Trans Pleasure, Explained: Trans Sex 101 with Jamie Joy

In this episode, DB talks with Midori, a sex eduator and artist who focuses on domination and power play for anyone who identifies as a woman. What does femme domination look like -- and why can it be so intimidating to tap into? Learn to tap into your domme side with tips from Midori on how to get there, and why domming is often so much simpler and sweeter than people might think. Guest Details Midori (she/her) is an educator, artist, and provocateur reshaping how we understand kink, consent, and connection. For over three decades, she has inspired people around the world to explore desire with courage, curiosity, and a touch of mischief. Born in Japan and forged in 1990s queer San Francisco, she brings a multicultural perspective to topics like Shibari, power dynamics, and playful negotiation. Founder of ForteFemme and Consent Dojo, she trains mental health professionals, educators, and everyday people in kink expertise, cultural competence, and trauma-informed care, making learning both profound and delightful. Event listing and all that Midori offers: https://planetmidori.com/ For great resources, class videos, live zoom events, and more : https://www.patreon.com/c/PlanetMidori ForteFemme Women’s Dominance Intensive: https://www.fortefemme.com/ -- Register for upcoming intensive! November 14-16, 2025 Midori's socials https://bsky.app/profile/planetmidori.bsky.social https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ https://www.facebook.com/PlanetMidori/ https://substack.com/@planetmidori Midori's books Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage - https://www.twistedmonk.com/collections/bondage-education-books/products/seductive-art-of-japanese-bondage/?rfsn=264649.d9eeca Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink - https://www.therippedbodice.com/aff/hello_34966/book/9781881943228 Silk Threads: Three Tales of Passionate Japan - https://www.therippedbodice.com/aff/hello_34966/book/9781626015302 An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy: Centering the Lives of Indigenous, Racialized, and People of Color - https://www.routledge.com/An-Intersectional-Approach-to-Sex-Therapy-Centering-the-Lives-of-Indigenous-Racialized-and-People-of-Color/Malone-Stewart-Gary-Smith-Wadley/p/book/9780367471958 Fundamental Concepts and Critical Developments in Sex EducationIntersectional and Trauma-Informed Approaches - https://www.routledge.com/Fundamental-Concepts-and-Critical-Developments-in-Sex-Education-Intersectional-and-Trauma-Informed-Approaches/Malone-Gilbert-Dukes-Fonte/p/book/9781032615431 DB is proud to be an affiliate of The Ripped Bodice! We may receive a percentage of profits from books purchased using our link. Thank you for supporting us by shopping The Ripped Bodice! ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with her. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day. Guest Details Beatrice (better known online as Triss) is a Bay Area based Mexican American musician and maker. She's been out as a proudly sapphic trans woman since 2015. As an ADHD brain with an endless thirst for fun facts, Beatrice will happily nerd out over music, video games, DIY electronics, and sex (among other things).  You can catch her tearing up the stage with her band Dirty Twenties (@dirtytwentiesband) and/or watch her solo projects on TikTok (tiktok.com/@trisstunes) and YouTube (youtube.com/trisstunes)." Listen to "Force Femme Your Dad" by Dirty Twenties!   ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with Jamie Joy, a trans sex educator, to talk all things trans sex. Trans listeners, tune in for some fascinating conversations on things like hormones and finding what feels right for you. Cis listeners, there's tips for you too -- not just on how to give pleasure to your trans partner regardless of their anatomy, but how you might find more joy in yourself as well! This is a vital time to be tuning in to what our trans communities need, inside and outside of the bedroom. Guest DetailsJamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator whose life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community organizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate - find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com Products Mentioned A blindfold Pleasure Feather Boundless Pleasure Wheel (pinwheel) The Magic Wand! (Try it over the clothes!) Silicone rings Sliquid Naturals Satin (menopause-friendly moisturizing lube) DB's FAVORITE lube -- SEXEDWITHDB for 10% off SpareParts Joque Harness Clone a Willy Kit Use SEXEDWITHDB for 15% off at Lion's Den! ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou (@⁠avgolis98⁠), queer psychoanalyst and author of ⁠Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia⁠, to discuss queering consent. As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories of times when clients experienced events outside of their consent, including in sexual situations. Consent is a very nuanced topic, but it tends not to be talked about that way. We do not live in a vacuum and as such consent can be messier than people tend to want to consider. For example, think about our favorite, Teenage Bounty Hunters. When Sterling gathers her courage and kisses April, she doesn’t ask for her consent first, and knowing April it probably would not have gone over too well if she had. Even though April may not have consented to this kiss, she finds that she enjoys it. This is a transformational experience for the two of them, and it happens outside of the realm of consent. As queer people, we have quite a good amount of experience of running opposite to societal norms. We step beyond our comfort zones just to exist in a heteronormative world. As such, we tend to better understand that many transformational experiences rely on our willingness to step beyond safety. Even so, we tend to still prize consent in a way that is more fantasy than reality. It is just not nearly as cut and dry when applied to real life situations. Follow along on BlueSky, Facebook, Instagram and TikTok @lezhangoutpod and answer our Q & Gay at the end of every episode. Find our hosts individually: Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster) and Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Want to support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord community, 25+ bonus episodes, weekly ad free episodes, exclusive merch and more? Join us on Patreon at ⁠bit.ly/lezpatreon⁠.

Why are we not talking more about baby-making sex and how stressful it can be?? I spoke to new moms and experts you'll recognize from Sex Ed with DB to figure out what's going on and how we could be doing it better. DB's Download is a new episode format! Inspired by our newsletter, which ends with a sum up of what I've been reading/watching/etc. each week, this format gives me some room to tell you all what I've been up to. Let us know what you think about this format! Shoot me an email at [email protected]. Mentioned in this episode: Baby-Making Sex Can Be ‘Some of the Worst Sex People Have’ ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

Can weed actually make sex better? And what does the science have to say about it? This week, DB breaks down what the research really says about cannabis, desire, arousal, and orgasms. We’re talking sexy highs, not-so-sexy side effects, and how to use weed to enhance pleasure. Mentioned in this episode: Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Genesee Herzberg to talk about ketamine, couples therapy, and psychedelic pleasure. They get into common myths, what actually happens in a session, how ketamine can help couples break old patterns, and why novelty can reignite connection and desire. Plus: how touch and consent can be part of healing. Guest DetailsDr. Genesee Herzberg is a clinical psychologist from the California Bay Area. She is co-founder of Sage Integrative Health, a holistic psychedelic clinic and training institute, Alchemy Community Therapy Center, a non-profit, sliding scale psychedelic clinic, and the International Alliance of MDMA Practitioners. She has worked as a trainer and supervisor in ketamine-assisted therapy through Sage. Genesee is an author and co-editor of the book Integral Psychedelic Therapy. ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

What’s the deal with hormones, anyway? DB breaks down how they impact your sex life, mood, energy, and overall health. Learn what’s normal, what’s not, and how to better understand what your body’s telling you.  Mentioned in this episode: Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

Sex gets better with age...if we let it! In this episode, DB sits down with her mom, badass OBGYN Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, to talk all about sex and aging, They get into responsive desire, menopause, hormones, vaginal estrogen (gamechanger!), and why more women than ever are asking for what they want in the bedroom. Plus: how to talk to your doctor about your pleasure! GUEST DETAILSDr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt is an obstetrician and gynecologist who has been taking care of women of all ages for more than thirty years. She is on LinkedIn, and her practice website is Premierobgynnapa.com. ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

Can you really come again… and again… and again? Hell yes you can! DB is here to break down the science of multiple orgasms and what actually helps make it happen (hint: it’s not just willpower).  Mentioned in this ep: The Orgasm Gap with Laurie Mintz Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Toy recs to get you there again and again and again: The Womanizer Premium Lela Ena Remember to use code SEXEDWITHDB for 15% off! ABOUT SEASON 12Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa