Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne empowers wives to love being married to their husbands. Each week she delivers powerful content designed to inspire wives to fully accept their husbands, be in control of their own happiness, and create a marriage that truly lights them up inside. Join her here to learn the mindset, skills, and actions every wife needs to create a happy and loving marriage they desire. Your marriage will thrive when you thrive! Let’s commit to loving your marriage again!
Episode 205: How to Not be Petty
23:05Pettiness in marriage. Even as adults, we can go there sometimes. It seems justified, but rarely leads to the type of communication and connection we truly want.In this episode I'm breaking down the mindset of petty behavior, so you can understand why this way of showing up can sometimes be so tempting.I also provide you with specific strategies to overcome any petty tendencies in your marriage and offer you the pathway to a more mature, vulnerable and healthy way of working through your issues.Also mentioned in this episode:Communication Masterclass Series - 5 full days of teaching and coaching to help you and your spouse stop arguing and communicate more easily. Sign up for this free Masterclass Series here: https://drchavonne.com/communication/
Episode 204: Communication FAQs
35:41Whenever I am speaking on the topic of communication in your marriage, there are a series of questions that are commonly asked.This week on the podcast, I'm answering them for you.I dive into the following questions:What to do when your spouse is super defensive What to do when your spouse shuts down and refuses to talk about something How to stop being so angry when you bring things to your spouseWhat to do when your spouse is controlling your communication How to stop finger pointing (policing each other) How to de-escalate an argument Tune in now to get the answers you need.AND join me for my Communication Masterclass Series. This month, I'm hosting 5 Masterclasses all designed to help you and your spouse improve your communication. All the details and free registration can be found here: https://drchavonne.com/communication/ Replays are available if you cannot join us live!
Episode 203: 3 Communication Breakdowns that Lead to Divorce
40:42Your communication is the FOUNDATION of your marriage. If you can't communicate effectively, you can't connect. And if you can't connect you have two people essentially living separate lives.In this episode, I have a special guest, and close coach friend, Julie Danielson join me for this co-podcast. Julie is a DIVORCE coach, yep you read that right. And the insight she shares about the communication breakdowns that were persistent issues in her clients previous marriages is enlightening. In this episode, she shares 3 specific issues in communication, that when they are more the norm than the exception, completely erode the health of the marriage.It is our hope that my sharing this information, you and your spouse can identify what might be breaking down in your own communication and get help NOW, before it's a crisis, or worse, before it's too late. Mentioned in this Episode:Get Over Divorce Podcast with Julie Danielson The Marriage UpGrade - my 6-month couples coaching program to help you break the patterns of communication that damage your marriage, and replace them with positive communication approaches that bring you closer together.
Episode 202: The Power of a Challenge
30:36Today we are talking about challenges - specifically, when you commit to a certain set of actions for a defined period of time in order to achieve an important goal. Challenges can really support you in creating positive change in your life. And at this point in the year, you may have lost sight of a goal, or fallen out of the habits you are looking to change. This episode will give you the boost of motivation you need to get back on track.I'm sharing 3 different types ways to do a challenge, and why they work so well to help you uplevel the way you show up to achieve what you want.Marriage Challenges are an major component of my program, The Marriage UpGrade, and my clients are having massive success changing their patterns and becoming better partners to each other. Tune in now and follow along to create your own challenge. You'll be so proud of who you become and the ways your life and marriage get better.Also mentioned in this episode, The Marriage UpGrade is open for Pre-enrollment this week. This is my 6 month signature group coaching program for couples. If you are ready to stop arguing, recover quickly from conflict, and truly solve some of your long-standing issues for good, this is the program to help you. Learn more and sign up here: The Marriage UpGrade
Episode 201: How to Listen
35:41One of the most commonly sited skills couples mention needing improvement in is LISTENING. They can recognize their mutual inability to truly listen to understand each other, and notice how often they are listening to PROVE their point. In this episode of the podcast, we are diving into why this happens, and the specific steps you can take to become a better listener in your marriage.When you both are practicing this work, you elevate your conversations and are able to be more productive and effective as a team. Making decisions becomes so much easier. Expressing yourself and having your needs heard and understood becomes the new way of being.I'm sharing with you the 5 most important steps to take so that you can increase your skill and have better communication in your marriage.Also mentioned in this episode:There are several ways I can support you in doing this work, having better communication, and improving the overall quality of your marriage. To learn about all your options for working with me directly, visit my website: drchavonne.com
Episode 200: What's Normal
36:27We are tackling a tough topic today. What's normal? It's a question I get asked so often and while what's normal is in many ways subjective. However, in my conversations with many couples and individuals, there are some common things I see happening (or hear about happening) that are outside the normal range of what's healthy in a relationship.In this episode, I break down the 5 most common not normal vs. normal behaviors and ways of interacting. It is my hope that after listening, you have a better idea of things that can be improved, vs things that HAVE to improve in order for your marriage to be healthy, and ultimately thriving. Let me know what you take away and how this conversation helps you in getting the reality check you may need today.Also mentioned in this episode:The Fresh Start Challenge - my 5-day video training series to help you reset your marriage, make important shifts, and set your communication and connection in a much better direction. It's free. Learn more and sign up here: https://drchavonne.com/fresh-start-2024/Coaching with me - to learn about your options for private, individual, couple, and group coaching programs to help you feel better and create a better marriage, visit my website: drchavonne.com
Episode 199: Prepared for Anything
25:50One of the reasons couples have a hard time communicating is because they are not appropriately prepared for all the directions a conversation can go.Often people come to me wanting to know how to handle certain situations that have happened and not gone well.The key is to learn from what went wrong and to focus your energy on the most important aspects of creating a positive interaction.Being prepared for anything requires you spend some time on the front end making decisions for how you will show up, rather than reacting negatively and then having to spend MORE time in frustration or trying to repair a broken connection.In this podcast episode, I give you the process for how to be prepared for anything - any conversation, and any interaction with your partner.There is a mindset you must adopt in addition to practical steps to take.Tune in now to dive into both.Mentioned in this episode: If you are looking for help to apply any of the skills we discussed, and are ready to improve your marriage, I invite you to work with me directly in one of my individual, group, private, or couples coaching programs. To learn more, visit DrChavonne.com
Episode 198: Doing things Differently
34:04Happy Happy New Year! This podcast episode is a great conversation to have with yourself if you have ANYTHING in your life or marriage you want to be different in 2024.In it, I break down the 5 things you want to consider and think about in order to bring about lasting positive change. I also share some of the things I am doing differently, and an important goal I have for my own life this year.The freshness of a new year brings so many possibilities for newness. Tune in now to set yourself up for success.Also mentioned in this episode:Ready For Change Workshop, happening January 2nd and 9pm EST. Join me for this hands-on workshop where I'll walk you through a step-by-step process to create positive changes in your life and/or marriage this year. It's free to join and you can register here: https://drchavonne.com/change/
Episode 197: Ready for Change
27:19It's that time of year! That interesting week between Christmas and the New Year.It's just quiet enough to reflect on what 2023 has been like, while also looking ahead to what you want in 2024.In this podcast episode, I give you the opportunity to assess for yourself, if you are truly ready for change.One of the reasons people find themselves stuck with the same issues year after year is because they embark on change in idea only. They have not truly determined that they are ready to take on all that making significant change requires.I also offer a process to get ready for change, and the 5 steps to actually making positive changes that last. Tune in now to see where you land.Also mentioned in this episode: Ready for Change Masterclass - my all new and very hands-on workshop where I walk you through a process to reflect on 2023 and set yourself up to have a year of positive and long-lasting changes. Learn more and register here: https://drchavonne.com/change/
Episode 196: Your Childhood and Your Marriage (Part II)
35:02Today we are continuing to connect the dots between your childhood and your marriage.Your formative years growing up in your family set the stage for so much about how you operate in relationships. This is the case for both you AND your spouse.Understanding why you each think, react, and operate in various ways is so important.When you can trace much of those things back to childhood, the issues you face become less personal. You have a perspective of greater understanding. That awareness and understanding opens the door to empowered CHOICE.Because no matter what you learned in childhood, you can UNLEARN is now as an adult seeking to live a happy, fulfilling life and marriage.In this episode, I break down 5 of the most important connections to make between your childhood upbringing and your marriage.Tune in to learn more about the awareness you need, and the shifts you can make now to chart a new and better pathway for yourself and your marriage overall.Also mentioned in this episode: There are several ways you can get my help and guidance to move yourself forward from any childhood experiences and learned ways of being that don't serve you now and how you want your life to be. To learn more about working with me as a couple, or as an individual woman, visit my website: DrChavonne.com