SHADOWS

Soulmates are believed to be destined for each other, their connection transcending the ordinary bonds of love and companionship. It's a cosmic alignment, a meeting of two souls that were always meant to intertwine in the vast tapestry of existence. The profound connection between soulmates goes beyond surface compatibility; it delves into a shared essence that resonates on a deeper, spiritual level. Which is something I never thought was remotely possible, a figment of my imagination, quite frankly a belief that I would only see it in stories or in movies. But here we are.

Let's take the time to reflect on why we keep beating ourselves up for something we have no control over. Our problems, hesitations, challenges, and doubts are inevitable. The only way for us to breakthrough and achieve our best version is facing these instances head on, telling yourself that you are incapable will not do you any good. Trust in yourself, and trust the natural process of life. Keep safe!

Let's remember that your past experience does not define you as you grow and mature in life, but it serves its purpose as a learning experience for you to not commit the same mistakes that you have done. We are all worthy of being loved, and loving someone else. There may be setbacks and even more struggles to go through, but it's all part of your journey. Never question your self worth to the extent that you no longer feel like you are not enough. Pain, suffering, and even loss can always be a result of every connection you make, do keep in mind that even if you have to go through such, it can only make you better than you were to begin with.

Admittedly, it's easy to advise someone not to beg or plead for someone to stay. We assume that if the same thing happened to us, the decision would be a no-brainer. However, is it really that easy to let someone go, to tell them that it's ok if they left us for another person. Let's be honest, begging and pleading for someone to stay is inevitable. It doesn't matter how strong or matured you are, there will come a moment in your life that you would have done the same thing. Does it make you less of a person should that have happened? No, it serves as an experience to further progress and learn throughout the process of what a relationship should be and how it should end.

It's been a while since I have uploaded an episode, and through the time I have been away I have kept reflecting on a concept that I have chosen to discuss today. People are always uncertain about entering a relationship, which is why "ghosting" has become a norm. Not that we should blame those who have ghosted and the one being ghosted.  Let's take a look at the bigger picture, we have chosen to build walls and we have chosen to take a leap of faith when it comes to love, therefore is there really anyone to blame? At the end of the day it's the choices we make that define the next steps we plan to take. Whether you are uncertain or not, it does not make it normal to leave people with unanswered questions, and it isn't normal to forcefully ask for answers.

We always think that if we conjure up the worst possible scenario that we can encounter as a couple, we have already prepared for the worst. That's the funny thing about impermanence, no one will ever be ready. It's the constant imperfection and proof that change is constant. How we adapt and act to what is thrown at us. If we could assume and predict the future and prepare for what's to come, then we wouldn't be at the state that we are in today. Relationships are grounded with the foundation that you have built with it, choosing the person that will help and push you beyond your limits to become better as a couple. If you are still blinded by impermanence, then you aren't going to make it. Music provided: Ru Frequence - Eutanasia https://youtu.be/8iDStFNWd_o Music provided: Pineapple Vanilla Sounds https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHX_Xv9w5CQ

Thank you very much for the overwhelming support that you guys have given me as "The Emotional Author". I know we all have to start somewhere, but you guys have been amazing. Your continuous support and belief keeps me driven and motivated to publish more. I wouldn't be doing all of this, without YOU. From the bottom of my very emotional heart, THANK YOU! Cheers to Season 2! Music provided: Pineapple Vanilla Sounds https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHX_Xv9w5CQ

Your entire love story is not dictated by what society deems as acceptable. You are given the liberty to create and masterfully conclude your desired outcome. All relationships have rough patches, struggles, challenges, arguments and so on, but the person or the people that can resolve this would be yourself and your partner. If you have decided that this is how it ends, for reasons that you know you have thought well and hard about, then there shouldn't be any regrets. You are in total control, and you should never lose that.

Think about the days wherein your relationship was shattered due to moments you couldn't resolve because neither of you could understand. You were caught up in the tension and emotions that you both were trying to express yet no one was there to listen. You guys both decided to give in because no one was willing to adjust and adapt to the situation. Let's focus on the idea that sharing your thoughts and emotions is just as important as being heard. There are two people in the relationship and we should always remember that it is "You and I against the problem" rather than "I can handle this on my own".

We all have standards wherein we would think that it would be the target to find the perfect mate. That if they do not meet these standards, they aren't good enough. The same thing happens wherein we would think that we aren't enough or that we can't meet the standards of the people we pursue. This episode tries to omit that norm and allow us to open our hearts and minds to forget standards because we shouldn't be competing for love, we should be building it.