186: How to Stop Negotiating on Yourself

If you've ever found yourself deep-cleaning the kitchen or running "quick" errands instead of doing the thing you actually planned to do… this episode is for you. You'll learn how the freeze stress response quietly drives procrastination — especially for high-achieving women who are constantly in motion. You'll see how perfectionism and pressure can make you feel stuck even when you're busy, and how to finally catch those moments where you're "doing everything except the thing."   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/189 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/

In this episode, we're diving into the fight response—what I call The Advocate. If you're the woman who pushes harder when life gets messy, who double-downs and powers through even when you're exhausted, this one's for you. We'll unpack how the same drive that fuels our success at work and home can quietly sabotage our consistency and keep us stuck in the stress-weight cycle. Instead of trying to be "more disciplined," we'll explore what's really going on under the surface—how stress, cortisol, and unchecked emotions drive urges, cravings, and burnout. You'll learn how to regulate our stress, reclaim our energy, and stay consistent without needing more willpower.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/188 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/

The holidays are here — and so are the endless parties, deadlines, and emotions that make it feel impossible to stay on plan. But what if stress wasn't the villain? What if understanding how your body and brain respond to stress could help you finally stay consistent through the busiest season of the year? In this first episode of the Stress Type Mini-Series, we're diving into the Flight Response — also known as The Escapist. You'll learn why your brain feels pulled toward the pantry (or the wine glass) when life gets hectic, and how to retrain it without more willpower or rules.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/187 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/

Ever catch yourself talking your way out of doing what you said you'd do? Maybe it's skipping your workout, changing your food plan "just this once," or promising you'll start fresh Monday. This episode dives into that exact moment — the subtle mental negotiation that quietly steals your consistency, confidence, and results. We'll unpack why negotiation is completely normal (not a willpower problem!) and how to build the real skill that creates lasting freedom — the ability to keep your foot on the gas even when your brain is trying to talk you out of it.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/186 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group Book your consult call: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/connect

Most overachieving women don't struggle because they lack strategy—they struggle because of sneaky indecision. This week I'm sharing a private coaching clip from inside Burn Stress, Lose Weight, where we dive into the simple but radical power of decisive moments. These micro-decisions—made from fierce self-advocacy, not pressure—are where true freedom, time, and weight loss results are hiding. If you've ever overcomplicated your plan, second-guessed your choices, or waited for the perfect time to start… this episode will shift how you move this week.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/185 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group Book your consult call: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/connect

When your calendar is jam-packed from sunrise to bedtime, it's easy to believe you don't have time for rest, fun, or even your personal goals. But what if the real problem isn't your lack of time… but your lack of blank space? In this episode, I'm sharing a real-life story of how I fell face-first into this trap, what it cost me (personally and professionally), and how reclaiming even a little breathing room can unlock massive shifts in your energy, productivity, and weight loss journey.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/184 Save your seat for my Free Live Training: 10 lbs DOWN. 10 hrs BACK: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/training Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group

Sometimes, the real breakthrough isn't in doing more of what you're good at — it's in finally turning toward the skill you've been quietly avoiding. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story that sparked the idea: you are only as strong as your weakest skill. For so many high-achieving women, the gap that's holding us back isn't obvious. It's usually the skill we avoid, the one hiding in plain sight. Once you identify it and give it the attention it deserves, your results can change fast.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/183 Save your seat for my Free Live Training: 10 lbs DOWN. 10 hrs BACK: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/training Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group

Katie's story isn't just about losing 70 pounds, it's about learning how to navigate the sticky, messy middle of a weight loss journey without giving up. In this conversation, she opens up about the tools that helped her shed the weight, the setbacks that tested her belief in herself, and the mindset shifts that made all the difference. If you've ever thought "I know what to do, I'm just not doing it" or wondered how to keep going when motivation fades, this episode will speak directly to you. Katie shares how coaching transformed her relationship with food, her body, and even her family life—and why the real win goes far beyond the number on the scale.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/182 Save your seat for my Free Live Training: 10 lbs DOWN. 10 hrs BACK: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/training Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group  

Feel like you've "learned the lesson" but still end up repeating the same mistakes? Whether it's in weight loss, family life, or your career, knowing something and actually using it are two very different things. In this episode, I'm breaking down the two types of learning and why the second one is the real key to lasting change. Tune in to hear how lessons from failed trips, weight loss struggles, and even medical training turned into the building blocks for success and how you can do the same in your own life.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/181 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group Check out my private podcast for lasting weight loss here: https://www.theunstoppablemombrain.com/bodyreset

Ever had one of those moments where fear takes over and you make a decision you know you wouldn't normally make? In this week's episode, I share a wild story about getting hacked while traveling with my son and how an unexpected trip to the Apple Genius Bar revealed more than just a tech fix. This isn't just a cautionary tale about online scams—it's a powerful lesson about mindset, support, and what it really takes to hit your body and life goals without spinning your wheels in confusion.   Resources: Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/180 Learn more about The Unstoppable Group: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/group Check out my private podcast for lasting weight loss here: https://www.theunstoppablemombrain.com/bodyreset