Finding Advantage In Adversity

What can you do with a setback you cannot undo?In this recorded Stoic talk, I explore the difference between enjoying a moment and valuing how you spent it. We look at wanting the life you already have, finding a useful response to adversity, and practising with ordinary frustrations before facing larger challenges. I draw on Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Nietzsche, alongside my own experiences of injury and interrupted training.The talk closes with a reflection on the everyday moments we may one day miss, including the difficult ones. Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

“Bear and forbear.” Two words are easy enough to remember. Using them when a conversation becomes uncomfortable, or your phone offers an escape from work, is harder.In this episode I look at where the saying comes from, what Aulus Gellius actually reports about Epictetus, and why endurance and restraint need judgement. We also look at choosing the practice that fits the situation, rather than turning every difficulty into a test of toughness.There is a small exercise to try: pause before following an urge, or stay briefly with an ordinary discomfort when it is safe to do so. The ten-breath version is a modern suggestion, not an ancient prescription or a proven dose. Leaving an unsafe situation and getting help remain sensible choices.Sources:Aulus Gellius, Attic Nights 17.19, translated by J. C. Rolfe: https://topostext.org/work/208Epictetus, Discourses 3.12: https://www.stoicsource.com/epictetus/discourses/3.12/Epictetus, Discourses 4.8.20, where the same verbs appear together: https://www.stoicsource.com/epictetus/discourses/4.8/Epictetus, Enchiridion 2: https://www.stoicsource.com/epictetus/enchiridion/2/Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 5.33, translated by George Long: https://lexundria.com/m_aur_med/5.33/lgMusonius Rufus, lecture VI, translated by Cora E. Lutz: https://www.stoicsource.com/rufus/lectures/VI/Donald Robertson’s modern interpretive account: https://donaldrobertson.name/2012/10/18/the-system-of-stoic-philosophy/Source note: The standalone two-command maxim is preserved by Aulus Gellius, Attic Nights 17.19, through Favorinus. The same verb pair also appears within a sentence in Epictetus, Discourses 4.8.20. Gellius names endurance and self-restraint. The fear/craving mapping is a modern interpretive lens. Arrian recorded the surviving Discourses, rather than every teaching Epictetus ever gave.Read the article and source notes: https://www.stoichandbook.co/epictetus-endure-and-abstain/Watch the video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0YSY_3UjAJYFree 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

An anxious thought keeps coming back. It sounds reasonable every time, and thinking harder hasn't helped.I work through the Triple Column Technique with one everyday worry: asking a question in a meeting. The practice comes from David Burns's Feeling Good. I've adapted the middle column to ask what you're assuming, with Seneca's Letter 13 as a guide.Write the thought, examine the assumption and give a response you can actually believe. Then put the pen down. You don't need to keep rewriting until you feel calm.Sources discussed: Seneca, Letters 13.5 and 13.7–13; Burns, Feeling Good (1980); Jamison and Scogin (1995); Ramirez and Beilock (2011).This episode is educational, not therapy or individual treatment. If anxiety is disrupting everyday life, speak with your GP.Stoic Anxiety Mastery, the course this practice comes from: https://stoicanxiety.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=sam_launch_2026_11&utm_content=ep2Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

The day is finished, but you may still be going over it. This quiet bedtime practice begins with settling into the bed, then offers short Stoic reflections on having enough and allowing yourself to rest. You do not need to repeat the lines or remember them. Let them pass, with long silences between each one. A voice-only meditation for listening in bed, with no music and a gentle close.Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

You understand the Stoic advice about anxiety. So why doesn't it help at four in the morning?I look at the gap between knowing and doing, why reading about anxiety can become a way of avoiding practice, and what changed when I stopped making calm the test of a useful exercise.The practice is small: separate the sensation from the instruction that arrives with it. You can feel anxious and still choose what to do next.Stoic Anxiety Mastery: course details and launch updatesThis episode is educational, not therapy or individual treatment.Sources discussed: Seneca, Letters 13.4. Epictetus, Encheiridion 5, translated by A. A. Long in How to Be Free. Arnsten, A. F. T. (2009), Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function. Salkovskis and colleagues (1999), An experimental investigation of the role of safety-seeking behaviours in the maintenance of panic disorder with agoraphobia. Levitt and colleagues (2004), The effects of acceptance versus suppression of emotion on subjective and psychophysiological response to carbon dioxide challenge in patients with panic disorder. Ellis (1962), Reason and Emotion in Psychotherapy. Beck and colleagues (1979), Cognitive Therapy of Depression.Research note: the Arnsten research concerns stress experienced as uncontrollable. The dopamine aside is commentary, rather than a finding established by the studies cited here.Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

What would it mean to work with the life you have, even when it takes a turn you would never have chosen?This recorded talk explores amor fati, the practice of loving your fate, and the difference between active acceptance and passive resignation. I connect the idea with three everyday practices: looking for a useful response to adversity, separating what is up to you from what is not, and noticing what you can still appreciate.Bring one current frustration to mind and use it as the starting point for the exercises. Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

Your first jiu-jitsu class can expose how little your toughness helps. Going back takes a different kind of courage.Jon Friedland joins me to explore what training can teach us about Stoicism. We discuss competition nerves, judging a performance without clinging to the result, and why a black belt can leave someone's ego bigger than before. Jon explains how he keeps learning after nearly thirty years on the mats.One question from the conversation stayed with me: what advice would you give someone else in your position? Jon uses it when he's stuck under pressure and struggling to see an option.Jon is the founder and head instructor of Neutral Ground Academy and the author of Jiujitsu Stoic.Jon’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jon_friedland/Neutral Ground Academy: https://www.ngmke.com/about-us/jon-friedland/Jon’s book: https://jiujitsustoic.com/Jiujitsu Stoic on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HKLX73Y5 Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

How do you stay yourself around someone who keeps drawing you into conflict?In this recorded Stoic masterclass, I work through five practical moves: expect difficulty, notice the hook, drop the rope, make your boundary a behaviour, and look honestly at your own patterns. We also map the inner citadel: what belongs to you, and what was never yours to control.The session distinguishes everyday friction from harmful and dangerous relationships, then offers exercises you can use before, during and after a difficult interaction. Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

You can get better at handling difficulty and still forget to enjoy your life.This half-hour Stoic talk explores six habits for practising joy, including the seven-second control check, the View from Above and the Joy of Enough. It also covers a 24-hour virtue experiment, obstacle training and a morning-and-evening routine.Choose one habit from the session and give it a place in your day. There's no need to turn all six into another list of things you're failing to do. Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com

Marcus Aurelius expected to be knocked off balance. His advice was to come back quickly and treat every return as training. This short Stoic practice is for the moment after you’ve snapped or started spiralling.The Reset uses SPQR as a modern memory aid: Stop, Pause, Question, Reframe. Take one breath, check the story you’re telling yourself, and look at what’s actually here and what your part is. Try one Reset today and record whether you came back.This is episode two of One Passage. Passage: Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 6.11, translated by George Long.Free 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com