77: Standoffish or Barely Standing?

It’s been over a year since my last episode. I have truly been struggling. In silence. Life has been all over the place and I had no choice but to retreat and get my mind right. While some think that I have been acting funny, being distant, or standoffish, in reality I was barely making it. In this episode, I explain what has been happening with me and what I have learned from it. It’s been a minute but I’m back, baby!

I was motivated to record this episode after watching Jeen-Yuhs on Netflix. I absolutely loved the relationship that Kanye West had with his mother! She was his #1 fan and loudest cheerleader. It was beautiful to watch. I never expected to get online and see people compare Donda to their own mothers and blame their mothers for their failures. Stating they didn’t accomplish their goals because they didn’t have a mother like Donda. They didn’t go to college because their mom was toxic and they blame her. I was extremely disgusted! These were adult women! You don’t have much choice as kids but there is no excuse for an adult to blame another for the way their life turned out. This is why I had to do this episode. I had some stuff to get off my chest.

I was so motivated to get this message out! It’s healing time!! In this episode, I share 5 pivotal things that I had to grasp and fully understand before I was able to see a real difference in my healing process. Listen, digest, and move accordingly!

In this episode, I interview Joycelyn Johnson, a Clinical Counselor from Ohio. In an effort to help others heal from their trauma, Joycelyn left corporate America and, in her 50's, went back to school and opened True Calling Counseling & Consulting Services, LLC. The mother of 2, now adult boys, she shares the challenges she faced trying to raise them without allowing her childhood traumas to interfere. Spirituality, communication, honesty, and laughter are just a few things she shared with me that helped her parent from a safe place.  This interview was like talking to someone I've known for a long time! We laughed and shared jokes, but mostly I listened to the many parenting nuggets Joycelyn dropped. You may want to grab a pen and paper because you will need it! Check out Joycelyn's book on Amazon, Decision Making with God in Mind: A process in helping alleviate anxiety and hopelessness. Visit Joycelyn's website: True Calling Counseling & Consulting Services, LLC Email her at [email protected] We discussed the Feelings Wheel in this episode so Joycelyn provided us with a link to one that she uses. Keep up with the Unmothered + Unbothered podcast  IG: @unmotheredunbotheredpodcast Twitter: @podcastpresh

Hey y’all! What y’all been doing?? In this episode, I explain the reason for my dry spell and briefly mention what I have in the works for the future of Unmothered + Unbothered!

This is the last part of the 4-hour interview that I had with Amanda as she told me her story of growing up with a mother in a cult. In episode 71, Amanda describes her mother's final days and shares the things her mother went through during the last few years of her life. In this episode, we discuss the aftermath of growing up with a mother in a cult and why we think the destruction of her mother's soul was more about HER than her mother.  I hope you have enjoyed Amanda's story and her transparency. This is a one-of-a-kind account that I am so blessed to have the opportunity to share. I appreciate your patience in getting the episodes released. I have never faced so many issues when it comes to releasing content and I believe that was on purpose. I am a spiritual person and I feel that the attacks on my life happened so that Amanda's story wouldn't get out. But that's just me.  Check Amanda out on IG @cambridgestorm Amanda also owns a skateboard company out of LA called Westside Mage. Check it out at westsidemage.com Keep in touch! Email: [email protected] IG: @unmotheredunbotheredpodcast Twitter: @podcastpresh Facebook: The Unmothered + Unbothered Podcast

I’m this episode, we find out just how much Amanda’s mom’s life was devastated by the cult. Listen as she describes her mother going from upper class to homeless, all while still following the cult leader. The episode’s ending will leave you in tears. There is also a spiritual component that will give you chills. Enjoy!!

Episode 2 ended with a cliff hanger! Amanda was convinced by the cult leader to accuse her own father of raping her. She knew it wasn't true but decided to go along with it just for the torture to stop. She didn't fully understand the implications of her words and didn't expect what happened next!

This is part 2 and there is a huge bomb dropped at the end of the episode! Part 1 explained Amanda's background and how her mom got connected to the woman that will destroy her and those closest to her. Stay tuned for part 3!!

An orchestrated meeting with a stranger leads Amanda's mom to run through her 401k, buy a condo for the stranger, buy a brand new car for the stranger's daughter and ultimately leave her mom broke and homeless. These are just a few details you will hear in this series. There couldn't be a better episode to jump-start my comeback! In this episode, I interview Amanda about her growing up with a mother that was in a cult until the day she died. This ended up being a 4-hour interview, full of twists and turns that I was not ready for! This is part 1 but I will be dropping the other parts weekly until we are done. Listen carefully! You won't want to miss a thing!