From Hookups to Partnership: How Do Gay Men Build Lasting Love? EP 743

Follow Aidan Wharton on IG: @aidanwharton Aidan Wharton's Substack: https://gaybuffet.substack.com/ Aidan Wharton's Podcast: Getting Close We welcome Aidan Wharton to the show to discuss friendship, why it's harder to find true friendships that show up for us and find real connections The hosts and Aidan discuss nudes, 'close friends' on Instagram, managing them and how Aidan's nudes were stolen and the trauma it caused. We talk about the currency that gay men participate in with our nude photos... The hosts ask Aidan about his Substack "Gay Buffet" a once-weekly newsletter that will help you make sense of this mess of a world through a lens that is unapologetically Queer, thoughtful, and optimistic. Gay Gourmet is the elevated cousin of Gay Buffet, with exclusive articles focused on healthy relationships and effective communication. Aidan is married and talks about his open relationship, his approach to open relationships and how to deal with shame. Aidan is the host of speed dating in New York. He talks about the importance of meeting IRL Hot Topic: Most tops don't douche...surprising or not? Hot Topic: Jools Lebron "very demure, very mindful' shares struggle with sobriety and fame... Hot Topic: Gays at the oscars! Advice: Older gay man is still attracted to twinks... Advice: Can you DM a guy you haven't seen in awhile...? Advice: Fit vs. Muscular... Thirst Trap: Who took the hottest shot of the week? Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is looksmaxxing? Looksmaxxing is the process of maximizing one’s physical attractiveness through various methods, ranging from improved grooming and skincare to extreme, sometimes surgical, interventions. Originating in online "incel" forums, the term gained popularity on TikTok in the 2020s, with practitioners, often young men, focusing on optimizing facial structure and aesthetics. Do gay men looksmaxx? Would you take a pill that would make you hotter and younger? Are drugs like Ozempic and botox and fillers a form of looksmaxxing? The hosts discuss the first time they realized that looks mattered in gay dating... Are apps at the forefront of how gay men feel about themselves? The hosts discuss how their tastes may or may not have changed as they've aged.. The hosts play a fun lighting round of things they would change if they could... Hot Topic: 5 Sexual Wellness Trends that are good for the gay community today Hot Topic: How Grindr can impact gay travel in a good way... Hot Topic: Oscar Fashions plus did Connor Storrie leave with Troye Sivan post Oscar party? Hot Topic: Mamdani appoints Trans woman to lead NYC LGBTQIA+ office Hot Topic: Lil Nas X has his day in court Hot Topic: Weho Pride announces major music lineup plus the PussyCat Dolls Reunion minus 1... Hot Topic: Boy George on his new Vegas residency plus his comments to Chappell Roan... Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The more options people have, the harder it becomes to choose. The hosts share their personal stories... What makes someone stay emotionally? What actually creates lasting connection? We discuss how gay men are redefining what relationships look like often without children and with monogamy and open relationships... We talk alignment in a relationship and even when you find a partner you need to continually align... What makes relationship material?? The hosts discuss Hot Topic: Gay men share the moment they realized their partner was 'the one' Hot Topic: "Heated Rivalry" cast have a message to 'toxic fandom'... Hot Topic: New Study talks about the size of penises and which states have the largest Hot Topic: George Michael new concert film and album coming out soon! Advice: Saw a colleague at an orgy and now it's potentially awkward... Advice: My BF is giving hints that he wants to explore BDSM but not sure I want that... Thirst Trap: Who took the hottest shot of the week?! Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The article suggests dating success today isn’t about perfect profiles or better apps — it’s about authenticity, values, emotional maturity, and consistency. But do those ideas actually match how gay men really date and have sex? Do gay men actually follow this advice… or do we just hook up and hope something happens? Have you ever performed a version of yourself while dating? We discusss it easier to be authentic after you've slept with someone? Is it easier to be authentic after you've slept with someone? We discuss emotional intelligence and how that is important... Hot Topic: AIDS Survivor Syndrome is a real thing for a certain generation of men who didn't expect to live very long... Hot Topic: We're taking bath houses, the history, today and what goes on behind the scenes... Hot Topic: Lyft is giving a discount in Kansas to the Trans Community... Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Lincoln on IG: @madlincoln Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mama Tits aka Brian returns to the podcast to discuss his stage 4 Prostate Cancer journey including being diagnosed just last year with no symptoms Meeting the love of his life last July and how they kept the relationship under the radar which was new for Brian... How Brian's man stuck with him even after the stage 4 diagnosis plus asked Brian to fight Getting back on stage as Mama Tits and how audiences have responded What treatment has looked like with stage 4 Prostate cancer Mama Tit's message to anyone who has a prostate Mama Tit's talks about the state of Puerto Vallarta and why we all need to visit PV now because it's back and safer than ever and the economy in PV really needs your support now! Mama Tit's talks her new show "Side Effects May Vary" now through the end of May Hot Topics: Alan Cumming makes a statement amid the controversy of the BAFTA's Hot Topic: If you wanted to rent the cottage in 'Heated Rivalry' you'll have to wait until 2028... Hot Topic: New York City is losing a gay restaurant institution Elmo after 25 years! Advice: Dating a guy for 5 months but he is slow to return messages but is always on Sniffies... Thirst Trap: Out of 16 adult performers who took the hottest pic of the week Visit: themamatits.com Follow Mama Tits on IG: @themamatits Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Has app culture conditioned us to keep looking for “better”? Have you ever felt disposable after sex? Have you ever treated someone else as disposable? Does abundance make people easier to replace emotionally? If sex is easy for some gay men then why is it so hard to find and keep a lasting healthy relationship Has sex changed for us as we've grown older? The hosts discuss Is their a middle ground of hot gay sex and true meaningful connections? Hot Topic: Connor Storrie is definitely hot right now and we love it! Hot Topic: States like Idaho try and once again get rid of same sex marriage and Kansas tries to ban Trans from driving unless license says what sex you were born with... Hot Topic: Do you code switch? What is it and when is it good and when is it used to impress a date? Hot Topic: Sniffies new 'blue collar' line is reviewed Hot Topic: Would you rent the 'Heated Rivalry' cottage??? Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“Being gay is like turning on the sink and water just comes out.” According to a a popular influencer is that Sex is easily obtainable...is it? We discuss... Or is that something only some gay men experience? And if it is easy… why does love feel so much harder? The hosts discuss when they felt like sex was more accessible in gay spaces... Is sex built into our gay community for some of us but then is affection and love that much harder to find without any examples or tools? Do body image, age, race and proximity all affect how gay men obtain sex on the apps? Is sex easier to get in certain spaces... Hot Topic: Disability activist says BBC cut Homophobic slur but kept a racist one in... Hot Topic: Can PrEP among gay Black men be improved when the stats show this community has the highest HIV new infections? Hot Topic: Married influencers Toby and Mikey Perryman-Payne recount be drugged at a gay bar in LA back in 2024 and how it affected them... Hot Topic: Gay Days in Orlando is back! Hot Topic: Gay True Crime Must See TV - "Murder in Glitterball City". Advice: Is it important to date multiple people to decide if the one you are currently dating is the one? Advice: Glory Hole etiquette - is there any etiquette?? Thirst Trap: Which of these 13 models took the best pic of the week? Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Its vibrant LGBTQ+ culture, particularly in the Zona Romántica, has made Puerto Vallarta one of the most beloved queer travel destinations in the world. For many travelers, it’s not just vacation — it’s community, identity, chosen family, Pride celebrations, and belonging. Messages from friends and family about the fear that was instilled in PV and what's next... “What’s one moment where you felt truly seen or safe in Puerto Vallarta?” “For our listeners who travel there regularly — what draws you back again and again? How social media can actually be useful to keep up with friends in PV The hosts share how they hope the city will rebound and not instill fear in future travel plans Hot Topic: TN House passes bill that wouldn't recognize gay marriage... Hot Topic: Corey DeAngelis, former adult performer, is now part of a conservative think tank... Hot Topic: Tim Gunn on being celibate for 43 years.... Hot Topic: European Parliament passes resolutions that recognizes Trans Women! Hot Topic: who's gay, Bi and Straight from 'Heated Rivalry'? Advice: Do you thank your hookup when he's leaving whether is was good or bad? Advice: Is Sniffies more hardcore than Grindr? We discuss and why we gravitate to one or the other... Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod   Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today marks one year of marriage for Host Steve V and Diego! Relationships are hard but what makes them last? We discuss... Relationships don’t stay still they evolve hopefully and they should evolve We pivot to dating and how hard it is to move past a first date, ghosting, compatibility and more... Hot Topic: America's Next Top Model the documentary - we break it down Hot Topic: Jeffree Star and Adult Performer Drake Von seem to suggest their working together... Hot Topic: Suing the Trump administration for taking down our flag! Hot Topic: Ex-Grindr employee shares why he thinks Grindr started to change... Hot Topic: Hot Couple Alert? Pablo Alboran and Model Juan Sesma? Pedro and Rafael Olarra? Advice: Going on a first date in years but he keeps asking for more pics? Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What if falling in love didn’t start with dinner? What if it started in a club, in a blur of bodies — and still became something real? Many gay men’s relationships don’t start with courtship — they start with attraction and physical contact (e.g., hookups on Grindr, at bars, in clubs). The hosts share how they met their partners... In the movie 'Paris: 5:59' Théo and Hugo meet literally mid-sexual encounter — and from that physical meeting comes emotional curiosity. Does this mirror gay experiences — meeting someone in a wild context and discovering a real connection? The hosts share how physical can turn to emotional and how to keep that alive... Hot Topic: Stonewall Pride flag is back up with new legislation to keep it up plus celebrities talk about the meaning of the Pride flag Hot Topic: Austin Wolf shaves off 4 years of his sentencing... Hot Topic: A new study says that young college students check their phone during sex! Hot Topic: The Winter Olympics village has a shortage of condoms... Hot Topic: A German referee proposes to his boyfriend on the field in front a large audience and subsequently is attacked twice at his home! Hot Topic: How to prepare for a first date Hot Topic: Is lingerie for gay men hot right now? Hot Topic: What do Ricky Martin and Kid Rock share? They were both born in 1971! Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.