144. Let Your Children Sand You Down

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!" Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids. We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be. Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too. I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity. All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids. I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids. I mentioned my 21 day YES MOM CHALLENGE available in my membership (access it anytime) to learn the TOOLS of Yes Language. This will decrease the time spent yelling, criticizing, arguing and breaking boundaries.⁠ Sign up here! ⁠Learn from my ⁠free "Yes Mom" content⁠ .

Exciting News: I am making a 100 day marriage journal! Yes, husband AND wife journals that build a positive and appreciative mindset in marriage- leaving behind resentment, negativity and victim mentality. Today as I worked on another round of edits (committed to the strength of each prompt and exercise) I felt stuck, so I called my husband into the office and asked for his feedback. Well, it was a GOOD TIME. Tons of laughs and true understanding about the different way we think. That's when I turned on the mic and hit record. Come share some laughs, insights and appreciation with us as we pour our love over the marriage journals in the making. These journals means so much to me as I started implementing this writing practice in my marriage 18 months ago- now I'm putting the practice in your hands.

There are times that being kind, sincere, patient and truthful feel PHYSICALLY painful. As if a bone in your body may break if you say something kind when you feel angry. What if yelling, perfectionism, people pleasing, lying, criticizing, shaming... could all be sanding off of you?This perspective of "sanding your down" will completely transform the pain of that moment to an incredibly purposeful healing experience for you. This will increase your patience, courage and discipline to do what is right even when it is hard. Here is the link to If Only I Had A Green Nose that I LOVE. Every book in this series is incredible. All my best friend, Tessa Romero

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart. Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts. THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it. All my best, Tessa Romero p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to [email protected] Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way. We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word. Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here! Tessa Romerop.s. I have a journaling email sequence where I send you short writing examples every 2 days to help you stay clear and focused on your writing.

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.I understand this to my core. Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up. This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH. I know that you can, too. The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity. I adore you, I really do. Tessa Romero Connect with me on IG Is my mindset membership a good fit for you?

My workouts continue to look different and feel better over the years. I believe that is because I stay focused on what I want and OPEN to all the ways that can happen. Do you know what you want?Here's my fitness journey from running to weight lifting then to living room workouts and now family workouts in our home gym. It's a journey over the last 10 years and I hope it inspires you to know what you want and WHY you want it. Need clips of positivity? Follow along on Instagram!

Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself. Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day. You'll be told "that's too much." "you shouldn't expect so much from yourself." "it's not realistic." Even if you enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen that reminds you of fresh starts and new days... someone will tell you that the pressure to clean it every night before bed is just too much. This is why understanding the difference between a mentality of Excellence and a mentality of Perfection will set you free. This episode takes a look at why we use perfectionism, how you can practically condition your mind out of it and what it looks like to strive for excellence AND fall short. I hope you enjoy it! Details for my coaching membership where this episode was inspired are right here. Huge thanks to Danielle for being a light and someone we can learn alongside. Tessa Romero

Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children. You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even when it feels really, really difficult. Look at us- breaking cycles. "We are one generation from the "that's permissive" mentality..." "Parenting is not a societal matter. It's personal, it's spiritual and it's emotional, but it's not societal..." - Ralphie JacobsSign up for Ralphie's "Teach Me How" subscription and check out her fantastic IG account for more tools and light.