Stop Waiting For External Validation

Jay explores how living in a world of likes, ratings, and constant feedback can make us lose touch with our own judgment. He shares five shifts for relying less on outside approval and building more trust in yourself: from learning to read yourself instead of the room and separating belonging from approval, to questioning what you really want and building self-trust through the small promises you keep to yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan⁠. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 0:00 Introduction 00:24 What’s Really Behind the Need for Validation 03:20 Five Shifts From External to Internal Validation 03:38 Reading The Room Vs. Reading Yourself 06:09 Evolution, Tribe Instincts, And Borrowed Opinions 08:18 Why is Rejection So Painful? 12:16 Escaping The Box 15:32 Auditing Your Desires And Expectations 18:06 Building Self-Trust Vs. Chasing Confidence 25:15 Stop Watching Your Life From the Outside Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay unpacks why it can be so hard to let go of the life you thought you’d have by now. He shares five ideas for letting go of where you thought you’d be and making peace with where you are, from breaking free of comparison and “should” statements to understanding why we grieve futures that never happened. Plus, a simple exercise to help you look at your life differently and recognize the opportunities that came from things not going according to plan. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan⁠. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 0:25 Letting Go Of Expectations 00:46 The Mental Blueprint 01:43 The Invisible Competitor 02:32 Five Ideas To Feel at Peace With Your Life 04:20 Social Comparison Theory 08:17 You’re Not “Behind” 08:46 Rehearsing For The Future You Want 11:19 The Power of Resilience 12:35 Changing Priorities Of The Future Self 13:43 Grieving The Future That Never Arrived 16:00 Rewriting Your Narrative 18:08 The “Social Clock” And Inherited Timelines 19:49 Letting Go of the Timeline You Expected 20:50 The Personal Scorecard Vs. Society’s Clock 22:20 Releasing the Need to Have It All Figured Out 23:00 Focus On Possibility: The Two-Column Exercise 26:23 Recalibrating Like A GPS 27:27 Starting Fresh And The Gift Of Rewriting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay welcomes neuroscientist Andrew Huberman back for his third appearance to dive into his new book, Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body. Andrew breaks down what’s really happening in your body from the moment you wake up, from morning cortisol and better sleep to the science behind that afternoon energy crash. Then the conversation goes beyond physical health, exploring prayer, surrender, and how to better manage your energy. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:07 The Core Philosophy: Finding Ease, Peace, and Alignment 05:21 Optimal Morning Habits: The First Hour Of The Day 08:13 The Biology Of The Cortisol Awakening Response 13:31 Restoring Circadian Balance 15:19 Navigating The “Afternoon Crash” 21:15 Simplifying Fitness: Accessible Movement 24:13 The Science of Sleep and the Power of Prayer 26:35 Leaning Into Faith: Turning Willpower Over To God 28:30 The Scientific Mystery Of Surrender 32:54 Moving Beyond Binaries: Science And Faith 40:11 Jay’s Reflections On Grace And Compassion 44:46 James Hollis’s Four Rules For A Good Life 50:28 The Science Behind Recurring Thought Patterns 55:05 The Eastern Metaphor Of The Chariot 01:01:00 Breaking Out of Your Default Morning Mindset 01:03:30 The Pillars of Wellness And Impulse Control 01:06:00 The Ethical Burden of Animal Research 01:09:37 Prefrontal Strategy: Humans vs. Dogs and Cats 01:10:47 Brain-Machine Interfaces for Paralyzed Patients 01:11:54 The Future of Non-Invasive Brain Stimulation 01:15:00 Willpower, Stress, And Directing Energy 01:16:37 The 27 Club Vs. Blue Zone Longevity 01:17:25 The Drive to Stand Out and Succeed 01:19:18 Nolan Williams And High-Output Healers 01:20:44 Rick Rubin’s Riddles On Balancing Energy 01:24:34 The Flow Of Energy Exchange 01:27:24 Hard-Earned Positivity 01:29:27 The Injured Bird 01:31:38 Achieving Scientific Consensus Over Time 01:34:09 Andrew Huberman On Final Five Episode Resources: Pre-order Andrew's new book Protocols: https://www.hubermanlab.com/protocols-book Website | https://www.hubermanlab.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@hubermanlab TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab Threads | https://www.threads.com/@hubermanlab Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman X | https://x.com/hubermanlab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay marks his birthday by reflecting on five lessons an unpredictable year taught him. From making career choices based on the skills you want to build, to trusting yourself through discomfort and protecting the friendships that remind you who you are beyond your work, Jay shares the principles that kept him grounded through change. He closes with a reminder that we often underestimate just how much we’re still capable of growing and becoming. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:24 Reflecting on His Biggest Year Yet 01:26 The Power of a Birthday Reset 03:09 Lesson 1: The Career Skills Worth Building Daily 10:28 Lesson 2: Experience Over Overthinking 15:54 Lesson 3: Learning to Trust Your Own Decisions 21:42 Lesson 4: You Can’t Give Everything 100% 27:45 Lesson 5: Prioritizing Authenticity in Friendships 32:05 Reframing Wisdom & Getting Older 32:37 The “End of History” Illusion 34:54 An Invitation for Self-Reflection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay answers four listener calls about what to do when the path forward feels uncertain. From career rejection and financial risks to knowing when openness becomes self-abandonment and how to keep going after repeated disappointment, Jay explores how to navigate the moments when what you want isn’t working out the way you hoped. Drawing on Seneca, Pema Chödrön, and Taoist philosophy, he shares how shifting from an outcome mindset to a growth mindset can help you see rejection differently, keep your momentum, and stay open to the right opportunity. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Navigating Career Rejections 01:31 The Smarter Way To Get Your Foot In The Door 06:32 Jay’s Personal Story With Rejection 08:56 Is The Dream Worth The Financial Risk? 10:24 Before You Take The Leap, Ask Yourself This 14:22 When Does Empathy Become Self-Abandonment? 15:40 Setting Boundaries Without Closing Your Heart 20:44 How To Stop Letting Rejection Kill Your Excitement 21:26 Shift From An Outcome Mindset To A Growth Mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with Eileen Gu, the most decorated freestyle skier in Olympic history, to go behind the resume and into the mindset that built it all. Eileen opens up about the grandmother and mother who shaped her, why direction matters more than raw effort, her “evidence over affirmation” approach to fearless competition, and the devastating personal loss she carried in the very same hour as her Olympic gold medal win. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:25 Who Are You Beyond Your Achievements? 03:12 The Childhood Curiosity That Shaped Everything 05:52 What Her Childhood Journals Reveal Now 09:20 Rethinking Masculinity, Femininity & Fashion 11:30 The Weekend Trips That Built an Olympian 14:37 The Two Women Who Shaped Who She Became 17:38 Even Olympians Can Feel “Behind” In Their 20s 19:37 Hard Work Vs. Direction And Momentum 22:38 Finding Direction Amid Unlimited Opportunities 26:29 Learning As A Superpower 31:22 Train Like You’ve Never Won 36:06 Seperating Your Identity From Your Craft 41:34 Evidence Over Affirmation 43:34 The Physics And 4D Visualization of Freeskiing 49:42 Inside the Milan Olympics 55:13 Highest Highs And Lowest Lows 01:00:02 Eileen Gu On Final Five Episode Resources:  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/eileengu/?hl=en  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@eileen_gu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay explores why our relationship with money is about so much more than what’s in our bank account. He breaks down five lessons, from how childhood shapes the way we spend and save, to what we’re really buying when we make a purchase, what money can and can’t solve, why simple systems work better than willpower, and how to make money work for you instead of letting it run your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. This episode is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not financial, investment, tax, or legal advice. Consider your individual circumstances and consult an appropriate professional before making financial decisions. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Are You Financially Literate? 04:51 Your First Money Lessons Start in Childhood 10:08 What You’re Actually Buying When You Make a Purchase 15:26 Money Can’t Buy Happiness, But It Can Buy Options 17:17 How Much Is Actually Enough? 21:21 Systems Over Willpower 26:50 Money Is Not The Goal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay answers four listener calls about the messy, unresolved side of forgiveness, from custody guilt and bias in parenting, to forgiving yourself after the sudden loss of a parent, uncovering a spouse’s hidden life after they’re gone, and the heartbreak of a friendship betrayal. Jay shares research-backed tools to release guilt, rebuild trust, and move forward for your own peace, without excusing what happened. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. Access resources from the hotline for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders here: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/helplines/national-helpline JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 What Forgiveness Is Really For 00:49 The Guilt Mothers Are Expected To Carry 01:54 Are Mothers And Fathers Held to Different Standards? 07:45 The Guilt That Comes After Losing a Parent 08:40 Forgiving Yourself For What You Couldn’t Control 15:52 When Grief Comes With Betrayal 17:54 The Trap Of “I Should Have Known” 22:05 The 4 Levels Of Trust 25:17 The Pain Of A Friendship Betrayal 26:20 When Healing Doesn’t Feel Like Healing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with Harvard Business School professor Alison Wood Brooks, author of Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves, to explore what makes great conversations actually work and where most of us get it wrong. Together, they unpack how to choose better topics, embrace the messiness of real dialogue, master the three stages of listening, and give compliments that genuinely connect. Alison also reveals why admitting uncertainty builds more trust than having all the answers, and shares practical conversation games you can start using right away. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Learn to own the conversations that matter most in Alison Wood Brooks' new class on MasterClass: The Conversation Advantage With Alison Wood Brooks | MasterClass PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:51 Shifting Focus from Yourself In Conversation 05:31 Lowering Your Anxiety with Topic Prep 08:30 Is It Better to Be Interesting or Interested? 09:45 The Butterfly Net Metaphor 13:00 Low-Stakes Practice To Build High-Stakes Confidence 14:00 Debunking Traditional Rules of Persuasion 15:55 Building Conversational Safety Through Validation 17:06 Agenda-Free Relationships vs. Manipulative Networking 20:36 The Power of Follow-Up Questions 24:00 Embracing the Natural Messiness of Dialogue 26:11 Unrealistic Standards Set by Media and Podcasts 27:06 Alison's Top Three Small Talk Techniques 29:22 Balancing Leading vs. Following in Conversation 32:40 Does Your Mind Wander During Conversation? 33:40 The Power of Callbacks 34:00 The Attention Crisis and Screen Disruption 37:09 Strategies for Staying Present 39:00 Reciprocity and the Good-to-Great Question Shift 41:14 Intimate Openers and Stealth Topic-Switching 46:12 How to Respond to One Word Answers 47:35 Game 1: Spontaneous Depth and Sincerity 51:57 Game 2: Breaking Through Reserve 55:56 Talk Time Game: Battle of the Nice Guys 01:01:03 The Compliment Landmines to Avoid 01:04:00 This Is Damaging Your Potential Connections 01:09:48 The Best Way to Receive a Compliment 01:12:30 Talk Time Game: Admitting Uncertainty 01:21:30 Feel More Confident During Conversations 01:22:05 Dating Conversations and the First-Date Pause 01:26:20 Reviving a Dying Date Conversation 01:29:54 Deconstructing the "36 Questions to Fall in Love" 01:31:40 Defusing Heated Disagreements 01:32:22 Preparing for Difficult Conversations 01:34:00 When Distance Is Better Than Talking 01:37:45 Alison Wood Brooks on Final Five Episode Resources:  Website | https://www.talkstudios.com/  LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/alison-wood-brooks-7b98b826  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/profalisonbrooks/?hl=en  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay breaks down the difference between healthy self-reflection and the kind of rumination that keeps you stuck in your own head. He shares four practical shifts to help you break the cycle, from redirecting your attention and resisting isolation to finding purpose through serving others and stepping into what Maslow called self-transcendence. Jay also shares a simple seven-day challenge to help you put it all into practice. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Your future is waiting, and Walden is here to help you achieve it. https://WaldenU.edu JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:22 The Rumination Trap 04:00 Four Shifts to Break The Cycle 05:48 #1: The Power Of Attention 10:40 #2: Overcoming The Instinct To Isolate 16:20 #3: Finding Meaning By Being Useful 21:35 #4: Self-Transcendence 25:00 The Seven-Day Challenge 26:48 Healing and Growth as a Gift to Others 28:40 Expanding Your World Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices