From Purity Culture To Polyamory As Patriarchy Resistance (With Courtney Boyer)

On this episode, Honey is joined by adult performer, content creator, and model Evie Rees. Evie started out doing sex work when she was 18, so we talk about how the industry has changed over the last 12 years, including misconceptions, relationships, and what she wants to see change.Evie also opens up about her self-image, including the plastic surgery she's had done, and how she perceives her appearance. We also talk about her relationship with her audience and if it impacts how she feels about herself.Thanks so much to Evie for joining. You can find her on multiple platforms here (support her work!). As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website or DM us asking for advice, or tell us what you want to hear before the end of the season.GET INVOLVED IN OUR NEXT EPISODE: Please fill in our survey about lonely womxn. AFAB/ NB and trans+ folk are encouraged to participate too; share with your friends and family. Thank you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Honey is joined by sex coach and author, Courtney Boyer, to talk about all things purity culture and polyamory.Courtney was raised in purity culture, so we talk about what she learnt about sex and relationships amidst a religious background.She explains how getting into a marriage confirmed everything she thought she knew about sex and relationships, and her journey to realising she was polyamorous, and beyond.We discuss what she has learnt about herself since revealing she's polyamorous, and why women are increasingly having these realisations later in life.You can find Courtney on Instagram, TikTok, and her website. Her books Opened and Not Tonight, Honey are available on Amazon and from local bookstores. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email Honey at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on the website, or DM me with any questions or dilemmas you have.Edited and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're back to our regularly scheduled(ish) programming! This week on the pod, Honey is joined by relationship coach and founder of Passport 2 Pleasure Ally Iseman to talk all things jealousy in relationships.As author of the upcoming book, For The Love Of Jealousy, Ally has dedicated her work to researching and learning everything there is to know about jealousy. We start the episode unpacking what jealousy is, including the difference between envy and jealousy and if jealousy can be healthy. We discuss how to recognise signs that you're jealous, and what you can do to deal with jealousy when it comes up in relationships (because, spoiler alert, it will!). We also talk about the misconceptions of jealousy and issues with how we talk about it as a society.You can find Ally on Instagram and her website. As always, you can find more of Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us with any questions or dilemmas you have, or tell us what you want to hear before the end of the season. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For our third episode of Pride month, Honey is joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete to answer your queer dating and sex dilemmas and questions. We advise on everything from being pigeonholed as a top to how to dress as a femme lesbian. Please keep sending us your dilemmas! You can do so on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us.We'll be back next week with our final episode of Pride month, see you then!Produced, hosted, and edited by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sextras, Honey speaks to Zoe K, a sophrologist and somatic coach ‘for the girls, gays, and theys’. For as long as heterosexuality has been ‘the norm’, queer people have been forced into disconnect with their bodies, which naturally has a knock on effect on confidence. Zoe tells us how sophrology – a blend of meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork – can help us feel in harmony with our bodies during sex again. She shares her experience being neurodivergent and a sex worker, and how those factors can also contribute to disconnect, as well as how breathwork can help get out of your mind during sex.To end the episode, Honey and Zoe discuss how sexuality and being present in your body is a radical act in a world where productivity is championed.Thanks so much for listening. You can find Zoe on Instagram, TikTok, and her website, where there are plenty of links to learn more about sophrology. As always, you can find Sextras on on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch.Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt. Edited by Leanne Marie Hall. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Pride month! In case it wasn't clear already, we're huge fans of the LGBTQ+ community here at Sextras, so we'll be publishing an episode a week for the rest of the month. This week, Honey talks to Samuel Douek, founder of HOWL, a sexual wellness brand and queer, sex-positive rave. Samuel tells us all about his journey into starting the brand, including why he was drawn to running queer nightlife. We talk about the challenges of running a dark room and marketing a queer-friendly CBD lube in a world where sexual wellness is increasingly censored. Samuel even shares some upcoming launches and changes to HOWL raves to look out for.You can find Honey's favourite lube here, info about upcoming parties here, and follow Samuel and HOWL on Instagram to keep up with what they have coming up.As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch. Don't forget to leave a review wherever you're listening to support us! It's Pride month, don't let us down (or else...). Produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Masturbation May! To mark one of the best months of the year (IMO) we're talking all about orgasms, and whether they need to be the goal during sex or masturbation.To start the episode, Honey talks to our deputy editor, Lucy, about faking orgasms. We discuss how the female orgasm varies from the male orgasm, and why the orgasm rates are different for women in straight relationships versus queer relationships.Honey then talks to Samantha Marshall, head of brand at Smile Makers Collection. Sam explains why the orgasm gap exists, and how that varies between sex and masturbation.We then delve into why women should take their pleasure seriously – both solo and with partners – and how we can approach masturbation more mindfully.You can find Lucy on Instagram and Substack. Smile Makers Collection has 11 incredible vibrators, and a pelvic floor device, and you can find them on Instagram, too.As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If we're at all similar, you'll have been just as obsessed as I was with Temptation Island Season 2. It was the kind of show I had a million questions about: why would anyone go on it in the first place? What is it like to be on the show? Did the cast have any regrets? And, no shade, but the reunion didn't answer most of them. Thankfully, on this week's episode of the podcast I got to sit down with Kai Stone, one of the singles on Temptation Island Season 2 (of 'duh' fame) to talk all about why he went on the show, whether he enjoyed it, and the truth about dating on camera for a reality TV show.You can find Kai on Instagram or TikTok @kaistone808. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week 2026! On this week's episode, I'm joined by Katie, founder of Labeless, a queer sex toy company. Katie tells me all about her latest release (hint: it's a sapphic sex toy) and we jump into why labels are sometimes problematic when it comes to lesbian sex.I ask Katie what kinds of sex toys can be used during lesbian sex, and how beginners or couples can start to integrate sex toys more in the bedroom. Thank you so much to Katie for joining! Labeless is on Instagram or you can shop the full collection here. You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.We'll see you in a couple of weeks! If you like reality TV, you'll want to stick around for this one.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Internet feminism has latched onto a long-contested debate: can you work in porn and be a feminist? In this episode, Honey is joined by Cat, the head of creative, community at education at female-led porn company Ersties, to mull it over.They talk about what it's really like working for a female-led porn company, how it made Cat realise she wanted to date women, what the state of the porn industry is like today, and whether you can really be a feminist and work in porn. You can find Cat on Instagram and Ersties on their free SFW website or paid platform, and on Instagram and TikTok.You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.We'll see you in a couple of weeks with our next episode ahead of Lesbian Visibility Day. See you then!Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.