Confessions Of A Perimenopausal Coach With Teenagers

Every so often you meet a woman whose work has already changed you before you ever share a room with her and for me, that woman is Regena Thomashauer. You know her as Mama Gena, the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation and founder of the School of Womanly Arts. In this episode we go deep into her fifth book, On Our Knees, and the descent that inspired it: the moment she walked away from the stage, the mastery programme and the identity she'd spent decades building, with no guarantee of what was waiting on the other side. We talk about the myth of Inanna, healing trauma through pleasure, why the female nervous system is stuck in "brace mode", and how to fuck up gloriously. We even do a live 30-second practice you can play along with. It's raw, it's holy, it's hilarious and it will crack you open in the best way.HighlightsRegena vs Mama Gena — why the woman behind the boa is actually an introvert [03:54]On Our Knees — why Regena chose "our" instead of "your" and put herself in it with us [05:45]At the top of her game, making millions… and knowing it was time to "go home" [07:02]The part of the myth people skip: Inanna actually dies [15:04]The goddess who sat on her bed when she was five [22:30]Accidentally healing trauma through orgasm, and the chemistry of pleasure [30:16]The exhausted female nervous system in "brace mode", and why now is the time [36:03]A live practice: the 30-second temper tantrum, then rage meets turn-on [48:09]Where to get On Our Knees, and joining The Initiation launch [53:07]Quotes"I was the head chorus girl in the kick-line of clinging.""The crown does its job too well. It gets you loved as the queen — right up until you wonder whether it's you they want, or they want to be close to your throne.""There's no version of the descent where you keep the crown and find out who you are without it.""It looks like loss right up until it doesn't.""The female brain calms for safety — and pleasure is one of the deepest signals of safety the body knows.""Women are the greatest untapped natural resource on this planet, and the time to tap is now.""That inner voice? That's not yours. That was installed probably around the same time you got your first bra.""The goddess doesn't run a prison — she runs an initiation."Regena Thomashauer has spent three decades as one of the boldest voices in women's empowerment and has been featured on the Conan O’Brien Show, The Today Show, Oprah Daily, The New York Times and more. As founder of the School of Womanly Arts, she has taught hundreds of thousands of women worldwide to reclaim pleasure, desire, and sovereign power as the foundation of a fully lived life. Her New York Times bestseller, Pussy: A Reclamation was praised by The Washington Post for “taking back the p-word, turning it into a source of strength rather than a term of belittlement.” In her bold new book, On Our Knees: Loving Your Life Even When You Hate What's Happening (Hay House, August 2026), she makes an even more provocative and contrarian argument: that surrender may be the deepest expression of feminine power.Links of interestGet On Our Knees.Find Regena on Instagram.Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This one's for you if there's something you've been keeping in the shadows — a number, a truth, a part of you you're scared will be judged — that's quietly stopping you from showing up in your full power.I'm coming to you with a completely different energy this week, and I know exactly why. I've been looking after myself: walking meditations, cutting the sugar, and finally having the HRT conversation I'd been avoiding for years (yes, we go there — consider this your TMI warning). But the big one? I shared my net worth on Instagram. Wildly vulnerable, terrifying to post, and the most freeing thing I've done in a long time. Because shame lives in the shadows — and the moment you turn a light on it, it loses its power.I also get into John Demartini's work, why every single person you meet is part of your personal curriculum, and how one shift in perspective changes everything. Quick, honest, and hopefully deeply uplifting. And a reminder that faith plus action equals miracles.Quotes"Shame lives in the shadows. As soon as you turn a light on it, it loses its power.""Maybe I'm not where I, in inverted commas, should be, but I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.""Every single human being that you come into contact with is part of your personal curriculum.""You can make your present circumstances completely different by just shifting your perspective."Highlights01:05 TMI, trigger warning — the one thing I decided I was no longer willing to tolerate04:21 The wildly vulnerable thing I did on Instagram this week05:30 Sharing my net worth: the reaction that surprised me, and the one judgey comment06:38 Why shame lives in the shadows, and what happens the moment you turn on the light09:02 Your invitation: where are you dimming yourself to avoid being judged?13:59 Every person you meet is part of your personal curriculumLoved this one? Take your version of my three-minute video — then tag me on Instagram and let me know what you brought out of the shadows.Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This one’s a little chaotic, and I’m owning that. I’m in Girona, fresh off the back of Summer School, body tired, mind absolutely buzzing.I’m getting into what running the biggest free challenge I’ve done since 2021 actually taught me, why scaling is never as simple as “just do more of what works”, and the real reason so many people get stuck at six figures and can’t break through (hint: it’s not your strategy).Plus the messy, magic way I got the clarity I came here for. And a reminder that faith + action = miracles.Quotes“Core strategy matters, but the thing that’s holding you back is identity.”“You can’t change things all together all at once. You can only do a tweak here and a tweak there.”“There is no doubt in my mind that I have got what I came for.”“I’m so grateful for the version of me who says yes to experiences like this consistently.”Highlights02:28 Why my mind is all over the place, and what I’m sharing instead of a tidy debrief03:36 The real numbers from the biggest free challenge I’ve run since 202106:46 Why “just scale what’s working” is never as simple as it sounds15:19 The six-figure ceiling, and the first-child analogy that explains it20:16 Two steps forward, three steps back? It’s not your strategy22:29 The 30-second breakfast moment that handed me exactly what I came forI’m hosting a one-day mastermind in Ibiza this September. Get on the wait list to be first to hear: suzyashworth.com/ibizawaitlist. And if you’re at six figures and ready to work on strategy and identity together, DM me the word ACCELERATE on Instagram.Loved this one? Share it with someone who’d benefit, and tag me on Instagram.Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This one's for you if you're tempted to burn it all down and start from scratch. New Instagram, new strategy, new everything. Because the algorithm "doesn't like you" anymore.I'm getting into the thing I'm seeing everywhere right now: people pouring time and energy into optimizing the wrong thing entirely. A couple of real examples, the question that changes where you put your effort, and why the fastest path to what you actually want is almost never the shiny new thing.Quick and dirty, straight off the back of Summer School. And a reminder that faith plus action equals miracles.Quotes"She doesn't want to engage Instagram, she wants more clients.""What's already working? That has got to be the first question. Not what strategy should I use, not what tactics should I use, but what is already working?""My whole mission is to no longer tolerate and accept the over complication of really simple things.""When we put first things first, we will get infinitely quicker results whilst eliminating distraction."Highlights00:56 The advice everyone's repeating right now that's quietly costing people thousands of followers02:05 Why it made sense for one person to start from scratch, and why it won't for you04:01 The five-pound-a-day move I'd make instead of burning it all down06:02 The question to ask before you build anything new (your left hand vs your right hand)07:51 The client who wanted to fix the wrong thing, and the numbers that stopped us10:26 The fastest path to the result you actually wantWays to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This one's for you if you've hit a plateau. If things just aren't moving the way you want them to, and you're quietly going insane doing variations of the same old thing.I'm getting into why nothing changes until you're willing to do the uncomfortable thing, what it really means to bet on yourself, and the question that takes the pressure off everything.Honest about the sticky season I've just come through. And a reminder that faith plus action equals miracles.Quotes"If you want to get a different result, you've got to create some momentum. And momentum comes from movement.""Every time you make yourself smaller to fit into somebody else's idea of what's possible, you erode your self confidence.""Pressure creates contraction. And trying to receive infinitely when you feel contracted is not the vibe.""It starts with the decision to no longer tolerate doing what you're currently doing in the way that you're doing it."Highlights01:05 Why the starting point for change is the last place you'd want to begin03:28 The quiet thing you've been doing for weeks, months, maybe years, without even noticing06:05 Why we keep choosing busy over what actually moves the needle (and the app I had to delete)09:06 The North Star that's kept me out of the muggle world's version of "normal"14:55 The floor, the ceiling, and the mindset shift that takes the pressure off everythingMentioned in this episode: Summer School, my first free training in over 18 months, with more people registered than I've had in five years. Perfect for you if you're an aspiring coach, healer or therapist ready to leverage your time and income and build a world-class business. Join at suzyashworth.com/joinsummerschoolLoved this one? Tag me on Instagram and let me know your big takeaway.Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This episode is about doing the difficult thing. The one you're circling right now in your life or your business, quietly hoping someone else will handle it for you.I'm sharing the three principles that have kept me in this industry for 13 years. Plus the reframe that changes everything.Short and sweet. Honest about how messy the middle feels. And a reminder that faith plus action is the thing that equals miracles.Quotes"The reason I'm still here is because, in many instances, I have been willing to do the difficult thing. That is what differentiates anybody who has longevity.""Doing nothing never helps. You doing the thing is going to give you the feedback you need to make the next decision.""If we think about our businesses, our lives, like a science experiment, then you're never defeated. It's just data.""Get really excited when you get something wrong. Because it means you're about to learn something new."Highlights01:05 Why Suzy decided to learn Facebook ads herself instead of immediately hiring another manager, and the strategy shift she spotted straight away05:02 The 35 minute power hour that changed everything in 72 hours, and what 13 years in this industry taught her about longevity06:02 The question to ask yourself: where are you avoiding the difficult thing? And the three principles that get you through it09:14 Why everything is always feedback, never failure, and how to switch from worry to wonder12:24 That feeling on the other side of the difficult thing. The one she doesn't want you to rob yourself ofWays to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t a lack of knowledge?What if it’s the version of you that still believes where you are is your limit?In this episode, I dive into a truth that hit me hard whilst looking at one of my own patterns.Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result really is the definition of madness.We talk about why change feels so uncomfortable, why familiarity wins even when we know it’s not serving us, and what it actually takes to become a match for the life, business and results you say you want.Because wishing, hoping, manifesting, meditating and praying are only part of the equation.At some point, something has to change.The question is:Are you willing to change with it?Quotes"Your behaviour is a match for who you believe yourself to be.""Familiarity will always trump the uncertainty of moving into unknown territory.""So many of us want the reality to change to give ourselves permission for us to change. And it doesn't work like that."Highlights01:05 — The uncomfortable realisation that sparked this conversation05:48 — Why the version of you that got here can't take you where you want to go next13:19 — The missing piece that turns awareness into transformationWays to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

In this episode, I share what the last season of my life has really felt like behind the scenes.Perimenopause. Teenagers. Grief. Brain fog. Exhaustion. Sugar. Emotional overwhelm. Trying to hold everybody whilst quietly wondering… “What is happening to me?”Because there came a point where I realised:“This is not normal.”Not from drama.Not from crisis.Just me… standing in the cheese aisle… trying not to cry.This conversation is honest, emotional, messy, practical and deeply hopeful.Because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop pretending you’re fine and finally support yourself like you matter too.And sometimes?A few small decisions can change everything.Quotes“I hadn’t really been feeling myself for quite a while.”“It’s really easy to justify not putting yourself first when you are holding so much.”“Confidence comes from clarity and taking action.”Highlights05:12 The emotional weight of grief, teenagers and trying to hold everything together. 08:55 The moment I realised “this is not normal”. 14:13 What started shifting when I stopped ignoring myself.Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

What if the biggest thing keeping women over 40 stuck… isn’t age, ability, or opportunity?What if it’s the lies they’ve quietly started believing?In this episode, I talk about the messy middle between “I think my best years are behind me” and “I’m just getting started.”Because I am seeing two very different women emerge right now.The woman who is slowing down, playing smaller, clinging to what feels safe…And the woman who knows she is wiser, more powerful, more experienced, more alive than she has ever been before.We talk about the fear of blowing everything up.The fear that it’s too late.The fear that you’re not young enough, not ready enough, not capable enough.And we talk about what becomes possible when you finally stop building everyone else’s dream… and decide to go all in on your own.This one is for every high performing woman who knows there is more for her life.The question is…are you ready to believe it too?Quotes“It’s never really about capability. It is all about trusting yourself enough to finally say I am worthy of going all in for me.”“The fastest growing businesses are not being built by 25 year olds. They are being built by women in their 40s and 50s.”“I am the wisest that I’ve ever been. I’ve got the most experience I’ve ever had. Like, I am ready to play.”Highlights02:26 The two very different paths women over 40 are stepping into right now09:28 Why your story might be the very thing that makes you extraordinary17:15 The real reason brilliant women stay stuck for yearsWays to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles

This is one of the most powerful conversations I have ever recorded.Because we go there.We talk about betrayal, faith, truth, and the moments where you want to throw in the towel… but something deeper won’t let you.This is not a conversation about having it all together.This is a conversation about what happens when everything falls apart… and you are still being asked to choose who you are.This episode will meet you exactly where you are.Whether you are in a moment of questioning, in a moment of pain, or in a moment of deep remembering.Because the truth is…sometimes the whisper is quietbut it will not let you walk away.About JaclynJaclyn Shaw is a spiritual mentor, best-selling author, and sought-after speaker whose presence alone will move you into deeper truth and bolder action.When she speaks, women listen.Her conviction commands attention.Her wisdom hits at a soul level.Her trust in herself—and in God—is undeniably felt.Truth burns as her eternal flame.Faith resonates as her unwavering frequency.And as she puts it: God signs her 7-figure paychecks.You can find Jaclyn on instagram here and Facebook here.Be the first to know when Jaclyn's upcoming book, Whispers of The Divine, is available - https://jaclynshaw.ca/whispers-of-the-divine-waitlistHighlights02:55 – The moment everything changed… and the faith that kept her anchored16:59 – The whisper that said “your story isn’t over yet”33:20 – What it really means to not betray yourselfQuotes“Your story isn’t over yet.”“I had to decide… am I willing to not betray myself?”“It wasn’t the easy path… but it was the true one.”Ways to work with meFind Suzy on Instagram.Apply for the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business Certification.Faith + Action = Miracles