265. Stalking Her IG Again? Stop Comparing Yourself to Others With This NLP Technique

You're scrolling Instagram again. You see her. The one who's always launching something new, making the kind of money you want, living the life you dream about. And before you know it, you're 45 minutes deep comparing yourself to others, analysing their content, checking their engagement, and feeling heavy as hell.This comparison spiral is not costing you only time but your self trust, your self belief, and your ability to build the business you actually want.In today's episode I'm breaking down the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in comparison mode, what it's doing to your subconscious mind, and an NLP technique called perceptual positions that completely flips the pattern. I'm showing you how to rewire your brain to use other people's success as evidence for what's possible, instead of proof that you're not enough.This episode is different! We're doing the technique together, so find somewhere you can actually do this work. Because successful women entrepreneurs aren't the ones constantly checking what everyone else is doing. They're the ones backing themselves fully.Let's break the pattern.Topics covered on Stop Comparing Yourself To Others:Why comparing yourself to others is actually your subconscious keeping you safe (and what it's really protecting you from)The three limiting beliefs driving your comparison spiral and how they're teaching your subconscious you can't be trustedHow comparison destroys your self belief and keeps you invisible (even when you think you're being productive)The exact NLP technique I use to flip comparison into evidenceWhy studying successful women entrepreneurs from the wrong place keeps you stuck in "learning mode" foreverHow to rewire your brain to interpret other people's success as proof it's possible for you tooWhat becomes available when you stop checking what she's doing and start building self trust insteadConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-this-nlp-technique

There's one trait I see in every genuinely successful entrepreneur I work with and it's not what you think. It's not strategy, work ethic, or even talent. It's deep, subconscious self belief that operates independently of circumstances. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self belief actually is (versus what most people think it is), the subconscious mechanism behind it, why most capable people don't have it, and exactly how to build it if you don't have it yet. Plus, I'm taking you through a powerful subconscious exercise to uncover what's actually blocking you from trusting yourself fully.This is the foundational work that changes everything in your business.Topics covered on Why self belief is the defining trait of successful entrepreneurs:What self belief actually is versus confidence (and why the difference matters)The subconscious mechanism behind self belief and how threat responses show up in businessReal examples of how self belief (or lack of it) shows up in business behaviourWhy incredibly capable people still don't trust themselvesThe role of identity in self-belief and why you'll sabotage anything that contradicts your current identitySubconscious exercise: Uncovering your actual beliefs about your goalsHow to build genuine self belief through evidence accumulation and subconscious reprogrammingWhat becomes possible when you develop deep self trustConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-self-belief-is-more-important-than-strategy-subconscious-secrets

Your conscious mind has committed to your 2026 vision. But your subconscious? It's not convinced. In this episode, I break down the exact mechanism of how your subconscious works and give you the daily protocol to reprogram it so your mind is finally aligned with where you're taking your business. Learn the three modalities that actually rewire your subconscious, the RAS activation technique that trains your brain to notice what you're becoming and the exact journaling, hypnotherapy, and visualisation practice you can start today.Topics covered on How to Make Your Subconscious Believe:How your subconscious mind actually worksThe three modalities that reprogram your subconscious (visualisation, hypnotherapy, journaling from identity)The RAS Primer: priming your Reticular Activating System first thing in the morningThe Integration Protocol: your daily practice to align your mind with your visionWhy assuming the belief works better than trying to believe itThe guided visualisation: connecting with your 2026 identityThe 30 day challenge: exactly what to commit toConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious Membership for more hypnotherapy workCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-make-your-subconscious-believe-what-you-consciously-want

The Winter Arc, yes a TikTok trend but also a subconscious integration period. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a winter arc actually is from a subconscious perspective, why the Christmas period specifically matters for your brain and how to use this season to lock in your 2026 identity before the calendar even flips.This is the hidden work that makes everything easier when January comes.Topics covered on The Winter Arc | How I'm Locking In Before 2026:What a winter arc actually is (the subconscious version, not the aesthetic version)Why your brain is naturally moving into a reorganisation period right nowWhy the Christmas period specifically matters for identity workThe three subconscious mechanics that make this season incredibly powerfulHow to use this time wisely (the DOs and DON'Ts from a brain mechanics perspective)My personal lock in process before 2026Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/the-winter-arc-subconscious-edition-how-i-am-locking-in-for-2026

Are you writing your affirmations 55 times a day and wondering why nothing's changed? Let me tell you something... Yes, manifestation techniques work, but not for the reasons TikTok tells you. It’s just good old subconscious programming.In today's episode, I'm breaking down the viral manifestation methods everyone on TikTok is obsessed with right now: the 369 manifestation method, future journaling, vision boards, the 55x5 method, and acting as if.I'm going to tell you how manifestation works and explain what's actually happening in your brain when you do these manifestation techniques because it's not the ritual that creates the magic but the good old subconscious mind programming. So next time someone tells you they scripted their dream partner and he showed up in three weeks, you'll know it wasn’t moon dust. It was the neuroscience of manifestation.I'm not here to kill the magic. I want you to keep it. But I also want you to stop outsourcing your power to a ritual and start using your mind like the powerful tool it actually is. Because when you understand the mechanics, you stop waiting for alignment and you start creating it.Topics covered on Why Manifestation Isn’t Magic... It’s Just Good Subconscious Programming:How does the 369 manifestation method actually work, and when does it completely fail?What’s happening in your brain when you’re scripting or doing future journaling, and why are most people doing it wrong?Why is your vision board collecting dust instead of creating results?Is the 55x5 method just a short-term dopamine hit?How does "acting as if" become embodied instead of just pretending (yes, your nervous system knows the difference)?What is your reticular activating system, and what role does it play in every manifestation technique?What’s the actual process that creates lasting results, and how is it different from viral manifestation methods?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-manifestation-isnt-magic-its-just-good-subconscious-programming

How often do you end your day thinking, "I could have done more"? If you're a high achiever constantly pushing, criticising, never feeling like enough, I have news for you. It's your subconscious protecting you.That voice that says, "work harder, fix it, you're not there yet," isn't discipline. It's not your high achiever nature. It's a part of you that learnt a long time ago that performance equals safety. And now? It's bloody exhausted!In today's episode, I'm taking you back to where that subconscious pattern started, and we're going to use parts work to meet the part that makes you so hard on yourself. We'll uncover the limiting beliefs that keep you in this cycle, find out why it fights so hard when you try to rest, and I'll show you how to not be so hard on yourself through subconscious mind reprogramming so you can finally rest without feeling guilty.Because you can be ambitious, successful, and still be nice to yourself. Wild concept, I know! If stillness feels dangerous and your to-do list shows up the second you sit down, this episode is for you. Let's stop confusing pressure with protection.Topics covered on Why You’re So Hard on Yourself: Why does being hard on yourself feel like the only way to stay safe?What if the voice pushing you isn’t discipline, but a terrified part trying to protect you?How did your subconscious learn that performance equals love and acceptance?Why does rest feel so dangerous when you’ve trained your brain that constant motion means safety?What happens when you acknowledge the part that’s been pushing you for years instead of fighting it?Is it possible to rewire your brain to crave rest as much as it currently craves pressureHow do high achievers break free from the dopamine-cortisol loop?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-youre-so-hard-on-yourself

"How am I supposed to protect my mindset when no one around me gets it?" I get this question at least once a week. Welcome to the stage of growth that no one prepares you for!When you start doing deep inner work, you'll be changing faster than everyone around you. You'll be healing, expanding, and suddenly the people closest to you are looking at you like they don't recognise you anymore. Your partner doesn't get your vision. Your family treats you like the version from five years ago (even though you're a completely different person). Your friends throw shady jokes about how 'you've changed'.And all of a sudden, you're stuck between two worlds. The one that shaped you and the one you're building.So in today's episode, I'm talking about how to protect your mindset, how to stop outsourcing your safety to other people, and how to hold and protect your energy while everyone else throws their doubts at you. And no, we're not cutting people off or building walls. We're strengthening the relationship you have with yourself.Because you can't shrink yourself into being understood. And your job isn't to make them believe. Your job is to keep expanding until your certainty becomes louder than their doubt.Topics covered on How to Protect Your Mindset:The time when my ambition became a problem in my relationship.Your subconscious need for belonging and how to rewire it.How to protect your mindset when your loved ones project their doubts and fears onto you.What does "protecting your bubble" actually mean without cutting people off?Why did setting boundaries make my friends hate me (and why I kept doing it)?Five subconscious practices for protecting your mindset.Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-protect-your-mindset-when-your-growth-makes-people-uncomfortable

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common patterns I see in female entrepreneurs, the weekly reset, the new plan, the fresh strategy, the “I’ll start again on Monday” energy that feels productive but quietly keeps you looping in the same place.Subconscious Prompts: What feels unsafe about doing it today?What part of me doesn’t feel ready yet?What identity am I still loyal to?What am I postponing that I could embody right now?What would the next level version of me do today, not Monday?If the future version of me was leading this week, what would she prioritise first?How does my future self hold herself on the days where capacity is low?What does my business look like when I’m consistently leading from the identity I’m becoming?If I fully trusted where I’m going, what would I stop negotiating with myself about?What does the “Monday reset” version of me do and what does the future version of me do instead?When I imagine the woman I’m becoming, what feels obvious to her that still feels difficult to me now?What would it feel like to move through today as if the identity shift has already happened?What becomes available to me when I start acting from the future self I keep postponing?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast.

Do you ever ask yourself how some entrepreneurs make business look so simple? What is their secret? Is there something you’re missing? Well, in today's episode, I'm going to tell you all about the subconscious strategies that drive their business simplicity and growth.I'll break down what’s really happening beneath the surface for leaders like Alex Hormozi, Grace Beverley, Marie Forleo, Steven Bartlett, and myself! You’ll hear how repetition, structure, visibility, self-belief, and depth each play a role in creating momentum that feels natural, not forced. Plus, I'll share personal stories, honest reflections, and the patterns I’ve spotted after years of watching, learning, and experimenting.If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but it still feels heavy, this episode will help you see what might be missing. Now let's find out how to build a business that feels aligned and sustainable.Topics covered on Subconscious Strategies:What makes business look so easy for some people, and why can’t you seem to replicate the results even when you’re following the exact same business strategy?Alex Hormozi is the king of repetition. This is how his subconscious strategy fuels his success.How does Grace Beverley scale multiple businesses, and what’s her subconscious strategy?What is Marie Forleo’s subconscious strategy that keeps her visible year after year?How does Steven Bartlett keep moving forward, no matter how much criticism he receives online?Why are depth and meaning the foundation of my own business approach?What happens when your subconscious and business strategy finally agree?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/what-i-learned-studying-the-subconscious-strategies-of-business-giants

You know that moment when business gets hard, sales slow down, ideas aren't flowing, motivation dips and your brain immediately goes "What's wrong with me?"In this episode, we're breaking down the blame cycle that keeps high achieving women stuck, why your subconscious defaults to self blame when uncertainty hits, and the critical difference between looking at yourself through shame versus looking at yourself through curiosity.Discover how to shift from the "fixing" lens to the "curious" lens so you can actually lead yourself through challenges instead of spiralling into self criticism. Subconscious Prompts : What do I make it mean about me when things feel hard in my business?Where in my business do I default to self blame instead of self leadership?When I last experienced a challenge, was I looking at myself through the blame lens or the curious lens?What evidence do I have that I can move through challenges without blaming myself first?What would it look like to examine a current challenge through curiosity instead of blame?How can I show myself I'm safe to grow even when it feels uncertain?Topics Covered in How to Stop Blaming Yourself:Why high achievers default to blame when business gets hardThe two lenses: blame vs. curiosity and how they shape your realityWhat your subconscious is actually communicating (it's not what you think)The difference between fixing yourself and leading yourselfHow to pause the blame spiral and ask better questionsPractical steps to redirect fixing energy into leading energyConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meJoin The Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-stop-blaming-yourself-when-business-gets-hard