regret into integrity and move one step closer to living a SELF-led life, alcohol-free-as-fuck.   This one’s for the STRIVER who wants to stop waking up ashamed—and start waking up aligned.   Let’s get you out of that spiral.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #AlcoholAwareness #RegretSpiral #ShameHealing #AlcoholFreeLife #EmotionalSobriety #IFS #SelfLeadership #QuitDrinking #SobrietySupport #AlcoholRecovery

You stopped drinking, but you still can’t stop doing.   You grind through the weekends, chase one more task, skip rest, and call it “purpose.” But what if that’s not your SELF talking?   In this deeply personal episode, Lee Davy flips the script on hustle culture and exposes the hidden firefighter that drives overworking long after the alcohol is gone. It’s not passion. It’s panic. It’s not productivity. It’s protection.   Lee reveals how his workaholism was never about ambition—it was a trauma response in disguise. If you’ve ever skipped rest because “you can’t afford to stop,” this episode is for you.   We talk about: – How childhood shame becomes adult hustle – Why you’re not lazy—you’re scared to be still – How to tell if your work ethic is a PART, not your SELF – The cost of overworking on your relationships – A powerful vow to break the cycle today   This one isn’t about time management.   It’s about soul reclamation.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #WorkaholismRecovery #EmotionalSobriety #IFSHealing #ProductivityCulture #Overworking #StillnessHeals #SelfLedLife #TraumaHealing #AlcoholFreeJourney

What if the problem isn’t your drinking, your spending, or your spirals—but your nervous system’s capacity to hold pain, joy, and truth?   In this powerful conversation, Preston Smiles—author, coach, and embodiment guide—joins Lee to challenge the hustle-addicted, trauma-avoiding way most of us have been conditioned to live. Together, they explore how early childhood wounds, societal approval traps, and unresolved shame shrink our emotional capacity and drive our escape behaviours.   From redefining success beyond money to unpacking our deepest secrets with safe humans, this episode is a deep dive into nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and the REAL path to spiritual wealth.   Whether you’re caught in a loop of doing, numbing, or seeking validation, Preston offers a new model: being, breathing, and belonging.   Listen, if you’re ready to: – Understand why your nervous system snaps under pressure – Expand your capacity to feel joy, grief, and everything in between – Heal shame and secrets you’ve buried for years – Build trust when it feels impossible – Live from truth, not trauma   Preston doesn’t offer tips. He offers transformation.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #PrestonSmiles #LeeDavy #STRIVE #nervoussystemhealing #traumarecovery #somatichealing #innerchild #spiritualgrowth #emotionalresilience #AFAF #sobrietywithoutshame #selfledlife #healingjourney #spiritualmillionaire #podcastinterview #alcoholawareness

You say you’ve moved on. That you’ve forgiven. But your body? Your breath? Your triggers? They tell a different story.   In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I explore the hidden cost of unforgiveness—especially the kind that’s directed at you. The version of you who stayed too long. Who drank to survive. Who tried to hold it all together while silently falling apart.   We’ve been sold a lie: that forgiveness is letting someone else off the hook.   But real forgiveness?   It’s about letting you off the hook.   Because alcohol didn’t just numb the pain—it numbed the truth. And that truth needs to be met with compassion, not control.   Let’s rewrite the old story your PARTS are still carrying.   Let’s return to SELF.   🎧 In this episode, you’ll learn: – Why alcohol often masks unresolved self-blame – How unforgiveness can keep you stuck in the past – The simple practice that helps you forgive yourself – Why forgiveness is power—not passivity   And remember: you don’t need a drink.   You need you.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #Forgiveness #SelfCompassion #QuitDrinking #SoberCurious #EmotionalHealing #IFS #AlcoholRecovery #LetGoAndLive #DailySobriety #ForgiveYourself #SelfLedLiving #TheLiquidLie

Have you ever kissed someone… and felt lonelier afterwards?   Today’s episode isn’t about the cute kind of kissing. It’s about the kind you regret. The kind that didn’t feel safe. The kind that happened while alcohol whispered, “Go on—you deserve this.”   Whether you’re still drinking or years into an alcohol-free life, this conversation is essential.   Because intimacy doesn’t start in the bedroom.   It starts with presence.   And when you’re not in SELF, you’re not kissing from truth—you’re kissing from trauma.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I share the difference between PARTS-kissing and SELF-kissing, how alcohol hijacks your most intimate moments, and what it takes to kiss, touch, and love from a place of sovereignty and connection.   If you’ve ever confused validation for love… If you’ve ever looked back on a kiss and wondered, “What was I thinking?”… If you want to feel safe in your body before you feel close to someone else…   This episode is for you.   And it just might change the way you kiss—forever.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholAwareness #TheLiquidLie #QuitDrinking #SoberCurious #IntimacyRecovery #SelfLedLiving #IFS #KissingDay #EmotionalSobriety #AlcoholFreeLife

Imagine arsonists launching a fire safety campaign. That’s exactly what it feels like when alcohol giants like Diageo, AB InBev, and Pernod Ricard team up with Meta, Uber Eats, and TikTok to lead a “responsible drinking” coalition. Sounds noble, right? But peel back the layers, and it’s nothing more than PR spin—designed to soften a deadly truth.   In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I dismantle the myth of “responsible drinking,” expose the illusion of “responsible marketing,” and challenge you to see the alcohol economy for what it truly is: a tightly woven web of profit, manipulation, and social conditioning.   This is not about moderation. This is about honesty. And it starts with naming the Liquid Lie.   🎧 Today’s episode uncovers: – Why “harm reduction” campaigns distract from the real danger – How alcohol marketing glamorises poison while pretending to promote wellness – Five signs Big Alcohol is manipulating you without you even realising – A STRIVER’s call to live from truth, not illusion   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #AlcoholKills #ResponsibleDrinkingIsALie #AlcoholFreeLiving #AlcoholAwareness #PublicHealthNotProfit #SoberCurious #AlcoholTruth #SelfLedLiving #EndTheLiquidLie #BigAlcoholExposed

You wave the flag. You fire up the grill. You pop open a drink… because that’s how you’re supposed to celebrate, right?   But what if that drink isn’t celebration—it’s control? What if your subconscious still believes: “I need alcohol to feel free.”   In this July 4th episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy confronts the hidden dependency behind our holiday rituals.   He shares the personal story of a 4th of July relapse, unpacks the Liquid Lie, and shows you how to build real independence—not with willpower, but with preparation, presence, and practice.   ✅ What you’ll learn in today’s episode: – Why drinking on Independence Day might prove you’re not free – How to prepare for parties without pressure – Why embodiment—not just insight—breaks the Liquid Lie – The simple vow that can change how you show up this holiday   Today isn’t just another BBQ. It’s a chance to live from SELF.   Much love, and STRIVE on!     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #quitdrinking #4thofJuly #alcoholfreecelebration #independenceday #soberliving #selfledliving #TheLiquidLie

A pint. A photograph. A father’s approval.   What if your first drink wasn’t about the alcohol at all—but about being seen?   In this powerful episode, I reflect on a single, blurry photo from my childhood. I was 14, holding a pint, trying to become a man. But what I really wanted was my dad’s love.   This story isn’t just mine. It’s a quiet legacy passed down from father to son, mother to daughter—wrapped in lager, silence, and the Liquid Lie.   You’ll see how one pint became a shortcut to manhood, how alcohol stood in for connection, and how we can lead our kids differently.   If you’ve ever wondered where your drinking story really began… this episode is for you.   🎧 Listen now—and join the movement to lead a SELF-led life, AFAF. #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #STRIVEMethod, #AFAF, #AlcoholFreeParenting, #FatherhoodWithoutAlcohol, #BreakingGenerationalTrauma, #AlcoholAwareness, #TheLiquidLie, #SelfLedLiving, #QuitDrinking, #SoberCurious, #GenerationalHealing

You ever try to quit drinking and end up thinking, “What the hell is wrong with me?” You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re just fighting the wrong enemy.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I reveal the truth about resistance—why it keeps you stuck, and why willpower has nothing to do with it. I take you back to a story from the railways, a moment when I quit smoking without a single craving for 25 years—not because I tried harder, but because I led from SELF.   This episode is about the war we wage with our protectors. About why shaming yourself never works. And about what happens when you stop yelling at your resistance… and start listening to it instead.   If you’ve ever relapsed and blamed yourself… If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I just can’t stop…” This one’s for you.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #QuitDrinking #AlcoholFreeLife #SelfLedLiving #AlcoholRecovery #EmotionalIntelligence #IFS #CognitiveBehaviouralTherapy #SobrietyJourney #ResistanceHealing #WillpowerIsNotEnough #PermissionNotPunishment #HealingWithSELF #PartsWork #AlcoholTruth #LiveAFAF

Ever find yourself barking at your partner, then hating yourself for it?   I’ve been there—yelling in the kitchen, slamming doors, watching my marriage teeter on the edge… all while trying to convince myself I was “working on it.”   But I wasn’t working on it.   I was drinking through it.   And here’s the truth: you can’t fix your relationship with alcohol in the mix. You can’t talk to your partner like an adult when your PARTS are throwing a tantrum. And you can’t expect their compassion when you’ve lost access to yours.   In this episode, I share a hard-earned lesson that saved my marriage and reshaped every conflict I now face:   When adults argue, it’s usually two scared kids shouting through grown-up mouths. And the way out? Learn to speak like your partner is eight years old.   Not with condescension—but with compassion. With presence. With SELF.   If you’re alcohol-free—or trying to be—but still blowing up over bullshit, this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholfree #selfledliving #marriagetips #communicationtips #IFS #emotionallyregulation #healingrelationships #alcoholawareness #relationshipadvice #innerchildwork #alcoholrecovery #sobrietyjourney #alcoholtruth #emotionalintelligence #drinklesslivebetter