10. The Coaching Conversation with Shawn Meredith

The Coaching Conversation with Allison Pollard In this episode, we explore our inspiration behind coaching, the gap between intention and impact, how to notice it, building trust with individuals, teams and managers, the drama triangle, managers as coaches and more. Give it a listen! Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways): ⚡️Be grateful for those who inspired your journey ⚡Experience is the best way to learn coaching ⚡️Notice the gaps between your intention and impact  ⚡Take a step back for others to step forward ⚡️Reflect on your intention vs. your impact as a leader ⚡️Pay attention to what’s happening and why ⚡️Explore different alternatives when you feel stuck ⚡️Share what you’re noticing with kindness and empathy ⚡️Prepare for difficult conversations before you have them ⚡️Focus on building trust with yourself and others ⚡️Be aware of the drama triangle ⚡Reflect back with care and compassion ⚡️Take responsibility for your impact ⚡️Apologize when you make a mistake #agile #coaching #leadership #teams #trust Allison Pollard www.allisonpollard.com/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

In this episode, we explore Jeff's most recent book: Forever Employable. We talked about his inspiration for writing it, thinking of careers from a pull system perspective, applying a product development mindset to self, understanding our core value, using IKIGAI, overcoming fear of failure and much more. Give it a listen! Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways): ⚡️Be humble in order to learn and grow ⚡️Reflect on your journey often ⚡️Learn your own unique story ⚡️Find the stories that made you who you are today  ⚡️Think of your work/career as a service to others ⚡️Humility is a prerequisite to learning ⚡️Start with knowing your core value ⚡Look for new ways to deliver (or honor) your core value ⚡️Run small experiments (the smaller the experiment, the faster you learn) ⚡️Ask yourself, is this true or is this an assumption? ⚡️Adjust, iterate and try again  ⚡️Don’t get discouraged, run small experiments, learn and adapt #agile #coaching #leanux #senseandrespond #foreveremployable #ikigai Jeff Gothelf jeffgothelf.com/ jeffgothelf.com/foreveremployable/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

In this episode, we explore insights on designing conversations that matter. We talked about being intentional with conversations, slowing down to have deeper and more meaningful conversations and much more. Give it a listen! Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways): ⚡️"Our lives are built on one conversation at a time.” ⚡️“A conversation where both people walk away unchanged is a missed opportunity.” ⚡️A Conversation is the smallest unit of change ⚡️Designing a conversation starts with empathy and understanding the context ⚡️Slowing the conversation down can make it more intentional and more impactful ⚡️Notice when you need to pause or slow down the conversation and when you need to speed it up ⚡️Focus on discovering and don’t be afraid to not know ⚡Listen and allow silence and remember they are active and important aspects of a conversation ⚡️Our lives are defined by the conversations we can or can’t have ⚡️Change the space if you want to change or shift the conversation ⚡️Leadership is the ability to design the conditions for a transformative conversation #design #better #coaching #conversation #leadership #goodtalk Daniel Stillman www.danielstillman.com/ theconversationfactory.com/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

The Coaching Conversation with Shawn Meredith In this episode, we explore emotional literacy, coaching and therapy, positive psychology, resilience, tools and practices to improve our well being including emotional hygiene. I even got a 2-second training in solutions-based therapy! :)  Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways): 💡Finding meaning takes awareness and intention 💡There’s huge wisdom in emotion 💡Be mindful when we are in an emotional process vs thinking process 💡Try to spend a percentage of your day in the driver’s seat metaphorically speaking ;) 💡Design new experiences and try new things 💡Pay attention to the script that’s running in the background 💡Practice resilience over resignation 💡Look for ways to raise your awareness 💡Be intentional about your mental hygiene  💡We are not our emotions or our thoughts 💡Boss your brain back 💡Question the script (or challenge the story you tell yourself) 💡Pay attention to your emotions #emotional #literacy #selfcare #selfcompassion #resilience #becoming #better #leadership #coaching #positivepsychology Shawn Meredith www.affectleader.com/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

The Coaching Conversation with April Jefferson In this episode, we explore unlocking potential with open space, creating and holding a safe space for everyone to bring their voice, honoring the law of mobility to take responsibility for our learning, inviting the open space mindset in organizations as well using open space to facilitate difficult conversations. Give it a listen! Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways):  ⚡Start with values (what do you value most?) ⚡️Learning happens all the time (pay attention to how you learn best) ⚡️Notice your expectations of others and the story you're telling yourself ⚡️Slow down and challenge your assumptions ⚡Question what you are learning  ⚡Take the right action (which could look different based on the context) ⚡️Every interaction can serve as an invitation to the open space mindset ⚡️Change is sustainable when people own their own change  ⚡️Lead with empathy, compassion and care ⚡️Honor the law of mobility for yourself and others ⚡️Ask yourself (with your actions), “Is this coming from fear or freedom?” Thanks to #AgileNOVA participants for participating and asking questions. April Jefferson www.linkedin.com/in/soulcraftswoman/ soulcraftswoman.com/ 24hr Open Space event bit.ly/FoW24HR Open Space openspaceworld.org www.linkedin.com/pulse/3-biggest-…-salah-elleithy/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

In this episode, we explore the neuroscience of coaching, cognitive coaching, the work of Dr. Marian Diamond, goal-setting and revisiting goals on a regular basis and 3 rules to set better goals as well as activating your unconscious mind to work on goals. Give it a listen! Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways):  ⚡️ Learning doesn’t happen in a straight line ⚡️ Be curious and stay curious ⚡️ Learn by doing and practicing ⚡️ Always be seeking better ways (or uncovering better ways…) ⚡️ "The five things needed for the brain to grow are diet, exercise, challenge, newness and love”  ⚡️ Write down your goals and revisit them on a regular basis  ⚡️ It’s more about focus management NOT time management ⚡️ There’s a difference between stretching your comfort zone and going outside of it

In this episode, we explore her journey from Success to Significance, how paying attention and noticing the peak moments in her journey generated deeper insights, aligning her values with her actions and leading in this time of uncertainty and much more insights on bringing more fulfillment by honoring our values. Give it a listen!!  Here are some things to think about or take action on (Takeaways):  💡 Looking backwards can give you insights on how to move forward  💡 Aligning your values with your actions leads to true fulfillment  💡 Clearing assumptions can spark real conversations and deeper level of awareness 💡 Curiosity is a super power 💡 Shift your focus from external to internal motivation 💡 Take action (or experiment) and get clarity 💡 Your values are a roadmap for decision making 💡 The mismatch of what we value and what we do is the source of suffering 💡 Showing up as a leader when times are tough is a sign of true leadership Tanisha Parrish lifeunderinnovation.com/ www.betterup.com/ Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

Episode 6 - The Coaching Conversation with Ahmed Sidky In this episode, we  explore mindset, its importance on learning, how Ahmed's mission sparked  a life long learning journey, taking risks and experimenting as a  critical part of learning, what it means to run an agile organization  and how leadership is a labor of love and it is essential to encourage a  culture of learning. Give it a listen!! Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

Episode 5 - The Coaching Conversation with Lyssa Adkins In this episode of The Coaching Conversation, I explored with Lyssa the why behind recording Coaching Agile Teams, why now as well as the  creative process involved and what she discovered in the process. As  we explore the creative process, a metaphor emerged and we went places  and explored a variety of topics like the importance of slowing down and  locating ourselves in the midst of what’s happening, processing grief  with community and in solitude. Give it a listen!! Here are some things to think about (Takeaways):  💡 It starts with clear mission (Lyssa’s mission is to help emerge the profession of Agile Coaching) 💡 “Slow down so that you can notice what’s trying to happen vs. what you want to happen or perhaps you’re already trying to force to happen” 💡 Make space for grief 💡 Prepare then let go  💡 Know your strengths and also know when to dial them down when needed 💡 There’s always a creative response 💡 Always work on yourself 💡 Inspect and adapt 💡 Humans are resilient Learn more about Lyssa's work: www.lyssaadkins.com/ Behind the scenes on recording the book: www.lyssaadkins.com/coaching-agile-teams-audiobook Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy

Episode 4 - The Coaching Conversation with Marsha Acker In  this conversation, we explore the topics on facilitation, balancing the  being and the doing, self-awareness, listening, dialogical leadership  and coaching as a core leadership skill. Marsha Acker's Bio teamcatapult.com/about/our-team/marsha-acker/ Marsha's book https://teamcatapult.pages.ontraport.net/art-and-science-of-facilitation Hosted by Salah Elleithy www.sparkagility.com twitter.com/@selleithy