40. Holy Book of Confidence: How to Build & Rebuild Your Confidence

Welcome back to “BJs Are for BFs,” the final episode of our special series for women who know their worth and do less to prove it. Kim is joined once again by Dini, New York’s favorite matchmaker and founder of Sitch, and today they're talking all about what happens after the first date. How do you maintain your power, avoid the “cool girl” trap, and make sure he’s putting in the effort to show he’s serious? Because, as the girls like to say, “If he’s not chasing you, he’s chasing someone else.” Remember, this is a rule-of-thumb guide to help you navigate the dating game like a pro. You won’t get it perfect every time—but it never hurts to try!Follow Dini - HERELearn more about Sitch - HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

Welcome to BJs Are for BFs, a special series for women who know their worth and do less to prove it. In this 3-part series, Kim is joined by Dini, New York's fav matchmaker and founder of Sitch, a new dating platform, for a conversation on letting him come to you. Ask yourself… Are you giving too much for too little? Offering "girlfriend" perks before you've even gotten a "good morning" text? Women are bending over backward, playing the "cool girl", the “go with the flow” girl, and guess what? It's not working. Kim & Dini break down how to meet him in the wild, the art of letting him know you’re interested, and giving him the opportunity to chase you. Because, like they always say, “if he’s not chasing you, he’s chasing someone else.”Follow Dini - HERELearn more about Sitch - HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

In this episode, Kim sits down with Maryjane Fahey, the founder of Glorious Broads, for a masterclass on becoming the "man" you think you need. At 74, with one marriage and a long-term partnership behind her, Maryjane makes no apologies: she doesn’t want a man living with her—because, truth be told, the sex is better when he has to go home eventually. And to all the young twenty-somethings: forget fixing your boyfriend; it’s time to fix yourself. Maryjane shares the importance of having a community of what she calls “Career b*tches”—women who inspire you and show you what’s possible. She’s all about learning to say no and locking in. Some parties can wait; building your life can’t. In the end, Maryjane’s advice is simple: have a lot of sex, have a lot of fun, and make a lot of money. Kim’s biggest takeaway? Don’t put your boyfriend first.Follow Maryjane Fahey- HERELearn more about Glorious Broads - HERETry Kadampa Meditation - HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

Welcome to The First Wives Club! In this episode, Kim is joined by commercial real estate powerhouse and star of the Netflix original Owning Manhattan, Jade Shenker. From divorce to “F*ck You,” Jade is a no-nonsense kind of woman. Like a true Upper East Sider, she learned the art of business from her father, who owns much of the East Village, and the art of seduction from her mother, a waitress turned housewife. Jade dares the girls to unlock the doors that being a woman can open—while always balancing beauty, access, and business. She knows firsthand that getting cheated on sucks, but in the words of the late Ivana Trump: “Don’t get mad, get everything.” Kim’s biggest takeaway? Build a legacy no man can touch.Follow Jade Shenker - HEREWatch Owning Manhattan - HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

White women have been incredible allies to the progressive movement, but for the next four years, White women need to focus on White women. It’s time for our White sisters to find one band, one sound, because 45% isn’t cutting it. In sharp contrast, Black women understood the assignment this election and delivered it flawlessly, and Jewish women weren’t far behind. We need White women to cross party lines and release their community from the shackles of misogyny, misinformation, and make-believe. In case the exit polls didn’t spell it out: 53% of your fav “internet besties” support MAGA, and a silent majority of their followers do too. I recommend crying yourself to sleep and then thinking long and hard about why you’re so surprised. The silver lining in last week’s catastrophe? The undeniable reality that Black women are the most organized demographic in America and the backbone of the Democratic party. Now that’s power. 2024 NBC National Exit Polls -  HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

Hail Martha, full of grace, the game is with thee. In this episode, Kim dives into the world of Martha Stewart, America’s first self-made female billionaire and self-proclaimed “intolerable perfectionist & absolute control freak”—a woman after her own heart. From prison to PJs (meaning: private jets), Martha is the blueprint for all things money, power, and respect. Kim is NOT impressed with undecided—scratch that—unmotivated voters, because if everyone has an asshole, everyone has an opinion on the leader of the free world. And let’s face it, if voting didn’t matter, why are they burning ballot boxes? Needless to say, we need a post-election group therapy session. Kim’s biggest takeaway? Martha Stewart is Mother.Watch The Martha Documentary - HERESubmit Your Confessions - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR reviewSTEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

In this episode, Kim is joined by Romantha Botha, the fearless producer and host of the South African docuseries Sex & Pleasure. Romantha doesn’t shy away from anything, and this is the kind of conversation that will make you question everything. Romantha explains that love has been sold to women as a fantasy and to men as a responsibility, challenging women to stop forcing ill-fitted men into their “fairytale.” Love, she argues, can't be controlled, and people aren't as compatible as they think. From unpacking your beliefs around monogamy, fidelity, and sexuality… nothing is off the table. Romantha offers practical tips for how women can communicate their needs around sex, love, and pleasure — and overcome the shame of having needs and asking for them to be met. Kim’s biggest takeaway? If you want honesty, you need to create a soft landing for people to be honest. Learn More About Sex & Pleasure - HERE Follow Romantha Botha - HERELET'S BE FRIENDS...STEP 1 : Give us a 5-STAR review STEP 2: Follow RLBG on Instagram - HERESTEP 3: Join the RLBG Community for access to exclusive events & LIVE girl talks - HERESTEP 4: Follow the International Pop Star "SlimKim" on TikTok & Instagram

From “Horse Teeth” to Hate Trains, the world has tried to humble Kim, but this b*tch won’t die. She wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth, but she was born with a gold bar up her ass and came into the world screaming, “I’M THAT GIRL.” In this episode, Kim outlines her formula for building and rebuilding confidence and defines confidence as believing the sh*t that comes out of your mouth by proving to yourself you’re not full of it. Whispers like “she’s so full of herself” are nothing new for a girl who would rather be full of herself than the insecurities they’re selling online. Kim teaches the girls how to close the gap between who you think you are and who you actually are. Because saying you’re “that girl” and actually being “that girl” are not the same, and building confidence happens as you become her. She wants to remind you that being an outsider is likely your superpower because, by definition, outsiders are outliers—and most successful people are exactly that. Kim’s biggest takeaway? In the words of Toni Morrison, “You are your best thing.”Let's be friends!Step 1: LEAVE ME A 5-STAR REVIEW (bonus points for a compliment!)Step 2: Follow me on Instagram @richlittlebrokegrlsStep 3: oh, and  Join the RLBG Collective at richlittlebrokegirls.com/join for live updates and access to exclusive events & live conversations.Step 4: Follow the international pop star SlimKim on TikTok and Instagram!

In this episode, Kim is joined by the force that is Stefanie Sword-Williams, Founder and Author of F*ck Being Humble “Why Self-Promotion Isn't a Dirty Word,” for a conversation that is bound to get you to get your sh*t together. Stef is a no-excuses type of girl and Kim’s parasocial shaman for all things speaking up, standing out, and demanding what you deserve. Kim spends most of the episode at a complete loss for words, trying to digest the absolute nukes of advice Stef drops. They unpack what to do if you’re struggling with confidence, the importance of proving your value to yourself, and a massive mistake you should avoid at all costs! Like the Rich Little Brokegirls ethos, Stefanie also believes in the power of good girlfriends and urges women to ask each other for advice and insights because we are wired to help. Kim’s biggest takeaway? Niches are cute, but don’t let them limit you.Watch Stef's Speech: "How to Find What You Value"Let's be friends!Step 1: LEAVE ME A 5-STAR REVIEW (bonus points for a compliment!)Step 2: Follow me on Instagram @richlittlebrokegrlsStep 3: oh, and join the RLBG Collective at richlittlebrokegirls.com/join for live updates and access to exclusive events & live conversations.Step 4: Follow the international pop star SlimKim on TikTok & Instagram!

Fall is coming, and young women everywhere will flock to dating apps in search of “Prince Charming.” In this episode, Kim urges the girls to slow down... Before meeting a complete stranger you have absolutely no connection to, please, GOOGLE HIM. She could write a book titled “How to Catch a Criminal,” but instead, Kim is sharing the dating horror story that forced her to grow up and taught her a valuable lesson at the age of 18: things aren't always as they seem. From wining and dining to wire fraud and federal court cases, nearly 10 years later, Kim is unpacking details and documents about a man who targets unsuspecting victims. This is a cautionary tale of what happens when you’re young, dumb, and too scared to speak up and ask questions. Kim’s biggest takeaway? Not every man is a predator, but there are men who prey—just like the one who preyed on her…Let's be friends!Step 1: LEAVE ME A 5-STAR REVIEW (bonus points for a compliment!)Step 2: Follow me on Instagram @richlittlebrokegrlsStep 3: oh, and join the RLBG Collective at richlittlebrokegirls.com/join for live updates and access to exclusive events & live conversations.Step 4: Follow the international pop star SlimKim on TikTok & Instagram!