Episode 239: Cumulative Effect

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.Also mentioned in this episode:You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.Also mentioned in this episode:You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

When a marriage experiences challenges, there are a set of predictable positions each person holds that create conflict, disconnection and dysfunction. In this episode I'm taking you inside a concept I first learned about from world-renown couple's therapist Terry Real and sharing with you 4 common relational positions that perpetuate marital issues.Knowing where you and your partner fall on each of these is incredibly important data to have in order to shift things in a more position direction.The positive changes you are wanting to see start with an awareness of exactly where you keep getting stuck, followed by concrete steps to break your cycles, and create new healthier patterns of interacting.As you listen to this episode, identify where you are, and where your partner falls.Then I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to learn more about the productive changes that can be made to move your marriage into one that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling.You can book your call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever considered how giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt can actually benefit YOU?In this episode, I share with you the power concept of Benefit of the Doubt and talk you through why it will help you improve your marriage.If you find yourself assuming and expecting the worst, this podcast will give point you in a more productive direction to experience more of what you want.Also mentioned in this episode:Work with me directly! There are a variety of options available for how you can have my direct help to support you and your spouse in improving your communication, reconnecting, and feeling like a united team.Book a complimentary call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

One of the most important distinctions you need to be able to make in your marriage is what is healthy vs. what is unhealthy.So much unhappiness and conflict arises when one or both of you are operating from a relationally UNhealthy place.In our episode today I'm breaking down the most common unhealthy dynamics I see - both those that I would considered "marital neglect" and those that I would define as "marital aggress". When you clearly understand what is healthy and what is not, you are more able to see yourself, your marriage and your partner more clearly. You understand what's yours to own and work on, vs. the work that belongs to them.You also open the door to breaking some of the dysfunctional patterns you may have grown up with as a child.Also mentioned in this episode:New Masterclass: How to Create a Healthy, Happy Marriage that LASTS. Register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/hhm/Book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Does your spouse sometimes feel like an enemy to you? Do you struggle to get on the same page about simple things? Find yourself always feeling like you are on the defensive with them? Does it feel like they look for ways to make things harder to you to get along?If so, this episode will help you so much.I'm breaking down the concept of the Enemy Mindset and how it's taking a toll on you and your marriage.I also teach you a simple shift in your perspective to go from feeling like enemies to having more accurate and neutral thoughts about your spouse. This opens the door to you feeling better, and then ultimately having better interactions.This episode will offer you relief for the heaviness and hardness of your marriage right now.Also mentioned:You can also work with me directly in one of my coaching programs and learn how to create a happier, more peaceful experience with your partner. I offer couples and individual coaching programs that teach you the mindset, skills and tools to have better communication and rekindle your loving connection. To schedule your call, visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

This one is a vulnerable and personal podcast about my own parenting challenges as my daughter enters her tween years. In several conversations I've had, I noticed the striking parallels between different seasons of the parenting relationship and different seasons of the marital relationship.At the end of the day relationships are relationships are relationships.As I've processed my own shifting dynamics as a parent, there are so many relevant lessons, take aways and helpful approaches that will support you in our own shifting dynamics with your spouse. I walk you through a variety of valuable perspectives to help you navigate difficult moments with greater ease, and insight. I offer some specific tips and strategies you can use to keep yourself grounded and focused on the right things. I also help you understand some of your underlying fears and how to react differently to them.Grab a coffee and let's connect with each other on this important conversation.Mentioned in this Episode: If you're looking for help and support to improve how you and your spouse interact, and are ready to have an easier, more peaceful marriage, I invite you to book a private consultation with me where we will explore how my coaching program can give you the help and guidance you are looking for. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE

How do you lead yourself well in a challenging season of your marriage? What does it look like to still show up as your best, even when you are angry, hurt and upset? What are the standards you commit to holding yourself to, no matter what?In today's podcast episode, we are diving into the topic of self leadership - showing up, doing what's right, with kindness, love and respect. This concept is so important in order for you to create the experiences and positive changes that you want. Your ability to lead yourself well sets the tone for your marriage and can radically shift unhealthy patterns. Today, I build upon two previous conversations I've had on this topic (see my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drchavonne) and you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of it's importance and some tangible next steps to create some positive momentum in the dynamics with your spouse. And if you're ready to create a marriage where it's easy to talk to each other and you feel seen, understood, and on the same page, I invite you to book a private consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we are having a sensitive conversation about the topics of grief, compassion and radical acceptance.So many people struggle with what to do with their unmet expectations. The answer is to grieve.So many people struggle with regret and shame for past choices. The answer is to have compassion.So many people exhaust themselves trying to make their partner or marriage something different than what it is. The answer is to practice radical acceptance.I break down each of these concepts today and show you what they mean and can look like for you in your marriage.For more help and support moving things in a positive direction, I invite you to work with me privately in one of my coaching programs. To learn more and to book your complimentary consultation call, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We all have behaviors and actions we take that keep us from our goals. In marriage, there are likely things you have a habit of doing that keep you from experiencing the healthiest and happiest marriage possible. In this episode of the podcast I break down some of the most common "bad" habits I see couples engage in. Underneath any behavior that keeps you from your goal is an underlying need. We will be discussing how to go beyond "will power" and "discipline" to change the foundation of how you operate so that forming more desirable and helpful habits becomes easier.I walk you through a specific process for understanding "bad" behavior and leave you with a dose of inspiration to help you continue to do the work of creating positive shifts.Also mentioned on this episode:If you want to work with me inside of one of my coaching programs, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation. There you can share exactly what you want to work on, and I'll offer the exact process and support I can offer to help get you there. Take the next step here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/