Self-Care: How to Validate Yourself

What if the most important form of self-care has nothing to do with bubble baths or vacations? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most overlooked dimensions of true self-care: learning to validate yourself. While external self-care has its place, she explains that no amount of outside validation from a partner, a parent, a boss, or social media can heal the wound of self-invalidation. That healing only happens from the inside. Dr. Paul walks through why so many people grow up dependent on others to reflect their worth, what self-validation actually means (and what it does not), and how learning to see, hear, and honor your own inner experience transforms not just your relationship with yourself but with everyone around you. She shares practical ways to begin practicing self-validation, including how to name your feelings with compassion, mirror your soul's qualities back to yourself, and stop outsourcing your emotional authority to others. Come explore the deeper meaning of self-care in Self-Care: How to Validate Yourself and begin building the kind of inner safety that no one else can take away. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

Are you doing inner child work but still feeling stuck, anxious, or emotionally overwhelmed? In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Margaret Paul addresses one of the most important and most misunderstood topics in the healing space: what inner child work actually is, and the common mistakes that can inadvertently reinforce the very wounds you are trying to heal. Dr. Paul begins by drawing a crucial distinction between the soulful inner child and the wounded self that developed in response to fear and false beliefs, and walks through the key mistakes she sees again and again: giving the wounded child too much power, confusing love with indulgence, using inner child work to avoid adult responsibility, staying focused on pain without bringing in love and guidance, trying to fix the inner child rather than develop the loving adult, and attempting this work without a connection to something greater than the ego. Come explore what real, effective inner child work looks like here on the Inner Bonding podcast! Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

How do you tell the difference between a true spiritual teacher and someone who is subtly using you? In this timely and thought-provoking episode, Dr. Margaret Paul tackles a topic that is as widespread as it is rarely addressed: spiritual deception. Not the obvious, overt kind — but the subtle kind, where false prophets speak kindly, share genuine insight, and still manage to keep you dependent, doubtful, and disconnected from your own inner authority. Dr. Paul explains that a false prophet is not defined by what they say, but by their intent. She walks through the key red flags to watch for, the qualities that distinguish true spiritual teachers from those seeking power, and why the most important protection is a strong connection to your own inner and higher knowing.  Come explore how to develop discernment, strengthen your loving adult, and learn to trust truth over charm in Discerning False Prophets here on the Inner Bonding podcast.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

What does it actually mean to take emotional responsibility — and why do so many of us get it wrong? In this illuminating episode, Dr. Margaret Paul cuts through the confusion around one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth. She explains why emotional responsibility is not self-blame and certainly not a burden. True emotional responsibility is an act of love — toward yourself and toward the inner child who carries your deepest feelings and needs your compassionate presence. Dr. Paul explores how the wounded self distorts emotional responsibility into shame, how fear keeps us from showing up for our own feelings, and what it looks like to become the loving, compassionate adult your inner child has always needed. She also draws a powerful distinction between self-blame, which comes from fear, and true responsibility, which comes from love — and shows how that shift alone can begin to transform your inner world. Come explore Emotional Responsibility and What It Really Means, and begin the journey toward genuine emotional freedom, deeper relationships, and a more grounded, peaceful self.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

Have you ever felt yourself slowly disappearing in a relationship? In this deeply moving episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most common — and most overlooked — blocks to true intimacy: self-abandonment. She unpacks why so many of us lose our voice, our needs, and our sense of self in relationships, and what it truly takes to love deeply without betraying yourself. Dr. Paul guides us through the critical difference between love and attachment, how fear-based relating leads to resentment and emptiness, and why two whole, self-connected people are the foundation of any genuinely loving relationship. She also shares how the Inner Bonding process helps you develop the loving adult within — so you can show up honestly, set loving limits, and experience the kind of closeness that doesn't come at the cost of who you are. Come explore what it means to love without losing yourself in How to Create Loving Relationships Without Losing Yourself, and begin building the intimacy you've always wanted — from the inside out.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

How often do you say an affirmation, but don’t follow it with action? In this powerful episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how to create loving affirmations that truly support the outcomes we desire, and how taking aligned, loving action is essential to manifesting our gifts and purpose. She dives into how we define our sense of worth, why our efforts matter more than outcomes, and how our intentions shape the quality of our relationships. As loving actions create loving feelings, she reminds us that the wounded self often drives false beliefs. By returning to our personal power and emotional freedom, we can begin to make our affirmations genuinely work for us.   Come explore how to align your inner voice with meaningful action in Why Affirmations Might Fail Without Inner Bonding, and begin showing up for yourself in a way that truly supports your growth.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/    Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

With practice, you can become a loving adult father to yourself, even if you never had one. In today’s episode, Dr. Margaret Paul dives into how the “loving adult father” shows up in our lives, why we need both the nurturing energy of an inner mother and the action-oriented guidance of an inner father, and how intentional self-compassion becomes the catalyst for real transformation. Because without that inner loving father, the inner child can feel unseen and abandoned. But when you choose to lead yourself with love, you create space for deeper peace, stability, and joy in every area of your life. Listen in as we explore how real growth isn’t just about awareness — it’s about choosing loving actions, setting boundaries that honor your worth, and becoming the steady, supportive presence you’ve always needed.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/    Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

What makes your soul and your inner child truly come alive? Many spend their lives seeking approval or safety, yet few ask the one question that opens the door to a meaningful life: What brings me joy to offer the planet? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how childhood conditioning and "survival mode" bury our natural aliveness under a mountain of obligation and numbness. Learn how to shift from the ego-wounded self to the inspired expression of your soul’s true blueprint. If you’re ready to stop going through the motions and reconnect with your purpose, this conversation offers the path back to your authentic self. Ready to reclaim your spark? Tune in to the full episode of Inner Child: What Makes You Come Alive? to dive deep into the Inner Bonding process and subscribe for weekly wisdom on self-healing. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/    Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/  

Are you aware of how deeply your thoughts shape your relationships? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how our thoughts directly influence our actions, our relationships, and the decisions we make. She unpacks how more supportive, compassionate thoughts can help us feel grounded and authentic, how our thinking shapes our access to inner and spiritual guidance, and why awareness and intentionality are powerful tools for shifting from a controlling mindset to a loving one. The wounded self often speaks with urgency and fear—but it does not reflect the full truth of who you are. The loving adult speaks with clarity, steadiness, and compassion, and reflects your inherent worth. Tune in as we explore how to shift from the wounded self into the loving adult—so you can show up in your life and relationships with greater trust, clarity, and self-worth.   Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!   About Dr. Margaret Paul   Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?   Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.   Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Is your kindness truly coming from love… or from fear? Many of us believe we are being kind when we are actually being “nice” to avoid rejection, conflict, or disapproval. But this form of niceness often leads to self-abandonment—saying yes when we mean no, hiding our truth, and overriding our needs to keep the peace. In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores the difference between ego-driven niceness and authentic kindness that comes from the Loving Adult. Discover how true kindness does not require you to betray yourself, and how it becomes a powerful force for emotional healing, nervous system regulation, and deeper connection. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, setting boundaries, or being kind without losing yourself, this conversation will help you reconnect with your truth and experience kindness as strength—not weakness. Join our community of Loving Adults—tune in to the full episode and continue your healing journey. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review. About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Join the Love Yourself: A 3–Day At-Home IB Experience: https://innerbondinghub.com/sp/self-love/  Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/    Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/ #InnerBonding #Kindness #LoveYourself