24. Belonging on Social Media with Dr. Carolina Are

Dr. Carolina Are joined me to discuss her research on social media censorship, sex work in academia, how AI impacts influencers, shadowbanning, and of course, Taylor Swift.Carolina is a pole dancing academic, blogger, author, speaker, pole dance instructor and performer, and activist. She published some of the first ever studies on shadowbanning, and is currently a digital criminologist at the London School of Economics and Political Science. Follow Carolina on socials:https://www.instagram.com/bloggeronpole/https://bsky.app/profile/bloggeronpole.bsky.socialhttps://www.tiktok.com/@bloggeronpole

Eva Oh joined me in London for a titillating conversation on her life as a dominatrix, hesitance in dating, the meaning she finds in mentoring, and what's wrong with men.Eva Oh is an award winning dominatrix, advocate, mentor, and podcast host, who has been wielding her power as a sex worker since 2011 to be come one of the most famous dominatrixes in the world.Follow Eva on socials:https://www.instagram.com/youwillplease_me/https://x.com/youwillpleaseMEhttps://www.tiktok.com/@youwillpleaseme

A quick little update to let you know where I've been, and tell you about upcoming episodes!

What was my favorite booking? What do I think about Lily Phillips and Bonnie Blue? What are my go-to icebreakers with clients? I'm answering these questions and many more!Some other sex workers on TikTok you should follow, as mentioned in the episode:https://www.tiktok.com/@juicypomma4.0https://www.tiktok.com/@shakingsheetshttps://www.tiktok.com/@pursenuggets5.0https://www.tiktok.com/@inaralordehttps://www.tiktok.com/@jadeblairxoxhttps://www.tiktok.com/@tigressthe304.personal

It's officially been one year since I started escorting full time! Today I'm diving into all the lessons I've learned, and my personal reflections on this year for me.

A bit of a different topic today, but one I'm incredibly passionate about - my opinions on dating men, as a straight cis woman. This is purely about dating in personal life (not about my clients), and it's such an important facet of many women's lives. This isn't a comprehensive totality of my views - I would have to talk for a few hours to get everything out! I'd love to hear your opinion in the comments and start a conversation. TikTok accounts mentioned:https://www.tiktok.com/@texasgardenfairyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@the_yv_edithttps://www.tiktok.com/@observationswithmyeyes(tip: if you don't have the TikTok app, you can watch all videos without having to download it or log in by viewing the links on desktop!)Books mentioned:Why Men Love Bitches, Sherry ArgovCalling in The One, Katherine Woodward Thomas

I've been living in Berlin for almost a decade (!) and often get asked online what it's like to live here - so here's a deep dive! I talk about the pros and cons from my personal perspective (warning: there's a lot of cons) as well has how much the city has changed since I moved here.

Today's conversation is full of not just juicy bits about porn, but important lessons for anyone who is even slightly interested in the industry. We discuss what a porn ban would actually look like, how AI effect the adult industry, the role of porn in sex education, and how porn is used as a political pawn. Noelle Perdue is a writer, producer and porn historian with nearly 10 years of experience working platform side for multiple mainstream and independent adult industry companies. Having written everything from Food Network porn parodies to legally binding terms and conditions, much of her current work explores the blurry borders of obscenity and how pornography's history can influence our digital and political futures.Follow Noelle on socials:https://www.instagram.com/all_day_breakfast_/

Chiqui Love joins me for a lively discussion on her decades of experience as a stripper, how sex work has changed her approach to both dating and feminism, and how the industry has changed since she got her start in London in the early 2000’s.  Chiqui Love is a stripper, burlesque, and cabaret artist and all round erotic entertainer. With over 22 years’ experience in the industry, she combines different elements of performance into her own unique style, and is also a sex worker rights advocate. She was the founding member of not one, but two stripper’s collectives, one in London and one in Berlin. Follow Chicqui on socials:https://www.instagram.com/chiquilovelovelove/

Madame Ava L'affaire joins me for a discussion on all things BDSM and sex work. We talk about her past experiences as an escort, her passion for being a dominatrix, experiencing class discrepancies as a sex worker, the whorearchy, sexual shame, and more.Madame Ava L'affaire is a dominatrix and sex worker rights activist. She grew up in Berlin and is the child of Afghan refugees.Follow Madame Ava on socials:https://www.instagram.com/madame_laffaire/https://x.com/Madame_affaire