Footnote: What Meka learned about jealousy by being polyamorous

In this footnote, we expand on one section of 'He's Just Not That Into You' relating to resetting one's standards when it comes to dating/relationships. We discuss some of our boundaries, the benefits of re-evaluating boundaries, and, most importantly, the kinds of behaviours which have us turning to potential romantic connections and saying, I'm Just Not That Into You!Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

Transcript:Hello Thrivers! Life coach and personal development nuisance, Leslie Crudup Villagarcia here. And I’m officially wrapping up Season 1 of our podcast, which is something I really wanted to do before the end of 2024, but, as they say Life got in the way! As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m getting ready to move my family to Vietnam in a couple of weeks, so preparing for that has been an absolute whirlwind. Meka and I have also been dealing with illnesses and our various neurowobbles, which of course, has been a challenge to navigate from the beginning of this podcast. And we KNEW it was going to make it harder. But, just because we’re dealing with disabilities, that’s NO REASON to not do this thing we want to do, right!Now, I want to issue some thank yous and then talk about our plans for season 2.First a HUUUUUUGE thank you to Meka. My amazing co-host. Honestly, he has given SO much time and effort to this project and there are no words, really. Like, I don’t think anyone has ever believed in me so much. I really want to make Season 2 worth your while in a BIG way and…just never stop being my friend, okay?I also want to thank our listeners! Especially the ones who’ve reached out a number of times with comments on our episodes or general Kudos, people like: Kate, Alicia, Ange, Sky…uhhh I really shouldn’t start listing people, because I will forget names and I don’t want anyone to get offended. In season 2, we’re going to continue roasting your most beloved and be-loathed personal development books but the big change we’re bringing in is that we want to do more interviews with Authors and Creatives who can reflect on their experiences as marginalised people and the challenges they’ve overcome in a world that doesn’t always like to make room for us.So thanks again, gang! I love you all! Be sure to keep up with us through my Instagram @leslievcoaching, my website, leslievcoaching.com and, yes, I’ve jumped on the BlueSky train…@leslievcoaching.bsky.socialAlright, I hope that 2025 brings everyone so much joy and the ability to see through all the crazy challenges that it might bring. And if you ever need a sounding board to talk through it all, you know who to contact.Thank you. Keep reading. Keep Listening. Keep getting in touch, and keep thriving. Bye Bye!Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

In this footnote, we reflect on our recent experience participating in a nude photoshoot with world-renowned artist Spencer Tunick! Over 5000 people here in Meanjin (Brisbane) took to the Story bridge in the early hours of the morning in a grand celebration of body diversity and LGBTQIA+ pride. Also, Leslie finally saw Meka's new penis! Check out Spencer's work here: https://www.instagram.com/spencertunick/Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

Strap on your Manolo Blahniks and pour yourself a Cosmopolitan, because we’re jetting back into the dating world circa 2004!On the latest episode of “Thriving Between the Lines” - the podcast examining personal development books through the lens of intersectionality, we do a cheeky little dive into one of the most influential dating books of the 2000s, He’s Just Not That Into You: the No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. These authors were key contributors to Sex and the City, hence our sloppy references to the show 😜.So, do these so-called ‘truths’ about dating hold up 20 years later? Listen to our queer, neurodivergent, polyamorous, and otherwise traumatised arses give OUR take on yet another book that clearly wasn’t meant for “us”! Whether you’re a Charlotte or a Carrie, an Ayden or a Big, or thinking “who the hell are you even talking about?” This one is for you!Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

Meka used to hate the movie Labyrinth. I know, can you believe that?? It took him YEARS to understand, as a trans person, what was behind that hate. I think y'all might see where this is going 😆.Have a listen!Kindest regards,Leslie Crudup Villagarcia-Your No-Nonsense Life Coach-Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

How can we balance our energy levels to ensure our partners are being treated equitable? How can we prevent New Relationship Energy (NRE) from derailing our existing relationships? In this footnote, Meka explores these questions from the perspective of a person with chronically low energy levels.Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

This footnote explores Meka's experience of one of the questions most frequently asked to polyamorous folks, 'But, don't you get jealous?'There are many ways to respond to jealousy and not every polyam person reacts to it in the same way. So what is our take on the subject? Listen and find out!Kindest regards,Leslie and MekaSend us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

The subject of polyamory often comes up in our book-specific episodes, as it is one of the lenses through which Meka and I experience the world. In personal development writing, especially where relationships are concerned, there is often an assumption that readers are both monogamous and cisgender/heterosexual (cishet). Of course, WE know the truth! 😊 We are loud and proud about our queerness and our ethical non-monogamy, so we figured now is a good time to give a little rundown of some useful books and learning resources for folks interested in learning more about polyamorous relationships.So check it out!Kindest regards,Leslie and MekaVisit leslievcoaching.com to book a free intro polyamory coaching session!Reference (content warning for sexual violence and misogynoir):https://ualr.edu/socialchange/2018/04/15/reflection-history-sexual-assault-laws-united-states/Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

In the latest episode of Thriving Between the Lines, Meka shares his powerful journey of self-discovery, courage, and embracing his true identity! Meka speaks very openly about his own experience transitioning from female to male and how it allowed him to finally see a future for himself. With all the references we make to the lack of trans representation in personal development books, we figured now is a good time to give a more in-depth look at where Meka’s perspective on the subject comes from. Please note that Meka’s story is very much his own! He cautions against using his story as a representation of all trans people’s experiences. And as much as HE loves to share all the details of his bottom surgery (phalloplasty), please don’t go around asking other trans folks about what’s happening between their legs!! Have a listen and send us some love :)Kindest regards,Leslie Crudup Villagarcia-Your No-Nonsense, Won’t-Let-Anyone-F***-With-My-Trans-Homies, Life Coach-Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!

In this Footnote, Leslie tells a story about how her ex weaponised non-violent communication against her. Let this be a reminder that power imbalances need to be taken into consideration when recommending NVC as a mediation strategy! Otherwise, those with oppression in mind can use it to bolster their oppressive behaviours.Send us Fan Maillinktr.ee/leslievcoaching - Get in touch with us and book a free intro. Life Coaching consult!