When Talking About Sex is Difficult as a Couple | Ep. 172

My podcast guest is Dr. Kervins Clement and his story is one that I hear about all the time- where a dependency on porn use and masturbation is justified as helping the relationship when, in fact, it often does the opposite. In this episode we explore:How Kervins’ own recovery shaped the way he now works with men and couples.What his research revealed about the role of culture and history in treating Black men with sex addiction.Why guilt and remorse don’t reliably stop lying and secrecy in addiction.What partners actually need after betrayal and where their focus often goes too soon.This is a thoughtful, nuanced conversation that isn’t just about sex addiction- it’s about honesty, courage and what healing truly requires.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We're re-releasing one of our most listened to episodes! If you’ve been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, you'll want to listen to Justin and Sandra's story.Married for 19 years, they took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they’ve learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life’s ups and downs.They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they’ve incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage. You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Sandra's Story in Episode 74The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

There is no shortcut to heal from a toxic world that has tricked us into thinking sex is just a series of acts designed to physically stimulate us. The only way through is to slow down, unlearn and heal- not just for your marriage but for your well-being. It’s understanding safety, not just physically, but emotionally.It’s questioning the model of sex you were handed, instead of trying to perform it better.It’s rebuilding trust with your own body.And, when you’re doing this together, it’s learning how to create a sexual environment that doesn’t require forcing, convincing, or enduring.This is exactly what I talk about in the podcast episode today- why trying harder is often the very thing that makes sex feel worse, not better.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Justin joins me for a foundational episode in which we zoom out and discuss the role that men play when their wives have “low libido”. He starts off by sharing how he felt when his wife stopped wanting to have sex with him- the feelings of confusion and worrying if he had done something wrong.Then we take a journey through the unique ways men can contribute to a great sex life, how to create a comfortable, pressure-free environment and the work they can do outside of the bedroom.I’m so grateful to work alongside Justin in supporting men and if you’d like to hear more of his story, you can listen to Episode 82 as well as Episode 148 with his wife, Sandra.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Many women I talk to struggle enjoying physical touch during sex. They don’t know their experience can be any other way so they continue trying to enjoy things they don’t like and then label themselves as “non-sexual”. In our conversation, my husband and I discuss:• why so many women push themselves to initiate or say yes even when their body is clearly uncomfortable • why discomfort is so often normalized through culture, media, and silence • the real fears women carry about speaking up and the consequences they’re trying to avoid • why this can feel shocking or confusing for men when the truth finally comes outIf having a closer, more connected and joyful sex life is something you want in your relationship, this episode is an important one to listen to.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most important elements of moving towards freedom in your relationship and that is…a reset from sex.It’s something that you may have heard many times on the podcast in interviews with alumni of Doing It Together but it’s the first time I’ve addressed it directly.If you are tired of the mental energy sex is taking up in your life right now, I highly encourage you to listen to this conversation.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Today on the podcast I recorded a short and sweet solo episode for you but really it’s a love-letter to my former self. Anxiety (just a different term for “fear”) is telling you something and if you are feeling it around sex, there is something to learn. And I promise you, it’s not that you are broken and that nothing will ever work. I used to believe that too but that thought will only keep you stuck.Listen and trust yourself and please, please, please get some support for this. It’s not going to change on it’s own.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Since we’re headed into a time of the year where there may be some extra space as a couple, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about expectations around sex and special occasions. I know this happens more often with birthdays and vacations but it’s possible that in the lull between Christmas and New Years some pressure could creep in.In this short episode, we discuss why this happens, the harm it can cause and what to do instead. Plus we talk about what gifts husbands should never get their wives 🙂.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

The idea that men are so simple to please and women are a difficult maze of sensitive knobs and dials, often leaves female pleasure forgotten about.But what if something else was happening? What if our culture has only taught men and women about men’s bodies and pleasure? What if women’s genitals and orgasms felt impossibly difficult because we are all trying to approach them like men’s? This is what we discussed on the podcast this week- sharing openly our current challenges with my partner learning my body as well as the common feeling amongst women that we don’t work properly or that we’re broken.And to make it practical, we also included some basic concepts to understand when approaching the clitoris.We didn’t hold anything back in this 30 minute episode and I hope you can find a quiet, private moment to join the conversation.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna and her husband discuss the ins and outs of talking about sex as a couple- why so many people struggle with it, their personal challenges with communication, and what they're currently experimenting with to try to improve.Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.