Why Men Don’t Open Up These Days... | Matt Monday

I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . . . won’t go there.” Sound familiar?Here’s the thing: I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve been the man who shut down, and I’ve been lucky enough to experience the moment that cracked me open. This episode is personal. I’m telling you two stories: one where vulnerability went horribly wrong, and one where it literally led to my marriage. If you want to understand what’s really happening when someone won’t open up—and what to do about it—you can’t miss this.---►► Get Out of Situationship Limbo with Someone and Into Exclusivity. Download Your Free Video Training at LeaveLimbo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for someone? When we carry that fear, we tend to overcorrect. We try to impress. We hide parts of ourselves. We delay vulnerability. And in doing so, we block the very connection we want.In this episode, Matthew shares how to stop looking at yourself through a lens of self-judgment and self-loathing, and instead develop real self-compassion and self-empowerment. You’ll learn how to reveal vulnerability in a healthy, attractive way, build core confidence, and create relationships rooted in acceptance rather than fear.If you’ve ever worried that someone wouldn’t love the “real“ you, this episode will change the way you see yourself.---►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective? Matthew’s weekly newsletter dives into insights that transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com►► 🌍 Get an exclusive 15% discount on Saily data plans when you use code LOVELIFE at checkout! Download the Saily app or go to saily.com/lovelife ⛵ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating can burn you out . . . especially when you’ve been rejected, ghosted, or stuck in that exhausting loop where nothing ever turns into something real. In Part 2 of my conversation with clinical psychologist Guy Winch, we get into how to stop showing up in “don’t mess this up!” mode, how to shift from avoiding loss to actually going for connection, and how to date in a way that protects your energy.We also tackle modern dating burnout—why it turns into cynicism, how to spot the patterns keeping you stuck, the “coffee date” debate, the “burned haystack” method, and real red flags vs. over-filtering.---------►► Grab your copy of Dr. Guy Winch’s new book Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life at guywinch.com/books/mind-over-grind ►► 🌍 Get an exclusive 15% discount on Saily data plans when you use code LOVELIFE at checkout! Download the Saily app or go to saily.com/lovelife ⛵►► Spark joy for you and your loved ones this year. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code LOVELIFE for up to 20% off.►► Get your free From Casual to Committed training at GetCommitment.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re ghosted, the silence feels intensely personal. In this new episode, I'm breaking down what’s really going on when someone ghosts: why it happens at different stages, and how to respond without spiraling or chasing someone who’s already shown you where you stand.If you’re dealing with silence from someone right now, this will help you make sense of it and decide what to do next. Stay till the end for the perspective that will give you back your power and remind you of your worth.---►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com►► 🌍 Get an exclusive 15% discount on Saily data plans when you use code LOVELIFE at checkout! Download the Saily app or go to saily.com/lovelife ⛵ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone wants to stand out on a first date… especially when it feels like the person across from you has endless options. But the real way to become unforgettable isn’t performing, impressing, or saying the “right” thing—it’s creating genuine connection.In this episode, Matthew shares three powerful techniques that instantly make your conversations feel more memorable. If you’ve ever walked away from a date wondering “Did I do enough?”… this episode will help you show up with confidence, presence, and real emotional impact.---►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most important relationships in your life—with others, with yourself, and with life itself. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Work has a way of following us home—replaying that one frustrating meeting, stealing our attention from the people we love, and turning Sunday night into a countdown to stress. In this conversation with psychologist Guy Winch, we talk about why switching off feels so hard, and what actually helps when work starts to take over your life.We get practical about breaking rumination, handling that end-of-weekend dread, protecting your energy, and staying in that “just enough stress” zone where you can still function without burning out. This is the first half of a two-part conversation. In this one, we’re focused on your professional life; next week, we’ll dive into burnout in your love life.---►► Preorder your copy of Dr. Guy Winch’s new book Mind Over Grind (which will arrive in bookstores on Feb. 10) at guywinch.com/books/mind-over-grind►► Head to CozyEarth.com before February 8 and use my code LOVELIFEBOGO to get PJs for you and someone you love.►► Ask me anything at AskMH.com—try it for free to get instant answers now via voice or text. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If dating apps have left you feeling judged, discouraged, or just tired of the whole process, this video is for you. A lot of the advice we hear sounds helpful on the surface, but when it’s applied the wrong way, it can actually leave you feeling more stuck, not more hopeful.In this episode, I share a more human way to find love offline, even if you’re introverted, busy, or over forcing yourself to “try harder.” These are small, realistic shifts that keep you in the game without burning you out.---►► Find the Beautiful & LASTING Relationship You Want. Watch My Masterclass, From Casual to Committed for FREE at GetCommitment.com►► If finding love really matters to you this year, the Year of Love replay will give you a calmer, clearer way to think about what actually moves the needle. You can still watch it (for a limited time!) at MHYearOfLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever had an insecurity, a jealousy, or something that hurt you or made you feel threatened, but you didn’t know the right way to bring it up? Of course you have. We all have. Maybe you’re feeling that right now. It can be terrifying, can’t it?Well, here’s the good news . . . being vulnerable can actually create a deeper bond with someone, as well as reveal if they’re the right person for you in the first place. The bad news is that if we’re not careful, constructive vulnerability can mutate into what I call “dumping.”This episode will reveal what you can do if you’re worried you’ve fallen into this trap, or are about to . . .---►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most important relationships in your life—with others, with yourself, and with life itself. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week’s episode started as a quick 12-minute video about becoming a new dad . . . and became something way more raw. In it, Matthew talks about what surprised him, what scared him, and what fatherhood actually feels like in real time—messy routines, intense emotions, and a vulnerability he didn’t see coming.But this podcast isn’t just about having a baby. It’s about responsibility without resentment, how choosing the right partner suddenly matters in a completely different way, and that strange shift that happens when your “highest self” stops being an abstract idea and becomes someone you actually want to make proud.If you’ve ever felt the weight of a big life decision—or the pressure to get it all right—this one’s for you.---►► If finding love really matters to you this year, the Year of Love replay will give you a calmer, clearer way to think about what actually moves the needle. You can still watch it (for a limited time!) at MHYearOfLove.com►► For Love Life listeners, Cure is offering 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting curehydration.com/LOVELIFE and using promo code LOVELIFE at checkout! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Modern dating can mess with your head. You finally meet someone you like . . . and suddenly the pressure kicks in. You start overthinking texts, softening your boundaries, and trying to “win” someone instead of just being yourself.If you’ve ever caught yourself getting attached too fast or reading into every little signal, today’s new video will change the game. You’ll learn how to stay grounded, protect your confidence, and find the sweet spot between showing interest and keeping your self-respect.---►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.