Anxious, Avoidant & Absolutely Unhinged

Instagram and TikTok have a lot to say about dating — but do they actually help?In this episode, we talk about how viral feminism and monetised dating advice have turned empowerment into absolutes, standards into walls, and dating into a power game. We explore the emotional cost of hyper-vigilance, why nuance doesn’t go viral, and how constantly “protecting your peace” can end up protecting you from connection too.This isn’t about lowering standards or excusing bad behaviour. It’s about unlearning internet dating rules and remembering that real relationships happen offline, with real humans.

From “it didn’t mean anything” to “she’s just a mate,” this episode is all about cheating in all its messy, modern forms. Physical, emotional, accidental-DM, “we were basically over” cheating – we’re unpacking it all.We talk about the lies that come with it, the excuses that somehow still work in the moment, and the way betrayal doesn’t just break your heart – it messes with your head. The shock of finding out. The spiral. The self-doubt. The part where you start questioning yourself more than them.Why do people cheat? Is emotional cheating worse than physical? Can you ever really trust again? And how do you stop carrying someone else’s mistakes into your next relationship?Expect brutal honesty, a few laughs, and a lot of “oh my god, same.”Because if they’re hiding their phone, minimising your feelings, and calling you crazy for asking normal questions…It’s nowt but red flags. 🚩

They vanished without a word… then popped back up like nothing happened.This episode is for everyone who’s ever been ghosted, left on read, or hit with a casual “hey stranger” months (or years) later. We’re unpacking the men who disappear and reappear, why they always come back, and—most importantly—why it still gets us every time.From bored lurkers and cuffing-season spinners to apology tourists and ego-checkers, we break down the different types of resurrected men, the psychology behind ghosting, and what’s really going on when they slide back into your DMs.Why does it feel validating? Why is closure so hard without answers? And how do you actually handle it when a ghost tries to haunt you again?Funny, honest, and a little bit savage—this one’s about taking your power back and realising: a text isn’t character development.

Are you anxious, avoidant… or just a bit emotionally feral? 👀In this episode, we’re unpacking attachment styles and how they show up in modern dating – from overthinking every “k” to disappearing for three days “to clear your head”.We’ll break down anxious, avoidant, secure and chaotic energy, how your childhood sneaks into your love life, and why you keep dating the same person in a different outfit. Expect real talk, red flags, relatable spirals and the reminder that healing is hot.Because it’s not that you’re “too much”… you’re just attached. 💋

Welcome to the era of bare-minimum men and emotionally unavailable situationships — and no, we’re not accepting crumbs anymore. In this episode of Nowt But Red Flags, we’re calling out breadcrumbing, hot-and-cold energy, “I’m just bad at texting” excuses, and every walking red flag who thinks effort is optional.We’re talking talking stages that last longer than relationships, situationships disguised as “vibes,” and why some people would rather send a “u up?” than book an actual date. Expect unapologetic standards, savage observations, and a few home truths for anyone still romanticising potential.Because we don’t want crumbs. We want the bakery, the butter, the knife — and someone who actually shows up.If you’ve ever been ghosted, love-bombed, benched, or emotionally breadcrumbed… pull up a chair. This one’s for the girls who know they’re the whole loaf. 🍞✨

You know the moment. Everything’s going well… and then they say “pacific” instead of “specific”.Instant. Ick.In Episode 2 of Nowt But Red Flags, we’re diving headfirst into the wonderful, irrational, and sometimes brutally honest world of The Ick. From tiny mispronunciations and unsolicited life advice, to habits that shouldn’t matter but somehow absolutely do, we unpack why the ick hits, why it sticks, and whether it’s ever fair to judge someone over something so small.Is the ick a trauma response? A red flag? Or just your intuition doing overtime?And more importantly… can you ever come back from it?Expect confessions, laughs, questionable dating stories, and the reassurance that if you’ve ever been put off by someone breathing too loudly — you’re not alone.🎙️ New episodes weekly🚩 No shame. No judgement. Just red flags.

It’s Episode 1, and we’re starting strong with the red flags we should’ve spotted a mile off.Join two Yorkshire lasses as we swap dating disaster stories, react to your submissions, and play our brand-new game: Red Flag or Nah?If you like your podcasts funny, unfiltered and a bit Northern, welcome aboard.