Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne

If you've ever wondered, what is marriage coaching, and exactly how does it work to improve a marriage, this episode is for you.I share my own personal notes for how I move my clients from conflict and disconnection, to productive conversations and emotional closeness again.There are 10 very specific, concrete skills, shifts, and approaches we take inside my couples coaching programs. As you listen to me describe each one, assess in your own marriage, how well you are doing in these areas.This IS the roadmap. There are no other steps needed to tangibly improve your marriage for good.You'll have a crystal clear picture of what you could expect from coaching, and 10 huge things that will be better in your own marriage.And to grab a spot to work with me now, schedule your initial consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We live in a day and age where having a safety response plan is essential. I'm taking this idea and concept and applying it to your emotional and relational safety as well.In the podcast today we will be diving into the idea of a Trigger Response Plan - a set of steps you take when you are triggered that help you to process what's happening, understand what you need to feel better, and take the appropriate steps to resolve whatever has upset you.Having a process to handle your triggers in marriage, or any relationship will do 6 very specific things for you. I break down each one so that you can truly experience the positive benefits of planning ahead for how you will treat yourself and your spouse when intense issues come up.Also mentioned in this episode: My private coaching program will help give you a step-by-step process of responding to any trigger you face. I provide you with several tools and approaches for handling triggers, managing your emotions and communicating effectively with your spouse so that you can feel happy, and close as a couple more often.To learn more about how private coaching can help you, schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Would you consider yourself a curious person? Do you approach conversations with a desire to learn, and with an open mind?This is a superpower skills to bring to your marriage.In this episode of the podcast, I share with you the difference being more curious can make in the communication with your spouse. If you find that your current discussions are filled with defensiveness and finger pointing, practicing more curiosity will create more understanding and vulnerable conversations.I break down 5 steps to take to become a more curious person, as soon as your next conversation.I'd love to know how this works for you, so please leave a comment and review!Also mentioned in this episode;If you are looking for professional support in your marriage right now, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me. We'll talk about the issues you are facing, and I'll map out a very specific plan and process we will use inside one of my coaching programs. Schedule your call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Are you at a place where the attraction you feel towards your spouse has faded? You're not alone. This is a common issue so many people face.In this episode of the podcast, I am breaking down exactly why this happens. It may seem like your spouse's appearance or their way of being is the reason you can't feel excited and attracted to them. But it's more than that.Tune in to this episode to learn which of the 5 culprits of fading attraction are actually at play for you.And if you are a woman who would love to feel more attracted to her spouse, have more positive thoughts about him, and feel excited and happy to be together, I invite you to join me inside my intimate group coaching program, The Well Made Woman.There you'll get my direct support each week, and be surrounded by a community of other like-minded women who are working towards the same goals. You'll get to experience a safe, non-judgmental, and supportive environment to work through all those questions in your mind. You'll get effective guidance and strategies to help you get unstuck and feel like you are finally moving in the direction you WANT to go.Learn more, and join here: DrChavonne.com/wmw

Anger. It's an emotion so many of us feel. And when I speak to women who are trying to address their anger, it usually involves blaming others. As human beings we are wired to protect ourselves by NOT looking inside to find answers. It's easier to look at what other people are or are not doing.Yet, so often the REAL, CORE reason we feel anger in our lives has a lot to do with what I've defined as internal anger. The part of you that's angry at you.In this episode of the podcast I dive into this concept and topic and provide some very specific examples of what it looks like to operate with internal anger.When you can pinpoint the real and true source of your anger - you can actually shift it and then live a life that feels more authentic, at peace and enjoyable to you.Tune into this episode and uncover where you might be angry at yourself and what to do about it.Also mentioned in this episode: my new Well Made Woman Masterclass happening June 26th at 9pm EST. We will be diving into how to stop the cycle of self-sacrifice and instead start creating and implementing healthy boundaries in your life so you can be more at ease, relaxed and feel better.Details can be found here: https://drchavonne.com/wmwm/

I wanted to make SURE your heard about my new Masterclass on June 26th. It's the Well Made Woman Masterclass and we are diving deep into how to stop self-sacrifice and how to implement healthy boundaries in your relationships and/or marriage.If you find yourself feeling angry and resentful, and are ready to start taking better care of YOU, this is the masterclass that sets that in motion for you.Get all the details, plus register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/wmwm/This one hour will be an amazing gift and act of self love for yourself.I'll be showing you EXACTLY what to do so you can actually implement those boundaries, honor your needs and still maintain a loving connection with those you love.I look forward to seeing you there!

We live in a culture that would have us wear self-sacrifice like a badge of honor.When we speak highly of others, it is usually touting how giving they are, how much they do for others, how they seem to accomplish so much.Rarely do we hear accolades for how well a person took care of themselves, how they set healthy boundaries, how they prioritized their needs and goals.Yet it is the latter that is associated with a greater sense of well-being, fulfillment, and happier, healthier relationships.In today's episode, we're diving into the topic of self sacrifice - why we do it, the hidden benefits that keep us in this cycle, and 3 empowering questions that will radically change your perspective.Also mentioned in this episode:New Masterclass happening this month: Well Made Woman Masterclass: From Self Sacrifice to Healthy Boundaries CLICK HERE FOR DETAILSLooking for my personal help addressing these and other issues creating stress and overwhelm in your life or marriage? Book a complimentary consultation call with me here.

As human beings, we are naturally curious and our mind will always want to ask the questions why. You can ask the question why in a way that empowers you or disempowers you. In this podcast episode I am breaking down why it's so important to ask WHY, and sharing with you a process to help you use this question to motivate you to actually create what you want. This is a powerful tool to shift your mindset, and to help you uncover the internal motivation that will best drive you to create more of what you want in your marriage and in your life.And if you'd like more of my help to do this work effectively, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com

When you experience challenges in your life or marriage it can be easy to become hyper-focused on what's going wrong. Your brain will naturally want to ruminate on how bad things are, how disappointed you are feeling, and how unhappy your situation is making you.However, the more you focus on what's going wrong, the more things go wrong. That's because your thoughts and beliefs direct your actions and responses. In this episode, I'm sharing the power of focusing on what you WANT as the way to create positive shifts. The simple process of The Pivot will help you experience more contentment, happiness and fulfillment. If you'd like to feel better and start having more positive experiences in your marriage and life overall, this podcast episode will give you the perspective and necessary steps to do that.And if you are ready to have me as your coach guiding you through this work week by week, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com

One of the most important skills to develop toward the path of greater fulfillment in life is to be able to honor yourself. Honoring yourself is a beautiful act of self love. It's you standing for you.However, many people have the wrong idea of what this actually looks like.In this episode of the podcast, I break down the 3 mistakes I see happen, that create unnecessary conflict and disconnection in your marriage.I also leave you with 7 specific ways to honor yourself that are effective and come from a place of love and respect, which leads to healthier. happier relationships overall. Also mentioned in this episode: I am accepting new coaching clients. If you're interested in working with me privately or one of my group coaching programs, visit my website at: DrChavonne.com