41: Blackity Black Polyamory [with Chaneé Jackson Kendall & Evita Sawyers]

IT'S A REMODELED LOVE PODCAST TAKEOVER! Featuring our two favorite Black polyam icons, Chaneé Jackson Kendall and Evita Sawyers.Check out Evita's WebsiteCheck out Chaneé's Website---00:00 Introduction and Personal Signals02:54 Celebrating Black History Month and Polyamory06:01 Building Community in Non-Monogamy09:02 Navigating Ideological Differences in Polyamory12:01 The Importance of Friendships in Non-Monogamy15:04 Creating Spaces for Black Polyamory18:03 The Metamour Bill of Rights20:57 Cultivating Compersion in Relationships24:03 The Rise of Polyamory During the Pandemic27:00 Defining Polyamory and Community Integrity30:02 The Evolution of Non-Monogamous Practices33:11 Current Projects and Future Directions35:54 Reflections on Black Polyamory and Closing Thoughts

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Hello, Lovers!Wow, are we really back after an 8 month hiatus? We feel a bit rusty but we are soooo ready to recommit to this damn In this episode we give you:Updates on all the amazing new workshops from Remodeled LoveUpdates on our personal lives, including the most pumpkiny development from Datty Daylover...Intrusive Thots about AI and Endocrine Disruptorsand for "Dear Daylovers" (our polyamorous advice portion of the podcast) we talk about one listener's battle to find the line between "care" and "enabling" within their polycule. ***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ !***Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Join Nuclear Fusion Network

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MISTAKES WERE MADEA 2-hour webinar aboutnavigating the pitfalls of polyamorywith honesty, humor, and hard-won insight.Featuring Evita Sawyers, Chaneé Jackson Kendall, Genevieve from @ChillPolyamory, and Jessica Daylover from @RemodeledLove.9a PST / 12p EST / 5p BSTSunday August 10th, 2025[ALL TICKET HOLDERS RECEIVE THE RECORDING]⁠Buy Now⁠Join four seasoned polyamory educators for an unfiltered, laugh-through-the-cringe, deeply insightful webinar about the real mistakes we've made while practicing non-monogamy. In this two-hour event, we’ll walk you through the biggest pitfalls we’ve personally faceplanted into—jealousy spirals, communication breakdowns, boundary blunders, and more—and share the hard-won lessons that came out the other side. Whether you’re just starting out or years into your polyam journey, you’ll leave with practical tools, new language, and a lot of “oh thank god it’s not just me.”Come for the wisdom, stay for the tea.⁠⁠Buy Now⁠⁠

What is a yuletide? Is Matty Healy the Jess Mariano to Taylor's Rory? Is Joe reading smut??Also: Joe's breakup, parenting fails, polyamorous guilt, Jes is over avoidants (for real this time), and Jes went on a date with a girl!JOIN OUR PATREON TO LISTEN TO THE REST OF THIS EPISODE, PLUS YEARS OF EXCLUSIVE CONTENT!***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ !***Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Nuclear Fusion's ⁠⁠⁠alpha network⁠⁠⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠⁠⁠donate⁠⁠⁠ now!Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

What is a yuletide? Is Matty Healy the Jess Mariano to Taylor's Rory? Is Joe reading smut??Also: Joe's breakup, parenting fails, polyamorous guilt, Jes is over avoidants (for real this time), and Jes went on a date with a girl!***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠⁠ !***Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Nuclear Fusion's ⁠⁠alpha network⁠⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠⁠donate⁠⁠ now!Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm. Also, now that the live event for "Off the Table" has passed, you can still purchase the recording! In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays. Head to bit.ly/chaneespeaks to learn more about Chaneé's offerings and sign up for her newbie cohort. You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Nuclear Fusion's ⁠alpha network⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠donate⁠ now! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

Episode highlights: There are only 8 (actually 3 now) tickets left for Jes and Chaneé's "You Wanna Be Polyamorous But You..." workshop on 11/2 Jes is willing to be ruined by the "Homosexual Lesbian Spirits", and also she made merch about it. Jes is back on dating apps for the first time in almost 2 years because of a tv show, and Joe is really happy for her for it Joe makes Jes late to her first first date in almost 2 years Jes suddenly has the ability to go on a first date without making the person jump through her autistic demisexual screening hoops Jes suggests Joe becomes a bull so he can fuck some hot wives This episode's Intrusive Thots include: Jes will never be free of all toxins, and Joe wonders if folks will look nostalgically back at this era You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Nuclear Fusion's alpha network is live, and you can join or donate now! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey. Some themes include: -security and stability are illusions of monogamy -impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE -the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner -getting tired of your own bullshit -the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey -and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . ) Make sure to sign up for Chaneé's newsletter, and stay turned for a workshop from the two of us coming up soon!