Learned Helplessness in Our Kids

Many parents struggle with this concept of "natural" consequences because they don’t fully understand what constitutes a “natural” consequence. And sometimes parents have difficulty relinquishing control because they feel they always have to get their child to obey. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/5-areas-to-let-your-child-face-natural-consequences/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

At Empowering Parents, we often hear from parents who feel frustrated at their teenager’s bad attitude and irresponsible behavior. Whether it’s doing well in school or keeping a job, some kids just don’t seem to care. Here's what you can do. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-deal-with-teenage-attitude/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

When your child says, "I'm sorry, but..." you can be sure everything after "but" is bull. You can also be sure the inappropriate behavior will occur again because your child is not owning their mistakes. Here's what you can do to end the bull and improve your child's behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-blaming-and-apologies-everything-after-but-is-bull/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

When your child has made really bad choices it is devastating and feelings of guilt and grief are normal and okay. This episode offers heartfelt advice on how to cope with these difficult situations. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/grieving-your-child-whos-gone-wrong/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

Kids often use violence to deal with frustration, disappointment, and anger. It’s how they solve these problems. And it’s how they gain power in the home. Here's what you can do when your child or teen gets violent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/when-kids-get-violent-theres-no-excuse-for-abuse/ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/should-i-call-the-police-on-my-child/ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-talk-to-police-when-your-child-is-physically-abusive/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

While it’s common to fall into the trap of feeling guilty, your guilt won’t get you—or your child—anywhere. Understand that when you blame yourself, you’re taking responsibility for your child’s behavior instead of holding them accountable for their behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/am-i-a-bad-parent-how-to-let-go-of-parenting-guilt/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

spotify-template.txt Have you ever heard someone talk about how well-behaved your child is and thought in disbelief, “Excuse me? Are you talking about my kid?” We frequently hear from parents whose kids save their worst behavior for home. It’s a common problem. It’s one thing if your child acts out with everyone, but it’s a completely different thing when their anger is directed at you and only you. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/angel-child-or-devil-child-when-kids-save-their-bad-behavior-for-you/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

When we do too much for our kids—when we over-function for them—we rob them of the skills and practice necessary to develop competence and mastery in life. Instead of learning life skills, they learn helplessness. Here's what you can do instead. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/learned-helplessness-are-you-doing-too-much-for-your-child/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

Some of our most popular and helpful parenting tips. Plus, a Total Transformation tip from James Lehman. Lots of great parenting content in this episode. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/8-best-parenting-tips/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/

A major part of getting your child to do their homework lies in establishing a system so that your child comes to see that homework is just a regular part of home life. Once they accept that, you’ve already won half the battle. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/child-refuses-to-do-homework/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/