245. Optimal Parenting I: The Big Picture

#245: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres explore the topic of parenting, introducing the three key principles of Optimal Parenting: connection, confidence, and consistency. They begin with some background neuroscience to explain why parents are essential in the first place—offering a contrast to approaches like gentle parenting or the view presented in the recent book The Sovereign Child. Upcoming episodes will dive deeper into each of these three principles.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#244: This episode continues our discussion of Alfie Kohn’s “Punished by Rewards.” Kohn believes that a person’s motivation (especially a child’s) starts out pure but gets corrupted by rewards and praise. Here we explore the possibility that intrinsic motivation is actually something that develops over time, and thus behavioralist psychology, rather than destroying intrinsic motivation, in fact opens up a path to it.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#243: In this episode, we explore the radical claims made by Alfie Kohn in his 1993 book Punished by Rewards. Kohn, an expert in education and psychology, argues against the use of rewards to incentivize behavior. For Kohn, such incentives cause people to lose intrinsic motivation: for instance, kids get motivated by grades, not learning; employees get motivated by money, not creativity and service. Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#242: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres discuss the nature of addiction. They begin by exploring its development, showing how addiction often starts as a pursuit of pleasure but can evolve into a compulsive behavior that undermines personal ideals and freedom. The conversation focuses on the neuroscience of addiction, highlighting the role of the brain's dorsal striatum in compulsive behaviors. Dr. Majeres explains how the shift from the ventral to the dorsal striatum marks a transition from pleasure-seeking to compulsion, driven by dynorphins. The discussion also covers the nature of habits, the importance of reframing and mindfulness in breaking addiction cycles, and strategies for recovery.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#241: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres discuss the Seven Deadly Sins from a psychological perspective, exploring how these vices can be viewed as habits or addictions that violate personal ideals. They discuss the nature of addiction, the role of cravings, and the importance of understanding the triggers behind addictive behaviors. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mindfulness, acceptance, and practical skills in overcoming addiction and fostering personal growth. It also highlights the impact of environment on addiction and the necessity of building meaningful connections to combat feelings of loneliness and vulnerability.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#240: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres explore the concept of dynorphins and their role in personal growth, looking at a variety of cases. They discuss how dynorphins can affect behaviors such as perfectionism, procrastination, and workaholism, emphasizing the importance of embracing pain to foster growth. The conversation also touches on emotional responses, the challenges of insomnia, and the significance of validating one's feelings to enhance emotional resilience.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#239: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres delve into the concept of dynorphins and their role in human suffering and growth. They discuss how dynorphins are linked to discomfort and the importance of embracing this discomfort for personal development. The conversation explores the functions of the amygdala in emotional responses, the relationship between dopamine and dynorphins, and the significance of order and intensity in overcoming challenges. They also touch on the concepts of threat learning and safety learning, and how reframing our perception of dynorphins can lead to greater growth and love in our lives.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#238: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres explore the concept of dynorphins and their crucial role in emotional growth and personal development. They discuss the importance of embracing discomfort and unwillingness as pathways to growth, drawing on insights from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). The conversation highlights how dynorphins influence our emotional responses and coping mechanisms, and how understanding these dynamics can aid in mentoring and personal transformation. The episode concludes with practical strategies for cultivating willingness and love in the face of discomfort.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#237: In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres discuss the transformative practices of OptimalWork, focusing on projects, growth goals, and the Golden Hour. They explore the importance of setting growth goals, the role of AI in enhancing productivity, and the significance of mindfulness and attention in work. The conversation highlights recent updates to the OptimalWork app and tools.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com

#236: The pain you experience from negative emotions is your brain’s way of predicting and preparing you for some kind of avoidant behavior. In this episode, we’ll show you how to most directly change your brain’s predictions and thus attain a new mastery over discomfort.Find more at https://OptimalWork.com