“I Learned Forgiveness by Refusing to Forgive” with Tara Howley and Alexa Kistler

Forgiveness is one of the most charged words in our culture. For many of us, it was coerced out of us as children or held up as something good people do. But what if forgiveness isn't about being good or letting someone off the hook? In this episode, Alexa Kistler and Tara Howley reframe forgiveness as an act of self-care, a way to reopen your heart without abandoning your boundaries. They discuss: Why coerced forgiveness misses the point Forgiveness as a three-step process: emotions, curiosity, and boundaries How boundaries make forgiveness possible The difference between forgiving someone and wanting to be around them What it means to forgive yourself Holding forgiveness as sacred without making it an obligation Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson  Brett on X: @airkistler  AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com  We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You think you don't belong because you're different. What if you feel different because you're not being yourself? → Learn to be yourself - Connection Course: https://yt.artofaccomplishment.com/imposter-belonging Joe had an observation from running retreats: Everyone walks in thinking they're the outsider. Everyone. The executives, the artists, the parents - they all think "I don't belong here." By day 7 that feeling's gone. Not because they changed. Because they stopped performing. The question to ask isn't "do I belong?" It's "am I being myself?" When you switch questions the world rearranges. ••• Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What happens after awakening actually happens? In this follow-up episode, Brett and Joe dig into the messy, surprising, and often disorienting reality of what it's like when your sense of self starts to shift and what to do about it. Whether it arrives as a gentle fog lifting or a bolt from the blue, the integration process has its own terrain worth understanding.They discuss:How awakening shows up differently for different peopleThe fear that comes when identity starts to dissolveWhy some people want it to stop, and others want it backHead, heart, and gut awakenings, and what each needs for integrationWhat actually changes in your life, relationships, and workHow to support someone going through it (including yourself)Resource Mentioned:Doing Nothing by Stephen HarrisonThis episode was produced by Mun Yee Kelly and edited by Charlie Garcia at FutureVoice Media.Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The traditional search for purpose is backwards→ Practical experiments to transform your life: https://artofaccomplishment.com/experimentsAfter 7 years chasing his "dream career," Joe discovered he'd been running toward exactly what he was trying to escape. This revelation changed how he approaches purpose entirely—leading to a method that's guided countless people from confusion to clarity.The truth? You can't find your purpose by thinking about it. Just like you can't identify a champion swimmer by looking at 5-year-olds on dry land. You have to get in the water.Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Awakening is one of those words that gets thrown around a lot, but what does it actually mean? In this episode, Brett and Joe finally tackle the topic head-on after 150 episodes of addressing it indirectly. They explore why awakening isn't a goal in the Art of Accomplishment work, what actually happens when people wake up, and why it might be both far bigger and far smaller than you imagine.They discuss:What awakening actually is (and isn't)Head, heart, and gut awakenings, and how they differWhy making awakening a goal can slow down the processThe myth that awakening is a finish lineHow meditation can be a path to enlightenment or a tool for dissociationWhy awakened people still have daddy issuesWhat to do if awakening catches you off guardResource Mentioned:Doing Nothing by Stephen Harrison Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The beliefs you can't question keep you stuck→ Experiments to find freedom: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/experimentsMost people never realize their deepest beliefs are holding them hostage. Joe Hudson shares a radical truth from 30 years of coaching the world's highest performers: The moment you stop defending who you think you are, you become truly free.Highlights:• The meeting room test: How fear instantly creates either/or thinking• Stanford's "smart kid" study that changed everything we know about praise• Why millionaires who believe "I'm successful" often plateau• The ocean vs. rock metaphor that transforms how you handle criticism• What actually happens when you realize you're both an asshole AND deeply loving• The terrifying moment when meaning dissolves—and why it's actually liberation"A sword attacks the ocean, and the ocean doesn't care."Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Wanting is one of our most powerful levers for change. Not what you want, but your relationship to wanting itself. In this episode, Joe sits down with AOA facilitator Alexa Kistler to unpack why so many people are at war with their desires and how ending that war offers a path out of suffering. They discuss: Wanting, craving, and aversion Childhood patterns that take us away from wanting Identity shifts when you allow yourself to want How not owning desire makes you more manipulable, not less Why chasing outcomes creates suffering, even when you succeed Research mentioned:  Gender differences in personality traits across cultures Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You're about to discover why that promotion you won't ask for, that business you won't start, and that conversation you keep avoiding all come from the same illusion.→ Turn your fear back into excitement (free mini-course): https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/resources/procrastinationJoe reveals the counterintuitive reason you feel 'stuck' and can't seem to move forward on your goals. It has nothing to do with a lack of options and everything to do with a fear of consequences. These insights come from Joe's three decades of working intimately with some of the world's most productive people, from billionaires to Fortune 500 CEOs, and uncovering the emotional patterns that drive procrastination.  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Joe let Brett ask him anything at all about his life, and there were SO many questions, but ultimately his curiosity lead him to explore the story beneath the teaching: what was Joe’s path? How did he come to the work that he now shares with the world? Joe started out as a young man whose curious and open spirit blended with a serious rebellious streak that opened up a unique path. A bit of luck, love, and sometimes painful adventuring through the world, shaped him into the Joe we know and love today. Tune in to get a glimpse of the many facets that comprise Joe’s life.Links: Related EpisodeTara & Janine on embodimentBook: Black Elk SpeaksFitz PerlsSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson|Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Doubt isn't protecting you from failure, it's protecting you from your feelings.For every ambitious person, doubt is the silent killer of greatness. Joe breaks down what he's learned from working with Silicon Valley's top performers: doubt isn't an intellectual problem, it’s a misunderstood emotional signal. It’s a protective mechanism to stop you from feeling something uncomfortable, whether it’s a fear of failure or even a fear of success.🎧 Subscribe to the Art of AccomplishmentPodcast Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3ezSoopSpotify: https://spoti.fi/3ETrfHAGoogle Podcasts: https://bit.ly/3Czx7TuOther platforms: https://artofaccomplishment.com/podcast Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson|Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.