477: The State of Motherhood Address | Part 2 (RE AIR)

When one mom asks a hard marriage question, we know hundreds more are wondering the same thing. Today, Karen and Emily tackle your vulnerable questions about jealousy, mismatched sex drives, and resentment at home. Karen reminds us that fighting for our marriages is worth it, even when it means doing the hard work like going to counseling, seeing a doctor, or having the tough conversation. We hope this episode will encourage you to keep investing in your marriage no matter the season you are in! Episode Recap:I struggle with jealousy when my husband is around other women, is that normal? (5:11)My husband doesn’t initiate sex, what should I do? (8:20)As a SAHM, I’m super frustrated with the home workload (10:34)Communicate when things are calm, not just in the heat of the moment (17:03)My husband and I disagree about SO MUCH - how do we compromise? (18:16)My spouse will NOT apologize. What are my options? (23:39)How do you stay connected when you’re outnumbered by kids & have busy schedules? (24:18) Scripture: Colossians 3:13–14 “Bear with each other and forgive one another… And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”Discussion Questions:What expectations do you carry into your marriage that you haven’t clearly communicated to your spouse?How do you and your husband currently handle disagreements? What could you do to practice more “active listening” with one another?When it comes to intimacy, how comfortable are you being honest about your needs? What might help you take a step toward open communication?What are some small, practical ways you and your spouse can prioritize your marriage this week?What regular rhythms/routines could you establish to make sure you prioritize your marriage even when life feels overwhelming?Resources:Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether 

Marriage doesn’t have to feel heavy or complicated, sometimes we just need a gentle nudge to see where we’ve let things slide. In this conversation with Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier, Karen and Emily unpack the four practical shifts that can strengthen your relationship: play by the rules, speak kindly and listen well, practice gratitude, and take fun seriously. Whether you’re in the trenches with little ones or looking ahead to the golden years, this episode will encourage you to invest in your marriage today!Episode Recap:Arlene’s background and marriage (5:43)Ask yourself, what can I do to make my marriage easier? (7:59)What does it mean to “play by the rules” in marriage? (9:47)Divorce is highly predictable based on how couples speak to one another (11:05)How does giving thanks make marriage easier? (14:37)The source of our happiness is God, nothing else (17:36)Our phones are essentially a third person in modern marriages (18:15)Don’t forget to have FUN together! (21:57)In marriage, you will reap what you sow (26:21)Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 (NIV)“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”Discussion Questions:What is one small step you could take this week to “make marriage easier”?How do you and your spouse communicate? Do you notice more admiration or criticism in your words?When was the last time you laughed/just had fun with your spouse? How could you plan something simple and enjoyable together soon?In what ways can practicing gratitude shift your perspective in marriage?How has phone or screen usage affected your relationship? What boundary might help protect your connection?What was most encouraging to you about this conversation? Resources:Snag Arlene’s book, Making Marriage Easier on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3KbFMD3Grab easy date night ideas (scroll down) at MakingMarriageEasier.comCheck out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether 

Moms, you don’t want to miss this conversation! Karen and Greg pull back the curtain on nearly four decades of marriage—the good, the hard, the early years, and the season they’re in now. Their honesty will inspire you to invest in your own marriage now so you can reap the rewards later. This heartfelt episode will make you smile, and maybe even tear up, as they remind us that we serve a good and faithful God who wants the best for us and our marriages.Episode Recap:How Karen and Greg back met in 1984 (4:00)What Greg thought marriage was going to be like (6:40)What were some of your biggest differences as newlyweds? (7:50)How did you stay connected during the early years of raising kids? (10:09)We always prioritized us over the kids. (13:22)How did serving in the military impact your marriage and family? (14:45)What has been the hardest season of your marriage? (18:48)How did your faith carry you through that season? (22:54)What have you come to love or appreciate about one another more recently? (29:10)How has your relationship changed now that your kids are grown and gone? (31:35)What’s one way that you protect your marriage even now? (35:55)What has surprised you about becoming grandparents? (37:19)Lightening round questions (40:12)Scripture: Proverbs 3:5–6 (NIV)“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”Discussion Questions:Karen and Greg talked about prioritizing their marriage even while raising young kids. How do you currently make space for your spouse in a busy season of parenting?Greg shared the advice he received from his dad: “Your family is your hobby.” What might it look like for you to protect your margin for your family?Karen described her “needy gal” season where she learned to depend on God to meet her needs. How have you experienced God providing for you in a hard marriage or parenting season?What small rhythms (like a daily debrief, date nights, or intentional quiet time) could you adopt to strengthen your connection with your spouse?Looking ahead, what do you hope your marriage will look like when you reach the “high five” finish line of raising kids together?Resources:Get the Parenting Together curriculum videos FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Grab the discussion guide in our store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/mom-studies/products/parenting-together-free-in-the-app-copyReach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

No matter where your kids are in school this year, every mom will take away encouragement and wisdom from this conversation about homeschooling. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with Wire Talk producer (and homeschool mom of four) Katie Leipprandt, who shares the truths she’s learned over 15 years of parenting and schooling at home. From choosing relationship over results, to leaning on community, to remembering your “why” when days get hard, Katie’s wisdom applies to every mom—no matter how your kids are educated.Episode Recap:How did you get started homeschooling? (4:00)I wish someone had told me to prioritize relationship first (7:33)How has your ‘why’ changed for your homeschool? (11:30)What does a typical day look like homeschooling four kids? (14:30)How do you differentiate between your “mom hat” and your “teacher hat”? (18:00)What would you say to the homeschool mom who is already overwhelmed? (21:43)How do you teach a child who doesn’t want to do the work? (26:32)How do you juggle multiple ages and teach with toddlers? (32:24)What fruit have you seen because of homeschooling? (37:40)What’s your encouragement for the homeschool mom this year? (42:40)Scripture: Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (NIV) “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”Discussion Questions:What is your “why” for the educational path you’ve chosen for your children? How can you remind yourself of it on hard days?Katie talked about prioritizing relationships over results. How does that idea challenge or encourage you in your current season?In the early years, expectations for homeschooling (and parenting in general!) can be sky-high. What expectations might you need to lay down to create more peace in your home?What role has community played in your parenting journey? How can you pursue encouragement and support if you’re feeling isolated?Katie shared that one of the sweetest fruits of homeschooling has been the bond between her children. What “fruit” do you see or hope to see in your family through the choices you’re making now?Resources:Connect with Katie online: www.instagram.com/leipprandt Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto: https://amzn.to/4fONcrKPurchase Birds on a Wire curricula in the store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase-1Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

School today looks a lot different than when we were kids, and moms often feel stuck between supporting their children and not piling on more pressure. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with longtime educator and principal Jerome Huff to share how parents can help their kids thrive during their middle and high school years. We loved the reminder that your child’s school still needs you! Your prayers and presence can make a lasting impact, not only on your child but on the entire school community.Episode Recap:“Principal Coach” Jerome Huff joins us today to talk about helping our middle and high schoolers thrive (2:20)How coming from a single parent home influenced the way he ran his schools (5:45)How schools have changed over Jerome’s time as a principal (8:30) What do you wish more parents understood about what teachers are dealing with day to day? (16:30)High schools need parent volunteers as well! Ask, “what can I do?” (23:18)The role the Holy Spirit played in Jerome’s approach to being a principal (26:45)What are you most proud of from your career? (30:12)Scripture: Philippians 4:6–7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God…”Discussion Questions:1. How do you balance encouraging your child to do their best but not overwhelming them with pressure?2. Jerome mentioned the importance of letting kids advocate for themselves—what opportunities could you give your child this week to practice independence?3. Jerome emphasized the role of balance (school + outside interests) in thriving kids. How can you help your child find that healthy balance this year?4. What’s one way you can support teachers or administrators at your child’s school in a tangible way this semester?5. How can you begin praying more intentionally for your child’s school, teachers, and classmates?Resources:- Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notes- Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community- Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

If you’re parenting an elementary-age child, this episode is for you! Today Karen and Emily sit down with elementary school principal Amber Lamb to share practical ways you can partner with teachers, encourage independence, and help your child navigate friendships during these formative years. With 20+ years in education, Amber offers encouragement and practical tips to set your family up for a strong and connected school year.Episode Recap:Elementary school principal Amber Lamb joins us today (4:15)What has changed in the school world since you became an administrator? (6:45)Fewer parents are coming into the building now (8:30) How can parent involvement make a difference at this stage? (11:15)I wish more moms understood education is a journey (14:45)Put your “kids lens” on when talking to your kid about what’s going on at school (21:15)Go in to talking with your teacher with positive intent (29:02)No contribution to the classroom is too small! (30:26)Encourage independence and be curious about your child this school year! (34:42)Scripture: Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV) “Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”Discussion Questions:What’s one way you can build good communication with your child’s teacher this year?How do you currently encourage independence at home? What’s one age-appropriate step you could add?Think about a time your child didn’t have the “perfect” teacher match; did it help them grow? How so?How can you support your child as they navigate friendships when conflict arises?Where do you have margin this year to serve and/or encourage your child’s school staff?Resources:Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notesReach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your communityJoin our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Starting preschool can feel overwhelming, both for moms and our little ones! That’s why Karen and Emily are joined today by veteran preschool director Lisa Lucas, who brings 20 years of wisdom to this conversation. Lisa shares how preschool has changed over the years, what kids really need to be ready, and how moms can ease the transition with a few small habits at home. Whether you’re a first-time preschool mom or just looking for a reset, this episode is packed with tips to help your family thrive this school year! Episode Recap:Preschool director Lisa Lucas and Karen go way back! (2:45)How the preschool environment has changed over the past 20 years (7:00)Preschoolers are capable of a lot more than we think (14:40) Solid sleep habits and good nutrition make a world of difference (17:20)How can I ease separation anxiety? (19:40)How can moms support their preschool teachers? (26:30)The small chane that will make a BIG difference in your school year (29:51)Scripture: Luke 2:52 (NIV) “And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.”Discussion Questions:What were your biggest emotions or concerns when sending your child to preschool for the first time?Lisa mentioned that preschoolers are more capable than we give them credit for. In what areas could you offer your preschooler more responsibility at home?How do you think your family's technology use impacts your child’s behavior, imagination, or attention span? What changes might you consider for the year ahead?What’s one new habit or routine (e.g., sleep schedule, communication skill, attitude shift) that could help your preschooler feel more confident about school?How can you support and encourage your child's teacher/school this year?Resources:Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notesReach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your communityJoin our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

As we turn the corner into a new school year, we’re bringing back part two of one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. In this candid conversation, Karen doesn’t hold back! She challenges us to take ownership of our world, root out laziness, and remember that all the hard work of motherhood is worth it. Whether you're clinging to the last days of summer or knee-deep in school prep, we hope this episode reminds you that everything we do, including being a mom, is to be done unto the Lord.Episode Recap:Focus on progress over perfection as a mom (3:45)Go back and listen to part 1 for Truths 1 & 2 (5:00)Truth #3 - Take ownership for your mom life (6:30)Stop playing the blame game (12:50)Truth #4 - Stop being lazy (18:05)It’s all worth it (31:51) Resources:Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speakGrab Peace for the Anxious Mom as your Bible study for the new school year: www.boaw.mom/peaceNeed a devotional for the school year? Grab Karen’s devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/books/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leatherJoin our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmomsFollow BOAW Moms everywhere: @birdsonawiremoms

As July comes to an end, many moms are turning their eyes toward the school year ahead. That’s why we’re bringing back one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. This honest two part conversation dives into the good, the hard, and the unfair parts of motherhood and offers the loving kick in the pants we all need to reset our perspective. Whether you’re wrapping up summer or bracing for new routines this fall, we hope this episode helps you gear up for what lies ahead! Episode Recap:Check out all our new curriculums (6:30)Join our private Facebook group this year (9:20)The amount of complaining we do doesn’t change how hard motherhood is (19:21) Life is not fair (24:02)You are doing a good job and you are going to get through this (38:42)Resources:Find all Karen’s FREE curricula in the BOAW Moms app: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/free-curriculumPurchase brand-new curricula in the store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase-1Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting by reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen shares her own story about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice about navigating differences with your spouse, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our faith journey!Episode Recap:1:49 We diminish God’s power when we try to control our husbands6:10 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time? 9:05 Allow the Holy Spirit to do its job, your job is to love and respect your husband10:15 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do? 14:10 How can I get my husband to take more initiative and help me more?17:30 Be specific when you ask for help18:45 My husband’s moodiness brings me down! Scripture for Reflection:1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow."Questions for Discussion:Can you relate to the feeling of wanting to control your husband's spiritual walk? When has this happened in your own marriage, and how have you handled it?How do you and your spouse parent differently? What strengths does your husband’s style bring to the family? What strengths does your style bring? Do you think you make a good team or is there a lack of balance?Do you ever struggle with resentment or feeling overwhelmed in your role as a wife and mother? What steps have you taken to address these feelings, and how did your husband respond?When your husband is in a "blue mood," how do you typically react? Have you found any strategies that help both of you during those times, and how do you maintain your own emotional balance?Have you or your husband used this idea of space to deescalate tension in your relationship? Was it effective?Resources:Looking for a summer study? Check out Peace for the Anxious Mom: https://boaw.teachable.com/p/peace-for-the-anxious-momSign up for Soar at Sea: https://www.soaratsea.com