Your Brain Isn’t Broken — It’s Becoming - The Truth About the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nicole Pensak

Inside, she explores: →  Why a dysregulated parent can’t help a dysregulated child — and what actually has to happen first before any parenting strategy can work →  The two reasons most parents struggle to stay regulated in hard moments: not being able to access tools when it counts, and not having a plan to follow through on →  How the PAR method works in real time — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — and what it sounds like with a toddler tantrum versus a teenager who won’t back down →  Simple regulation tools you can use in the middle of a meltdown, including breathwork, body-based interrupts, and how to name what you’re feeling without fixing it →  How to build a plan for the predictable hard moments before they happen — so you’re not scrambling, reactive, or white-knuckling your way through it Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this episode with a parent who’s tired of losing their cool and not knowing how to stop. Emotion regulation is one of the most overlooked parenting skills out there — the more this conversation reaches people, the better. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, they explore: →  What matrescence actually is — the neurocognitive developmental phase of becoming a mother — and why understanding it as an identity shift (not a breakdown) is the reframe new moms need most →  The full picture of “mom brain”: why the forgetfulness is real, what the research actually shows about cognitive strengths postpartum, and why your brain deserves a lot more credit than it gets →  How to tell the difference between normal postpartum adjustment and something that warrants support — and why Dr. Nikki’s answer is simpler than you think →  The “bouncing back” myth: why the goal isn’t to return to who you were, and what it actually looks like to come through this developmental phase better than ever →  Practical ways partners, family, and support systems can show up — including the single most protective thing a partner can do in the first three months About Dr. Nicole Pensak: Dr. Nicole Pensak is a Harvard and Yale-trained clinical psychologist certified in postpartum mental health and the author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain. Rattled was awarded Best Book for Parents by Zibby Owens, featured on Reese Witherspoon’s Hello Sunshine and The Bright Side Podcast, and named by Audible as a Most Anticipated Read 2025 in Well-Being. Dr. Pensak serves on the Expert Review Board of Parents Magazine and owns a private practice serving clients in NJ, NY, and 40+ states nationwide. Resources mentioned in this episode: →  Get Rattled by Dr. Nicole Pensak (now available in paperback and audiobook) →  Visit Dr. Nikki’s website — www.drnicoleamoyalpensak.com →  Follow Dr. Nikki on Instagram — @drnikkipensak →  Fourth Tri Sanctuary — a postpartum support space for new moms mentioned by Albiona Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this episode with a new mom, an expecting parent, or anyone in the thick of the fourth trimester. Postpartum anxiety and mom brain are still so misunderstood — the more this conversation travels, the more moms get the support they actually deserve. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same direction six times, voice rising, before your child finally moves — this episode is for you. The truth is, you don’t have a bad kid. And you’re not a bad parent. What you have is a defective pattern. And patterns can be changed. In this solo episode, Albiona revisits one of the most downloaded and shared episodes on the show — why kids don’t listen — and goes even deeper with real-life examples, coaching language you can use today, and the mindset shift that makes all the difference. Inside, she explores: →  What a “defective pattern” actually is — how kids collect data from their environment to decide when they actually have to listen, and why recognizing this changes everything →  The repeating cycle most parents are stuck in — and how priming your child ahead of time breaks it without yelling, threats, or emotional spirals →  The negotiation trap: why strong-willed kids learn to play the odds, how small moments of flexibility accidentally teach them to push limits, and what to do instead →  Why your action matters more than your words — how to give yourself something clear and followable so you stay regulated when your child tests the new pattern →  How to identify the pattern you’ve created, name the outcome you actually want, and build a new one — practically, without judgment, and in a way your child will respond to Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who’s in the middle of a power struggle right now — the one who’s exhausted, second-guessing themselves, and just needs to hear that there’s a way through. Patterns are always fixable. And you’ve got this. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, they explore: → The reframe that changes everything: stop saying you "lost" someone—they're not lost, they're on the other side of a very thin veil, still here, still sending signs (and once you start looking, you'll see them everywhere) → Why kids are naturally more connected to the other side than adults—and how honest conversations about death (even when we're crying and fumbling through it) prevent the fear of the unknown from taking root the way it did for Jenny as a child → The signs Jenny's mom sends: owls, ladybugs, rainbows appearing out of nowhere—and the Costco parking lot story where a stranger tapped Jenny's shoulder to tell her about a ladybug on her back right when she needed her mom most → Why grief isn't linear (it comes in waves, and that's okay) and how riding the wave instead of resisting it opens you up to healing and creativity you didn't know you needed—plus the power of sign tracking (the more you pay attention, the more signs show up) → The mistake parents make when trying to "perform" the right answer instead of being honest—kids end up carrying the burden alone because they think bringing it up hurts us, so they stop talking about it Resources & Links: Connect with Jenny Robinson Clark: → Website: www.jennyrobinsonclark.com → Instagram: @jennyrobinsonclark → Book: Are You Here? (available wherever books are sold and on Jenny's website) Bio: Jenny Robinson Clark makes her author debut with Are You Here?, a heartfelt children's book about the magical signs all around us, releasing March 17, 2026. She lives in Nashville with her husband and their four children. A former dancer and actress, Jenny has always been a creative at heart. When she's not writing, she's homeschooling and baking with her kids, taking hip-hop class with her husband, and exploring the outdoors. She believes that when you open your heart, ask for a sign, and are willing to receive, loved ones send messages in the most unexpected ways. Mentioned in This Episode: → Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynn Jackson → The Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain by Tara Swart (neuroscientist's perspective on signs, intuition, and connection after loss) → A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle → Maybe: A Story About the Endless Potential in All of Us by Kobi Yamada (the book gifted to Jenny at the Dr. Joe Dispenza retreat) → Dr. Joe Dispenza retreats (linking spirituality and science) → Bashar (B-A-S-H-A-R on Instagram) - teachings on reframing "loss" → Sign tracking practice: using your phone's notes app to document synchronicities, signs, and moments of connection Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona: [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent navigating grief with their kids, a mom who lost a parent and doesn't know how to talk about it, or anyone struggling with loss and looking for signs their loved one is still near. Because here's the truth: death isn't the end. It's just different. Our loved ones are still here, still sending love, still guiding us. We just have to stay open enough to see the signs. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, she explores:   → What stretching is—and why intentionally letting kids struggle through slightly uncomfortable situations builds resilience, frustration tolerance, and confidence (the opposite of helicopter parenting or overprotective parenting) → The critical question to ask when kids engage in undesired behavior (transition tantrums, meltdowns, refusal): what skill are they missing that would reduce this behavior's frequency or intensity? → How scaffolding works in real life: meeting kids where they are (the task feels too hard, they're overwhelmed) while still stretching them toward mastery—with examples from speech therapy sessions and everyday moments like zipping a coat or handling sibling conflict → Why letting kids struggle through hard things without rescuing them is one of the most loving things you can do—and how to support them without fixing it or taking the discomfort away → The real-life coaching example: a child making unsafe choices at school and using manipulation ("you're not listening to me!") to avoid consequences—and why the parents had to hold the boundary even when the child was upset, because stretch moments teach kids they have the power to make good choices no matter their environment → How to stretch yourself as an adult if you're a people-pleaser or overgiver: setting boundaries with loved ones without over-explaining, saying no without guilt, negotiating your worth, and getting comfortable being uncomfortable—because staying small to keep others comfortable is exhausting   Resources & Links:   Mentioned in This Episode:   → Scaffolding: meeting kids where they are developmentally while stretching them toward growth and skill-building → Life coaching with Albiona (focused on unblocking patterns, setting boundaries, and building resilience for parents and individuals)   Connect with Albiona:   → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona: [email protected]   Loved this episode?   Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly rescuing their kids from discomfort, a helicopter parent ready to let their child struggle and grow, a people-pleaser who can't say no without guilt, or anyone ready to stop staying small and start stretching into growth.   Because the truth is: resilience isn't built in the easy moments. It's built when things feel hard and we do them anyway—and then we realize we're stronger than we thought. And our kids? They're stronger than we give them credit for.   Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, she explores:   → What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling) → The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that don't fit the crime—and neither is actually responding to what the child needs → The simple 3-step framework that works for both parenting styles: state the boundary clearly, express empathy without over-explaining, restate the boundary—then allow the child space to self-regulate → How to talk to your partner about co-parenting disagreements without it turning into a fight: come from a place of connection, not correction—stay child-focused, remain open, and ask "where can I give a little and where do you need to give a little?" → Why the more consistent and predictable your responses are as a team, the safer your child feels—and how getting on the same page transforms not just your parenting, but your partnership and your home   Resources & Links: Mentioned in This Episode:   → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step regulation process for managing parenting disagreements) → Raising Lions by Joe Newman (the reset/break concept for helping kids self-regulate)   Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona: [email protected]   Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly butting heads with their partner about how to handle meltdowns, a couple stuck in the good cop/bad cop cycle, or anyone who feels like they're parenting alone even when their spouse or partner is right there.   Because the truth is: you don't have to parent the exact same way. You just have to stop compensating for each other and start focusing on what your child actually needs. And when you do that—when you parent as a team instead of against each other—everything shifts.   Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, they explore: → Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate → The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it) → Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely → How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives → Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard. Resources & Links: Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell: → Website: www.askdrcam.com → Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community) → Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast → Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout Mentioned in This Episode: → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process) → Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days → Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain → Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a defiant teen, a mom who feels like she's losing her kid to attitude and shut-downs, or anyone who's been told their teenager is "just going through a phase" and needs real tools instead of empty reassurance. Because the truth is: teens aren't the problem. Our outdated beliefs about what they need from us are. And when we shift how we see them, everything changes. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, she explores:→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulateThis episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."Resources & Links:Mentioned in This Episode:→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)Connect with Albiona:→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/→ Email Albiona: [email protected] this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.Until next time,Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, they explore:→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connectionThis episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.Resources & Links:Connect with Mary Van Geffen:→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso Mentioned in This Episode:→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)Connect with Albiona:→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.comLoved this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.Until next time,Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inside, Albiona explores:→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.Resources & Links:Connect with Albiona:→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.comLoved this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.Until next time,Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.