Overworking as insurance against feeling bad

Send us Fan MailIf you struggle with procrastination, you know how tough it can be to break the habit. That's because most of us try to do it by just forcing ourselves to stop. Not only is that the wrong approach, but this often exacerbates the problem. What actually works is figuring out what is behind your procrastination and, from there, addressing the root cause instead of just trying to skip right over it. Want to learn more about how to do that? Register for the "Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired" webinar next Thursday, June 25th at noon ET by going to restovergrind.com/webinarBook a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailWe don't think about this a lot, but people pleasing often comes with a lot of mental math. We try to figure out the exact right "threshold" at which it's OK to say "no" to a new request. At what number of overtime hours can we legitimately say we're too busy to turn down a project? At what level of stress? That fear of just saying you are at capacity without having an ironclad proof that you deserve it leads to a lot of overworking, stress, and burnout. During the "Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired" webinar on June 25th, I will teach you how to step away from that mental math and start feeling more confident in your instincts of when there is too much on your plate.  To register, go to restovergrind.com/webinar.Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailDo you ever end up editing the same document 20 times before sending it out, because you think "if something is wrong in it, I can at least tell myself I did everything possible to avoid that?"That's overworking as an insurance against feeling bad. And, sadly - it doesn't really work. Listen to this week's ep where I explain why (and what to do instead). To register for the "Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired" webinar, go to restovergrind.com/webinar. Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailThis week's episode delves into the different forms of overfunctioning - overthinking, overworking, overcommitting, living in overwhelm. I talk about what lies behind those patterns and what we can do to get ourselves out of them! Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailThis week, I am sharing a very vulnerable story about how I showed up for myself during an intense health scare. I am hoping this gives you some ideas of things you can do for yourself or someone else in your life who is also having a rough time right now. If you want to talk about anything or have any questions for me, please send me an email: [email protected] a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailThe two main coping strategies I see most often when it comes to managing stress are: 1) ignore the thoughts creating the stress or the feelings associated with it and keep powering through your work for as long as possible or 2) have some coping strategies, but never know if/when they would work. Sadly, neither of those strategies is sustainable or particularly effective. So what works instead? Getting to know the thought patterns that fuel your stress and the way stress shows up in your body. And then learning how to manage both of these in a way that is customized specifically for you!Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailIf you've ever called yourself lazy, you have something in common with Ilya Rozanov. Did I find a convenient angle tied to my work in "Heated Rivalry" just so I can talk about this show that has been consuming my brain? Absolutely! But does the show have a lot to teach us about the origins of our own inner critics and the impact of how we talk to ourselves? Also absolutely! Join me this week as I fangirl really hard about this show, and also (hopefully) provide some insights into what happens when we find ourselves repeating toxic stories that were passed down to us. I also share my thoughts about the representation of Eastern European culture and family dynamics on the show. And also a bunch of other thoughts on why I think this show is just the best! Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailHow much time do you spend doing your work vs. panicking about your work? And when you feel overwhelmed, is it because there is actually too much to do, or because you know you will end up spinning and distracting yourself for hours on end (and will THEN have very little time left for anything else)? Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailTune in to learn about some recent podcast updates this week!Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

Send us Fan MailIf you are worried about body and diet talk during family gatherings around the holidays or are struggling to set boundaries, listen up!  In this episode, Maria shares a presentation on people pleasing and perfectionism, and how these tendencies affect our relationships with food and our bodies. To book 1-1 coaching with Maria, either 1) send her an email at [email protected] or 2) book a free 30-min consult call at restovergrind.com.If you want access to the slides behind the presentation in this episode, send Maria an email!Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: [email protected] my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova