Stop Telling Me How To Be Trans

Nonbinary is my gender which means yes, I am trans. In this episode, I unpack what that actually means, why nonbinary people belong under the trans umbrella, and why it’s so frustrating to keep having our transness debated even inside the community. If that makes you uncomfortable, maybe ask yourself why

This episode dives into something we don’t talk about enough; how transitioning can shift the way we see our own sexuality. It’s not always about “changing” who you’re attracted to, but how those connections feel once your body, identity, and sense of self evolve.I talk about what it’s like to carry old labels that don’t quite fit anymore, how being with certain people can bring back versions of myself I’ve outgrown, and why sexuality isn’t meant to stay fixed just to make other people comfortable.It’s complicated, but it’s real.

Detransition is real , but the way it’s being used online? That’s a whole different story. In this episode, I’m unpacking the rise of the detrans trend on social media, and how it’s feeding anti-trans narratives that hurt the rest of us.From viral regret videos to cis people feeling suddenly “validated,” this isn’t just about personal stories it’s about the bigger system that turns our existence into debate. I’m not here to deny anyone’s truth, but I am here to ask: who benefits when detransition becomes content?Let’s talk about nuance, accountability, and why regret shouldn’t be weaponized

Why are cis people so weirdly obsessed with trans people’s genitals?In this episode, I’m breaking down the entitlement, the invasive questions, and the bizarre idea that being trans means you owe everyone a tour of your body. From “what were you before?” to “have you had the surgery?” I’m not holding back.Let’s talk about privacy, boundaries, and the fact that gender isn’t defined by what’s in your pants.Trans people are not public property. Jenny’s house is closed for tours. Mind your business.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually feels like to be visible as a trans, nonbinary, femme person.Not the polished version. Not the performative kind of visibility.The real, quiet, layered experience, where sometimes it feels like freedom, and sometimes it feels like exposure.I share what it’s been like to show up while still holding onto parts of myself.How people expect answers, how awareness never really turns off, how I’m still learning what I want to keep just for me.And the way visibility often comes with the unspoken job of educating people who don’t take the time to understand us on their own.This one’s not a guide.It’s just the truth — mine.

In this episode, I’m reflecting on the journey of realizing I was never really in the binary to begin with I just didn’t have the language for it.I talk about how dressing masculine, being called a “masculine woman,” or stud and trying on different versions of myself never quite fit because I wasn’t confused, I was trans and nonbinary all along.I also share five signs I was already off the binary, even before I could name it, and how transitioning didn’t take away my femininity but made me more comfortable in it.If you’ve ever felt like none of the labels made sense , this episode might be the moment you realize you were never the problem.

*Why i needed this podcast*They always have something to say about how I “should” be trans like there’s a rulebook I missed. In this first episode of Off the Binary, I’m getting real about the pressure to perform transness a certain way and pushing back against the gatekeeping that tells us there’s only one right way to exist.Being nonbinary, on T, and femme-presenting isn’t a contradiction it’s me being true to myself. And if you’ve ever been told you’re “doing it wrong” just because you don’t fit someone’s mold, this one’s for you.Let’s talk about it real, raw, and unapologetic.

Gender is fake — but our journey? Very real.I’m May or as you know me as , Lokablakshid and this is OFF THE BINARY a podcast for trans and non-binary folks who still present femme, take hormones, and refuse to shrink.If you’ve ever been told you’re “too pretty to be trans,” or “too femme to be valid,” this space is yours.This trailer is your first taste of what’s coming: real talk, glow-ups, rants, and reclaiming softness in a world that tries to erase us.Hit follow. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.