I Wanted To Be The Safe Man - with Sébastien

Sébastien has been part of my workshops for years, and over time also became one of my assistants.In this conversation, he shares very openly about the journey from numbness, over-functioning, and “dead bedroom” dynamics… towards something much more honest and alive.We talk about trying to be good, safe, considerate; and how easy it is to slowly disappear a bit in the process.About shame. Desire. Erections. Messy parts. People-pleasing. And the strange relief that can come when you stop trying to only be the “good” version of yourself.There’s a lot of humanity in this episode.I really enjoyed how unpolished, self-aware, and real Sebastien allowed himself to be throughout the conversation. His inspiring to bring all our messy parts with us!.🔗 Stay Connected: To follow Sébastien's journey, find his website: http://demiddenweg.be/; or follow him on socials: @demiddenwegYou can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠⁠ or on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.If this episode resonates, feel free to share it, send it to someone, or reach out. It really supports the podcast.

On control, trust, and staying in relationshipWhat if life isn’t something to control… but something you’re in relationship with?In this solo episode, I explore what it means to let life do you. Not just in the moments that feel good, but also when things are messy, uncomfortable, or out of your control.We move beyond sensual awareness and into something deeper:How do you stay in contact with yourself when life doesn’t feel like a choice?I weave together perspectives from embodiment, conscious relating, and kink, including the idea of consensual non-consent, to explore how we relate to intensity, trust, and the unknown.It is not about bypassing, forcing positivity, or enjoying suffering.It’s about staying present, taking responsibility where you can, and experimenting with trust where you can’t.In this episode, I touch on:– staying in relationship with life (instead of fixing or resisting)– intensity and edges– the patterns we unconsciously return to– trust, surrender, and the question: can I stay open even when I don’t understand?– translating relational and sexual agreements into how we move through lifeYou’ll hear a different take on surrender. Not as something passive, but something deeply relational..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠⁠ or on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.If this episode resonates, feel free to share it, send it to someone, or reach out. It really supports the podcast.

What happens when 'conscious' or spiritual language becomes a shield?In this solo episode, I explore a subtle dynamic I’ve seen again and again in intimacy-oriented, embodiment, and spiritual communities: what I call spiritual hierarchy. It's the moment when intuition, inner experience, or emotional fluency starts being used to override someone else’s reality.This episode is for those who are inside these spaces… and also for those who have stayed away from them, stepped out, or felt disappointed - precisely because something didn’t feel right, even when the language sounded beautiful.We talk about how empathic people can easily end up doubting themselves in these environments, how vulnerability can be met with care or quietly turned into a tool for power, and why inner experience is meaningful… but not automatically authority.This is not about cynicism or diagnosing others. It’s about discernment. It’s about mutuality. And it’s about staying connected to your own signals, especially in spaces that speak the language of healing.I also share parts of my own journey from naive compassion to wiser empathy: empathy with boundaries, with choice, and with self-trust.If you’ve ever felt confused after a “conscious” conversation, or wondered whether your discomfort was actually intelligence… this one is for you..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠ or on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.📢 We’d Love to Hear from you! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others or writing us. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

What happens when you step into a group not knowing what to expect — and end up feeling more seen than you have in years?In this episode, I’m joined by Lin and Annabelle — two women who joined The Liberation Journey, and found unexpected depth, truth, and intimacy.We talk about: - the power of slowing down - how connection builds through presence, not pressure - what safety really means in a group setting - and why this kind of space brings out something real that’s hard to find elsewhere.This one is soft, surprising, and full of the kind of honesty that doesn't shout, but hums quietly through the body.If you’ve ever longed to feel more yourself around others — have a listen..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠⁠ or on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.The next Liberation Journey is starting January 2026 in Sweden, Dalarna.📢 We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others or writing us. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

What if safety isn’t about being alone in nature, but about feeling yourself even among others?In this episode, Justyna shares her experience of The Liberation Journey — finding a deep sense of joy, pleasure, and ease while surrounded by people.We talk about what it means to: stay connected to yourself while in a group feel your impact and importance among othersexperience safety and pleasure through subtle touch and shared aliveness and bring that awareness into everyday life — not just the workshop space.Justyna’s story is full of tender courage, rebellion, and intuitive truth. She speaks about following her body’s yes, trusting her intuition over logic, and experimenting with honesty and intimacy — both inside and outside the workshop field.If you’ve ever longed to feel more yourself in connection, this one will touch you deeply..Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠ or on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.The next Liberation Journey is starting January 2026 in Sweden, Dalarna.We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others or writing us. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

Kris said he wasn’t even in chapter one yet — still writing the prologue. He hadn’t had a sexual relationship before joining the Liberation Journey. Intimacy felt scary. But something in him still said yes.This conversation is about what that opened in him — and what it didn’t. It’s not about “finally arriving” or having it all figured out. It’s about the quiet, ongoing work of letting yourself want more, even when it feels too late or too far away.We speak about fear, loneliness, longing, and what happens when you dare to be seen just a little bit more than before. About the tension between protecting yourself and saying Yes to life.At its core, this is an episode about readiness — and how sometimes, you’re never truly ready, but you show up anyway..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at www.intimate-breath.com⁠ or on ⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.The next Liberation Journey is starting January 2026 in Sweden, Dalarna.📢 We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others or writing us. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

In a world addicted to sides, speed, and certainty, what happens when we slow down and get intimate with the discomfort instead?In this episode, I explore how we-versus-them dynamics — from COVID debates to political leaders, from war to gender and identity — mirror the same parts of ourselves we often reject. With a trauma-informed, body-led lens, I invite you to move beyond dehumanization and into deeper presence, where complexity and curiosity can coexist.This isn’t about agreeing. It’s about staying human. It’s about feeling your feet on the ground when the world feels divided. It’s about relating — even when it’s hard.If you’ve ever longed for a culture that chooses connection over polarization, and presence over performance — this one’s for you.Inside this episode:- How we internalize ‘us vs. them’ thinking — and how to interrupt it- Why nervous system awareness matters in political and relational conflict- What embodiment has to do with culture change- How to hold nuance without collapsing into silence or blame- A call to stay relational — even in disagreementLet this episode be a breath. A reckoning. A return..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at www.intimate-breath.com or on Instagram⁠ and Facebook⁠: @intimatebreath.📢 We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

What if healing could be playful? What if we stopped whispering about sexuality and started talking — honestly — about power, pleasure, and shame?In this episode, I sit down with Minne Marlo — coach, educator, and founder of 'MeerDanSeks' — for a deep and disarming conversation about conscious sex work, power dynamics, and how we meet our most intimate edges with care.This is a conversation full of nuance and depth, where we explore the world of intentional play: where taboo can become a doorway to healing, and where fantasy isn’t just entertainment, but often a reflection of something real, tender, or long-hidden. This episode isn’t here to promote anything — it’s here to challenge your assumptions and open a few doors. To perspectives, to permission, and to the idea that intimacy and care can be part of real, structured support.Note: This podcast is for discussion and reflection purposes only. It does not promote or sell services..🔗 To connect with Minne: Website: meerdanseks.beInstagram: @meerdanseks.🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at ⁠www.intimate-breath.com⁠ or on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠: @intimatebreath.📢 We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others or writing us. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

You keep showing up. You want to connect. But somehow, it keeps happening: you’re the one left out. Not chosen. Not seen. Not touched. Again.In this solo episode, I dive into one of the hardest patterns I witness in group spaces — and know personally: the rejection loop. A painful cycle that has nothing to do with how attractive, interesting, or "good" you are — and everything to do with what your body has learned to expect.If you've ever told yourself _“maybe I’m just not lovable”_ — or shaped your whole way of being around _trying not to be rejected_ — this one's for you.We'll talk about:- What rejection has to do with shame and survival fear- How trauma, attachment, and the nervous system silently broadcast your past - The many sneaky ways the rejection loop expresses itself (you’ll likely recognize yourself) - And: what to do if you’re tired of trying to be “enough” just to be includedI’m sharing this not just as someone who’s studied this for years — but as someone who’s lived it. There’s a way through. And it doesn’t start with fixing your appearance, your energy, or your social skills.It starts with no longer believing that being rejected means there’s something wrong with you.Listen in. Let's befriend it. Let’s untangle the loop — together..🔗 Stay Connected: You can follow my journey and explore more about intimacy and sexuality at www.intimate-breath.com or on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠Facebook⁠: @intimatebreath.📢 We’d Love to Hear from You! If this episode touches or inspires you, please consider sharing it with others. Your support not only helps spread the word but also encourages us to keep creating content that matters.

Turns out, casual sex isn’t always that casual… and what triggers us might just teach us how to love better.In this lively and layered conversation, Reid Mihalko and I explore some of the more uncomfortable (and wildly insightful) corners of relating. We talk about casual sex, deep care, and the surprising wisdom in the complaints our lovers throw our way.Reid offers real-life tools and playful insights on how to navigate complexity in relationships — not for the sake of drama, but for the sake of depth, growth, and leaving the campsite better than you found it.We also dive into:What makes casual sex not so casualHow to learn from how people react to youWhy being "too much" might actually be your magicWhat to do when things get complicated (and they always do)Bring your curiosity, your complexity, and your honesty.Links of Reid that were mentioned in the episode:More on his accountability process: ⁠https://reidaboutsex.com/informing-you-about-my-accountability-process/⁠To find out about the 'Casual Sex Protocol': https://courses.reidaboutsex.com/what-are-the-casual-sex-protocols .🔗 Stay ConnectedFind upcoming workshops and offerings at ⁠intimate-breath.com⁠Follow on Instagram & Facebook: @intimatebreath📢 We’d love to hear from you! If this episode resonates, share it with a friend. Your support helps us grow and keep creating meaningful conversations on intimacy, embodiment, and connection.Thanks for listening,Lore