604 How to Communicate With a Defensive or Conflict-Avoidant Partner

I am so thrilled to welcome my pal Lisa Bilyeu back to the show to celebrate the paperback launch of her book, Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want.  We talk about the practical steps you can take to build confidence over time, how toxic relationships erode our confidence, and boundaries and family (specifically, the moment Lisa found out her dad disapproved of her marriage plans).  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/607

Do you know what your boundary style is? Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships? Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically.  Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries.  You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/606

I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/605  

Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict? Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue? Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship? Are you the defensive one? Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer.  We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/604

I am so thrilled my pals Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath are here to talk about how they healed their codependent patterns and created liberated love in their relationship.  This conversation is in celebration of their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependnt Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. ❤️ If you identify with any of what we discussed, definitely get it!  Grab Liberated Love here: https://liberated-love.com Gentle warning: there is a mention of SA around 17:50 - 18:43. Please skip this section if this is a tender topic for you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/603

Have you ever hesitated to end a relationship because of the intricate ways your lives were intertwined? Or have you ended a relationship and struggled to move on because of a profound sense of loss? Then you are in the right place. I am breaking down the secondary losses we experience after a breakup: what they are, their impact, and how honoring our secondary losses helps us pick up the pieces. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/602

I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life.  Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more.  I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me. **Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ ** Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/601

Does co-parenting feel difficult because you and your ex are never on the same page? Is your ex combative, dismissive, or a narcissist? Are you worried about what they’re saying to your kids when you’re not there? If you want what is best for your kids and find co-parenting activating, this episode is for you. I am covering the common blocks to cooperative co-parenting, protecting your child from an emotionally unhealthy ex, and the boundaries needed for healthy co-parenting. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/600

Today I’m sharing an unbelievable interview with Sebastian Bates, who is a best-selling author, podcast host, retired professional fighter, father, and founder of The Warrior Academy.  Sebastian's story is amazingly inspiring. At 24, he experienced a horrendous BASE jump accident and was told he would never walk again.  He refused to accept that and through a combination of willpower and discipline, he recovered.  He shares his story with us and we dive into the details: his mindset, determination, his background as a fighter and teacher, his passion for helping others, and the impact he is having and wants to have through his philanthropic work at The Bates Foundation.  I hope this interview makes you feel as inspired and motivated as it made me! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/599

As a child, were you responsible for cleaning the house? Cooking for your siblings? Taking care of an adult because they were unable to care for themselves? Did the adults in your life expect emotional support from you? Did you mediate between family members? If so, you may have Parentified Child Syndrome.  In this episode, I am breaking down the two types of child parentification, why it happens, symptoms you may have experienced, and steps to take to begin healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/598