458: When Expectations Are Not Met

Understanding how our past informs our present is a key component to creating more love for ourselves and others. Listen to today's show to learn how a moment of impact from our past can show up in the present and how to heal from this place.  In this episode with Christina Rasmussen we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding grief's impact on what we do presently How to shift from simply surviving to thriving  Why we sometimes have a need to prove our worth to the ones we love The invisible losses that shape who we are Understanding the foundational issues behind our triggers And much more! Sponsored Hero Bread is team of bread-heads who believe that everyone should have the freedom to eat and enjoy foods we love most, without negative health consequences. Go to HERO.CO and get your healthy bread! Crunch Labs' goal is to show kids and kids at heart how to Think Like an Engineer! Purchase this limited Camp CrunchLabs subscription and get 2 boxes free, a $60 value, what a deal! Go to CRUNCHLABS.COM/IDO to sign your kids up for Camp CrunchLabs today!  Ro Body provides access to the most popular weight loss shots on the market. Go to RO.CO/IDO and sign up today, you’ll pay just $99 for your first month! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding our values and communicating them with our partner is an important exercise to create a thriving relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about creating a values driven relationship.  In this episode with Colter Bloxom we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The important difference between values and goals How to clarify your values and communicate them with your partner What to do when your values don't align with your partner's Understanding and clarifying your non-negotiable values When what we think we want is not what is really best for us The importance of diversifying your values And much more! Sponsored EarnIn empowers you to live life to the fullest by providing up to $100/day of your pay within minutes of earning it. Head over to EARNIN.COM to learn more about how you can get paid today! You Probably Think This Story's About You is a podcast focused on the exploration of love, betrayal, and the far-reaching consequences of one man's deceit. Head over to: BRITTANIARD.COM to learn more about it! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding gender polarity and gender roles is a great way to improve the health and happiness of your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to apply this knowledge and start improving your relationship today! In this episode with Magda Kay we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why romantic desire requires polarity and how to create it Why you need to be communicating about roles in your relationship Understanding your ideas about gender roles and applying this knowledge to your relationship Moving between polarity and familiarity to create a loving and fulfilling relationship How energy flows differently between the masculine and feminine  And much more! Sponsored Hero Bread is team of bread-heads who believe that everyone should have the freedom to eat and enjoy foods we love most, without negative health consequences. Go to HERO.CO and get your healthy bread! Crunch Labs' goal is to show kids and kids at heart how to Think Like an Engineer! For the summer, CrunchLabs is hosting Camp CrunchLabs, head over to CRUNCHLABS.COM to learn more about it! Ro Body provides access to the most popular weight loss shots on the market. Go to RO.CO/IDO and sign up today, you’ll pay just $99 for your first month! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have expectations for our lives and relationships. When our expectations are not met is usually when we are most disappointed, upset, angry, insert negative emotion here. So what do we do? A good place to start is to learn what realistic expectations are for your relationship and learn how to ask for what you need. Listen to today's episode to get these tips and tools and start applying them to your relationship today! In this episode with Talia Bombola we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Establishing your expectations for a relationship and how to determine if they are realistic or not How to consciously get your wants and needs met in a relationship Communication tips to get your relationship needs fulfilled The importance of of not only pointing out the negative in your relationship Confronting the fact that your partner will disappoint you And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Society, pop culture, media and the internet all paint a pretty rosy picture of what a relationship 'should' look like. Unfortunately, these models often don't reflect what a relationship will actually look like nor how to make them work well. Listen to today's show to understand what a healthy relationship actually looks like and requires.  In this episode with Todd Baratz we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The harsh reality that our partner's will always frustrate us Why love is conditional in adult relationships A healthy approach to using attachment theory to inform your relationship experience  What to do when the honeymoon phase ends in your relationship How to navigate a decrease in sexual desire in your relationship The importance of understanding your partner's triggers and communicating about your own And much more! Sponsored Hero Bread is team of bread-heads who believe that everyone should have the freedom to eat and enjoy foods we love most, without negative health consequences. Go to HERO.CO and get your healthy bread! EarnIn empowers you to live life to the fullest by providing up to $100/day of your pay within minutes of earning it. Head over to EARNIN.COM to learn more about how you can get paid today! Cozy Earth offers bedding products that will transform your sleep. Head over to COZYEARTH.COM and use promo code "IDO" for an exclusive 35% off. Ro Body provides access to the most popular weight loss shots on the market. Go to RO.CO/IDO and sign up today, you’ll pay just $99 for your first month! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throughout our lives we will be challenged with relationships, jobs and family among other things. Cultivating a positive mindset with tools to navigate these challenges is an important part of living a more joyful life. Listen to today's show to learn more about the tools to help move through all of life's challenges.  In this episode with Tammy Mastroberte we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to cultivate spirituality and how to interpret signs the universe may be showing you What to do when you feel like you're stuck in your life or relationship How to integrate acceptance and surrender into your life Exercises to cultivate more gratitude in your relationship How to infuse your life with more joy And much more! Sponsored Cozy Earth offers bedding products that will transform your sleep. Head over to COZYEARTH.COM and use promo code "IDO" for an exclusive 35% off. Factor will make your life easy with their great line of ready meals, no more: grocery shopping, cooking or cleaning! Head to FactorMeals.com/ido50 and use code IDO50 to get 50% off. Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off of your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com #lumepod Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety, overthinking and our overall mental health has a huge impact on our physical health. It's important to understand just how much our mental and physical health are intertwined. There's no one better than a critical care nurse turned therapist like today's guest to guide us through improving and understanding the link between our mental and physical health.  In this episode with Denise Schonwald we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with anxiety and how it impacts us physically How our body interprets anxiety Tools to interrupt patterns of anxiety and overthinking How to support an anxious partner How negative mental health patterns manifest physically And much more! Sponsored One Skin is the world's first skin longevity company, focuses on the cellular aspects of aging to keep your skin looking and acting younger for longer; get started today with 15% off at ONESKIN.CO using code "IDO". EarnIn empowers you to live life to the fullest by providing up to $100/day of your pay within minutes of earning it. Head over to EARNIN.COM to learn more about how you can get paid today! Cozy Earth offers bedding products that will transform your sleep. Head over to COZYEARTH.COM and use promo code "IDO" for an exclusive 35% off. Ro Body provides access to the most popular weight loss shots on the market. Go to RO.CO/IDO and sign up today, you’ll pay just $99 for your first month! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many ways to structure a romantic relationship outside of the traditional monogamous framework. Listen to today's episode to explore the different non-traditional relationship styles and the common issues and benefits people experience in them.  In this episode with Dr. Joli Hamilton we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The number one tip to experience a successful non-monogamous relationship Should you try a non-monogamous relationship to save your current monogamous one? How to discuss the idea of a non-monogamous relationship when you're currently in a monogamous relationship How to navigate jealousy in any relationship Dealing with the discomfort when experiencing jealousy How to unpack your narrative around jealousy in your relationship And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Hero Lab is team of bread-heads who believe that everyone should have the freedom to eat and enjoy foods we love most, without negative health consequences. Go to HERO.CO and get your healthy bread! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loving someone better starts with loving ourselves better. Self awareness, understanding our childhood and being present are just some of the tools to help ourselves along this path. Listen to today's show to learn how to love ourselves and others better.  In this episode with Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Mohammad we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Internal acceptance and the "I love you test" How to increase your self esteem and self compassion Tests and questions to help unpack the trauma we may have experienced as a child What to do if your partner does not want to do the work to improve the relationship The importance of leaving more space for pleasure in the relationship over performance and perfection  And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exciting Announcement: We're having a FLASH SALE on our online course, Spark My Relationship, ! Learn more and enroll here: SparkMyRelationship.com and use the code FLASH24 at checkout! Available until April 13th at midnight! Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only teaches you the skills needed to create a successful and lasting relationship, but the tools to execute it. In this episode, we interview Dr. Debra Campbell about four important ways to keep the spark alive in our relationship. What Dr. Deb teaches us in this episode is just a glimpse of what is covered in the course. 🙂 Dr. Deb recommends some helpful and practical exercises to help our relationships improve in general happiness and in the bedroom. Here are just a couple of our favorites from the episode: Look at your everyday life with your partner, outside of the bedroom, as foreplay. This allows you to see, from a different perspective, how everything you do and say can help to build up to your next erotic connection with your partner. For example, if you are criticizing your partner during the day, they aren’t going to be easily turned on in the evening. This helps to keep your attention on making your partner feel good and can lead to better sex.  Figure out what turns you on. By finding out what helps you transition into feeling intimate, you can talk to your partner and plan to make your next connection more pleasurable. This could be taking a bath, playing certain music – you could even make a special playlist, or setting your bedroom up with luxurious sheets and good lighting to help you get in the mood.  In this episode we also discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of eliminating unhelpful old habits that can lead to friction and unhappiness Healthy and successful communication tools The biggest struggles couples have when reigniting their sex life, plus tips to spice things up The importance of mindfulness to improve stress management Why having shared dreams and desires can be so beneficial for celebrating our “couple culture” now and in the future. And much more! Dr Debra Campbell is a author, psychologist, university lecturer and couple therapists based in Melbourne Australia. Dr. Debra has consulted on everything from panic to depression, parenting, grief and relationships. Her book Lovelands has become an Amazon bestseller, combining self-help with the deeply personal memoir of a psychologist. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to learn more ways to spark your relationship? If so, you’re not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Episode Links Dr. Debra’s Website Episode 68: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence Lovelands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices